Forgiveness — And Who It’s Actually For

There's a scene in Good Will Hunting where Robin Williams looks at Matt Damon and says it's not your fault. And Damon laughs it off. So Williams says it again. And again. And again until something in Damon finally breaks open, not because he didn't know it intellectually, but because he had never actually let himself believe it.

That's the gap this session lives in.

Most of us have done the work of forgiving the people who hurt us or at least we've told ourselves we have. We've processed, journaled, therapized, and moved on. What we haven't done, most of us, is turn that same grace around and point it at ourselves.

At the person we became during our worst year.

The choices we made when we were barely holding it together. The people we hurt while we were hurting. The version of ourselves we're still a little ashamed of, even now, even after everything.

This is putting down something heavy. Not for their sake. For yours.

This session is about the weight you’re still carrying that you think is about someone else. And the moment you realize it was always about you.

What we’ll get into:

1. The difference between forgiving someone and forgiving yourself and why most people have only done one
2. What you’re still carrying from your worst year that you haven’t given yourself permission to release
3. The choices you made when you were broken and what it would mean to stop holding them against yourself
4. Who you’d be if you weren’t still quietly punishing yourself for something that happened years ago
5. What forgiveness actually feels like when it’s real and how you’d know the difference

You don’t have to be ready to forgive anything tonight. You just have to be willing to look at what you’re still holding.