MEN CUDDLING MEN (Chicago)

Hi Guys, welcome to our second MOVIE NITE & CUDDLE! The featured film is "FRIENDSHIP." I enjoyed this one. Seems like a perfect film for Men Cuddling Men as it is a spoof of men's groups! It explores the comedy, tragedy, and difficulty of men trying to make friends. Paul Rudd plays the men's group leader. Tim Robinson plays his lost and lonely neighbor. The fee is $28. No more early birds.

Here are some reviews from Rotten Tomatoes which gave the film 87% from critics:
"Suburban dad Craig falls hard for his charismatic new neighbor. Craig's awkward attempt to make friends threatens to ruin both of their lives."
"It’s both an amusing descent into madness and a weirdly moving portrait of one man’s doomed search for connection." The film is 1.5 hours. See trailer below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmSPwZIZu6Y

NOTE: RSVPing is awesome but your slot is not saved until you pay by Zelle. MCM no longer accepts cash, paypal nor venmo. Please open a zelle account. MCM events are now zelle-only! If you can't attend, MCM appreciates your support of the cuddle community in Chicago. *** To Zelle me send to: Dwight Okita dwightokita@gmail *** When you RSVP please send me an email so that I can mark you as attending.
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THE FEE IS $28. We do not accept cash, Paypal, nor venmo. THERE ARE NO REFUNDS (unless Dwight cancels event), NO DATE CHANGES. Most members are gay men and they identify as male.

Everyone must email me the following info after you RSVP:
MEETUP MEMBER NAME:
ACTUAL NAME/ZELLE NAME:
EVENT DATE:
REAL EMAIL ADDRESS since meetup mail is iffy
Without both your Meetup Name and Actual Name, I can't match up your fee with your name.

I suggest those most interested in the movie can sit closer to the TV -- cuddle with your partner on the futon or the floor cuddle mats. Those most focused in the cuddling, you might call for dibs on the bed or floor mats further from tv.

While we encourage folks to be open to cuddling all -- we also understand that sometimes two guys are not compatible. So cuddle accordingly. The event is cuddle-optional as well as clothing-optional.

We have room for no more than ten. Late responders will likely be disappointed. Come on up to Dwight's cozy penthouse studio on the 29th floor overlooking the city. Get away from the hustle and bustle -- and join us for two hours of cuddles and/or sensual nurturing touch. Clothing-Optional is available if you wish. Express your wishes and boundaries.

WELCOME PACKET
The address of the event will be shared the week before the event in the Welcome Packet email. Please watch for it. It will include my home address for the event, your pre-selected cuddle partners for the first round, an updated Cuddle Menu! If you don't get it -- email me at DwightOkita@gmail. You are responsible for checking all emails and direct messages and Meetup site notices -- or you might not get important changes/cancellations/address info.

Minimum number of cuddlers needed for this event to happen is 6. Come out and cuddle with us. Events all take place on the north side near Montrose and the lake. I send my exact address the week of events. (If you don't get my notices, please be responsible for reaching out to me to get critical info!) Ignore meetup map. We are the only male cuddle meetup group in the country!

What are the benefits of cuddling? It's been proven by science that nurturing touch/cuddling boosts one's feeling of being cared for, and decreases depression/stress. There's lots of science of this -- lowering blood pressure, increasing resistance, the release of oxytocin which is a neurotransmitter that makes you feel nurtured and safe. Babies who are not touched have been known to die of skin hunger. People who cuddle live longer!

FIRST HOUR (WE ARE ON OUR FEET)
-- We start with a WELCOME CIRCLE where each person introduces themselves. Shades are drawn, room is darkened. Please share if you are seeking a Therapeutic Cuddle or a Sensual Cuddle.
-- We do HELLO HUGS where one gets to embrace 4 other guy for five minutes each (hugging, body exploration, caressing). Often this is where newbies start to relax. Clothing optional can can begin.

