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Come join America's largest LGBTQ+ Social Events Meetup!

The "Non-Scene" Friends is a place for the LGBTQ+ community to hang out in the Greater Boston Area, make friends, explore the city, and have fun doing a wide variety of activities typically separate from the gay bar "scene." We'd love for you to join the group and introduce yourself! We are welcome people of all ages(18+), genders, and sexual orientations. Transgender people are encouraged to join!

We have both online and in-person meetups (though may have a pause for in-person events during omicron). Online socials include speed-dating, speed friending, Queeraoke, and virtual game nights. Past in-person meetups include:

  • Eating Out
  • Standup/Improv
  • Escape Rooms
  • Board Games
  • Movies
  • Strawberry Picking
  • Hiking
  • Laser Tag
  • Ice Cream
  • And more!

We serve the Greater Boston area! We go by the definition of Greater Boston as defined by the Metropolitan Area Planning Council.

Ways you can help: If there is an event you'd like to see, talk to an organizer to try in make it happen! Even better, join the group as an event host. If you'd like to pitch in to keep the group going you can do so here. Contributors who make a recurring donation of at least $5 a month get a special "Non-Scene Sustaining Member " label on their meetup profile.

RSVP Policy:
Please keep your RSVPs current. People who fail to keep their RSVPs current twice, and at least half of the time may moved to the waitlist for certain events if there are space constraints.

Conduct Policy:
Be good! Members are expected to contribute to the positive energy of the group and strive to promote a drama-free environment. Be kind and courteous to others and respect people’s differences. We support members who need a shoulder to lean on or vent in times of distress, however, members who systematically disrupt or negatively impact the social well-being of the group will be asked to change their behavior, or if necessary be asked to leave the group. Gossip or bad-mouthing of other members, when intended to harm their reputation, is not acceptable behavior. This Meetup has a zero-tolerance policy for harassment of any kind. If you have any concerns, please report them to Organizer Max, and he will work to take appropriate action. Also please visit the tools in this link.

If you are concerned that organizer Max has acted improperly you can contact Amanda who oversees our fiscal sponsorship at amanda@thenopi.org

Solicitation Policy
Any solicitations must be made directly to the organizer. No solicitations shall be directed towards the general membership.

Discussion Board Policy:
If you have not been to an event in the past 12 months your post may be deleted at the discretion of the organizer. You can comment responding to a post regardless of whether or not you attended an event as long as the response is germane to the original post. Use common sense

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This group is operated by The "Non-Scene" Friends, a program of NOPI - Nonprofit Incubator (7/6/22)

The "Non-Scene" Friends (LGBTQ+) is fiscally sponsored by NOPI - Nonprofit Incubator, a program of NOPI INC, a Massachusetts nonprofit corporation, and 501(c)(3) organization, EIN 81-5089505. Learn more at https://thenopi.org.

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