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#1 Shyness, Anxiety and Mental Health Meetup group in the world (http://www.meetup.com/topics/mental-illness/)!



As featured by BBC Two and BBC Wales on their incredible documentary, "Stand Up to Shyness", starring award-winning Welsh comedian Rhod Gilbert (http://www.rhodgilbertcomedian.com/). This documentary explored shyness and social anxiety in an informative, sensitive and meaningful way, with an emphasis on embracing who you are. To watch it, please check it out on BBC iPlayer (https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer).

Special thanks to:

Director - Mei Williams

Producer - Sally Lisk-Lewis

Producer - Gwenllian Hughes

Listen to Rhod talking further about his participation in The London Shyness Social Group on BBC Radio 5 live (http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09nvp8x), where he shares his own experiences of living with shyness and anxiety.

You can hear more about us - directly from our members - at Resonance FM (https://resonancefm.com/) on The Club (https://resonancefm.com/programmes/5866929850000b4d9d000001). In this series, Ben Davis (https://twitter.com/bendavis999) spends time with many different communities to explore contemporary subcultures in the UK.


This is a peer-led social and support group for people to meet in London. Events include afternoon coffee, self-development workshops, karaoke, daytrips, regular dinners, weekly support groups and a wide variety of other Meetups, including women-only events and LGBTQ+ events.

We are an incredibly diverse group: We embrace members of all ages (18 and above), backgrounds, beliefs, circumstances and experiences. We aim to be an inclusive community for everyone, which is reflected in our range of events and core values as a group.

Steve Light originally set up this group in 2010 to help people who are lonely, shy, socially anxious, have low self-esteem etc (hence members being called 'SociaLights'). Since 2013, I have been running this group in his place, which has been a great honour. What began as a bi-weekly pub social has expanded in the last few years beyond imagination.

This is a welcoming, safe place where you can meet like-minded people, receive support and make new friends, all in a social setting. We are not only the largest mental health Meetup community in the world, we are also ranked as the biggest shyness and social anxiety Meetup group (http://www.meetup.com/topics/shy/) too.

Please don't be intimidated by this: In some Meetups, larger groups are split. Additionally, events specifically for small groups take place. Hosts are always happy to deal with any queries you may have and ensure that you are in a comfortable space.
We strive to be a warm and close community, and always will, regardless of group size!

Being shy is not a necessity to join us. The only things you need are an open mind, an open heart and a desire for human company. :)

Some Meetups will be structured so that people can take it in turns to talk, other Meetups will be general and social. Rest assured, you will be around a warm group of people who care and understand.

If you have any questions or would like to talk, feel free to email me on leadinglightsocial(at)outlook(dot)com.

To join, simply click on the "Join this group" button and answer our security question. Your request will be approved as soon as possible: Please note that it might not be immediate, as it depends on when I am online to accept requests.
By becoming a member, you agree to our Group Rules and Banning Procedure (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/Group_Rules_and_Banning_Procedure/) and Legal Disclaimer and Release of Liability (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/Legal_Disclaimer_and_Release_of_Liability/). If you don't agree to these terms, please do not join this Meetup Group. Thank you.

Please note that this is a Private Group: This means that non-members cannot see who is in this group, the discussions or any Meetup details (aside from the title, date, time and how many people are attending). This measure is in place to protect the privacy and security of everyone in the group.

If you have any complaint(s) or concern(s) to report, have a look at our Complaints Procedure (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/Complaints_Procedure/).

Feel free to follow us on Twitter (https://twitter.com/LondonShynessSo) or YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-2lPg1Qsd9Ia4i5sk_a-2Q), if you wish to keep in touch through social media!

We facilitate a weekly support group on Mondays in Central London. In addition, we have Tea & Talk on a couple of Sundays each month, where we combine a simple cup of tea with peer-to-peer support in a relaxed environment.

Please remember that this is a peer run Meetup group. If you require more professional help and support, I have compiled a list of Useful Resources for Free and Low-cost Counselling/Therapy in London (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/messages/boards/thread/49617941/).

If you are in a crisis, please check out these resources (https://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/messages/boards/thread/51050695/).

Here are other Recommended Meetup Groups (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/messages/boards/thread/49367703), which are similar to ours.

If you are interested in hosting your own events with us, read this post about how to become an Event Organiser (https://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/messages/boards/thread/49196449/) and our Rules For Hosting Events (https://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/27444935/Rules_For_Hosting_Events/). Note that applications for paid Event Organisers (those who charge a direct fee for their events) are currently closed. Free events are always welcome and encouraged!

If you would like to share your thoughts and suggestions, you can use our anonymous Suggestion Box (https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FRVGLH6).

If you would like to donate towards our cause and help us to keep this group running smoothly, please feel free to donate on our JustGiving Page (https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/leadinglightsocial). Sharing is also valuable. Thank you!

This group is not a place to "pick-up." Members who get along can of course decide to date - I myself met my long-term partner here! However, please do not use this group to seduce others. Members found to be sending unsolicited messages to others with the goal of "chatting them up" may be removed/banned without warning. This is intended to be a safe, relaxed and respectful environment for everyone.

Thank you! I look forward to meeting you!

Lots of love,


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