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1. By becoming a member, you agree to our Group Rules and Banning Procedure (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/Group_Rules_and_Banning_Procedure/)
and Legal Disclaimer and Release of Liability (http://www.meetup.com/leadinglightsocial/pages/Legal_Disclaimer_and_Release_of_Liability/). If you don't agree to these terms, please do not join this Meetup Group. Thank you.

2. This is not a singles' group or a place to "pick-up." Members who get along can of course decide to date, but please do not use this group to seduce others. Members found to be attending events or sending unsolicited messages to others with the goal of "chatting them up" will be immediately banned without warning. This is intended to be a safe, relaxed and respectful environment for everyone.

3. If you have any questions, please contact the relevant member of the Organiser team. If your enquiry is urgent, please be sure to specify this at the top of your message. Please allow a few days for a response, especially during busier periods. If you have a query about a specific event on our calendar, please be sure to contact the designated Event Host, as they are in the best position to provide information about their own events.

5. Finally, please remember that this is a peer-led group. It is not intended to serve as a professional mental health organisation or service, nor is it intended to be a substitute for professional support. If you require professional help, Seren has compiled a list of useful resources for Free and Low-cost Counselling/Therapy in London. If you are in a crisis, please check out these resources.

Keep in mind that most of the Organisers and Hosts of this group are peers. We contribute our time because we care. Many of us have lived experience of shyness, social anxiety, low self-esteem, mental health conditions, disabilities or a combination of these things, currently or historically. We all do our best, but we are only human and none of us are perfect. Please treat us with the same understanding you would want to receive.

Thank you. :)

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We are the #1 Shyness, Anxiety and Mental Health Meetup group in the world!

Featured by BBC Two and BBC Wales on their incredible documentary, "Stand Up to Shyness", starring award-winning Welsh comedian Rhod Gilbert. This documentary explored shyness and social anxiety in an informative, sensitive and meaningful way, with an emphasis on embracing who you are. To watch it, please check it out on BBC iPlayer.

Special thanks to: Mei Williams (director), Sally Lisk-Lewis (producer), Gwenllian Hughes (producer) and Rhod Gilbert himself. 

Listen to Rhod talking further about his participation in The London Shyness Social Group on BBC Radio 5 live, where he shares his own experiences of living with shyness and anxiety.

You can hear more about us - directly from our members - at Resonance FM on The Club. In this series, Ben Davis spends time with many different communities to explore contemporary subcultures in the UK.

More recently, we have been featured by the BBC World Service on their radio series, The Why Factor. You can hear their episode about shyness, which features excerpts from group members, here

This is a peer-led social and support group for people to meet in London. Events include afternoon coffee, self-development workshops, karaoke, daytrips, regular dinners, weekly support groups and a wide variety of other Meetups, including women-only events and LGBTQ+ events.
Steve Light originally set up this group in 2010 to help people who are lonely, shy, socially anxious, have low self-esteem etc (hence members being called 'SociaLights'). From 2013, Seren (formerly named and known as Jaz) ran the group in his place until she chose to step down in 2021, which she considers a great honour. What began as a bi-weekly pub social has expanded in the last few years beyond imagination, thanks to the incredible leadership and the amazing selfless work from Seren.

We are an incredibly diverse group: We embrace members of all ages (18 and above), backgrounds, beliefs, circumstances and experiences. We aim to be an inclusive community for everyone, which is reflected in our range of events and core values as a group.

This is a welcoming, safe place where you can meet like-minded people, receive support and make new friends, all in a social setting. We are not only the largest mental health Meetup community in the world, we are also ranked as the biggest shyness and social anxiety Meetup group too.

Please don't be intimidated by this: In some Meetups, larger groups are split. Hosts are always happy to deal with any queries you may have and ensure that you are in a comfortable space. We strive to be a warm and close community, and always will, regardless of group size!

Being shy is not a necessity to join us. The only things you need are an open mind, an open heart and a desire for human company. :)

Some Meetups will be structured so that people can take it in turns to talk, other Meetups will be general and social. Rest assured, you will be around a warm group of people who care and understand.

This is a Private Group: This means that non-members cannot see who is in this group, the discussions or any Meetup details (aside from the title, date, time and how many people are attending). This measure is in place to protect the privacy and security of everyone in the group.

To report complaint(s) or concern(s), have a look at our Complaints Procedure.

We understand and respect that this group might not be what you're looking for, and that's okay. Here are other Recommended Meetup Groups, which are similar to ours. This list is updated periodically, but if you have any suggestions to add to the list, please do let us know.

If you are interested in hosting your own events with us, read our Rules For Hosting Events and get in touch. Note that applications for paid Event Organisers (those who charge a direct fee for their events) are currently closed. Free events are always welcome and encouraged!

Thank you.

Upcoming events (4+)

👩 Women's Speed Friending - ONLINE!

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👩 Women's Speed Friending - ONLINE!

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Guided Meditation with Release & Let Go

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