What we're about
Do you wish you could control yourself more? Are you prone to addictions or abuse of either substances, or of behaviors like spending, gambling, working, working out, gaming, facebooking, sex, pornography, philandering, or physical or verbal abuse of loved ones? Do cravings and emotions often run your life? This group is for anyone who wants to observe their mind more effectively in order to stop their own destructive behaviors.
Social support and classic relapse prevention strategies, such as those advocated by 12-Step groups, will always be the mainstay of many peoples’ recovery. If for some reason these are not sufficient, then more contemplative, age-old strategies relating to mindfulness, self-inquiry and meditation can help set you on a path to greater self-control and happiness. PLEASE JOIN US if:
--You’ve really decided to stop or cut back on problem behaviors
--You can reliably be sober before coming to meetings
--You’re not too concerned with confidentiality (you never know who you’ll see at a meetup).
Two things may prevent you from considering a group like this. One is the shame and poor self-esteem you may be experiencing. Another is the idea that your case of abuse/addiction and the circumstances surrounding it makes you different, a little bit unique. (“I’m not like them.”) And so you isolate.
But, you’re NOT unique. The first reassuring thing that any abuser/addict learns in recovery is that all your peers have the same kinds of problems for the same kinds of reasons. You also learn that addiction problems are ultimately addressed the same way you would handle other problem that affects your thinking: discipline, training, persistence, support, and hard, repetitive inner work.
Mindfulness makes that work easier. Most all of the “old heads” who ultimately got into strong recovery ACHIEVED mindfulness without ever even having heard of it! It was forced upon them unawares! So: imagine the progress you could make if you took and interest in mindfulness, enough interest to go out of your way to study and practice it!
I’ve never had an addiction problem, but I am in recovery—from life! As joyful as it can be, life is also inherently painful. Suffering cannot by avoided, but it can be minimized and sidelined, with an underlying joy that few of us realize we possess. I’m a heavy-duty spiritual seeker who’s been involved with yoga, meditation, etc. for 40 years, and 7 years in substance abuse as a counselor. I also do dreamwork—sometimes that can help. For more about me, see davidlowmsphd.com.