SECOND HOUR (WE ARE LYING DOWN) -- THE FILM BEGINS!
-- We do 2-3 cuddle sessions about 20 minutes each. You can use the bed, futon, or foam mats. The first cuddle is pre-selected.
-- The last cuddles are your choice! It can be a Three-way Cuddle or Two-way Cuddle. (In Three-ways, each man takes turns being in the middle.)

DO'S AND DON'TS
* DO. Cuddling can be nurturing or sensual. Spooning, face to face, and more. When in doubt, ask for permission.
* DON'T. This is not sexual. Our cuddling is either relaxing and therapeutic or sensual. PLEASE come with your body and beards freshly showered, and fresh breath. Candy or fresh mints are good. Body odor and food smells are a turn off when cuddling up close! Freshen your deodorant before leaving the house.

Always speak up if something comes up that you are uncomfortable with. And to speak up if there is something you'd like to ask for. Also this is communal cuddling. It's based less on physical attraction and more on knowing we all need to be touched. On the other hand, everyone has the right to say yes or no to a cuddle. Not everyone may be comfortable with everyone and that's ok. If driving, it's best to park on the street. There is limited guest parking below my building that's $21. No attendant. Some say it's user-unfriendly.

Diversity of body types welcome. Drama will not be tolerated. If it's your first time, no need to be nervous. Those who were nervous the first time said they were very comfortable at our events.

-- Dwight

The event date above is just a placeholder date for ongoing "event." Cuddle date can be negotiated to your schedule!
There are two kinds of private cuddling that I offer. The fee is the same.

* Therapeutic Cuddling is focused on nurturing. It is clothed and platonic. Ideal for those dealing with stress, mood swings and in need of comforting.

* Sensual Cuddling is focused on fun & pleasure, can be clothed or clothing optional. Ideal for those seeking refreshing touch, stimulation, engagement.

I have over seven years experience as a trained, certified cuddle practitioner engaging with a dozens of clients with diverse needs. Every person has their own unique Touch Story. One-on-one PRIVATECuddling is great to address a need, or solve a problem. Or just to have fun. Not everyone likes to cuddle in a group. We can schedule a session at any time convenient for both of us. I can customize our session to your needs and share a menu of various popular cuddle positions. I'm also an author and a part time caregiver for seniors. Every human has the right to be hold someone and to be held.

We start by talking by email/phone and I ask “What exactly do you hope to get out of this cuddle session?” Some of the answers clients have told me: I want to feel cared for. I’m too isolated. My job has gotten stressful. I'm touch-deprived.

HOW TO SET UP A SESSION
1. Start by RSVPing to this event. (The meetup RSVP will not automatically charge you.)
2. Direct message me to discuss the session and date/time as well as length of session/fee. dwightokita@gmail
3. We will have a brief phone chat to get a comfortable sense of each other. Also to make sure a private cuddle is a good fit for what you are seeking.
4. Pre-payment to me is required by Zelle. I can't take paypal or venmo for private cuddling.

The fee for a one hour clothing-optional PRIVATECuddle with Dwight is $100. (I haven't raised my fees in the 7 years I've been cuddling, so it's a slight increase. My previous fee of $80 is what beginning pro cuddlers charge. This is a bit closer to the market rate. Many fellow cuddlers charge $175 - 250 per hr.)

One Hour Session is an $100 value.
1.5 Hour Session is a $150 value.
Two Hour Session is a $200 value.

Pre-payment is needed. If you need to cancel, please give 24 hours notice for a full refund. With less than 24 hours notice -- you will need to pay half the fee. I look forward to our session!

WHAT HAPPENS IN A CUDDLE SESSION? At the session you might tell me what cuddle positions you enjoy. (Spooning, head on chest, face to face, back to back, etc.) Feel free to set any boundaries. As soft music plays, clients often enjoy talking during the cuddle. Come freshly showered, with teeth brushed, and I will be likewise. My building has security at the front desk and is very safe and accessible. Will give you address once booked.

GUIDELINES
OKAY LIST -- cuddling, spooning, planking, massaging, caressing, tickling, body exploration (may vary depending on whether therapeutic or recreational).
NOT OKAY LIST -- no oral, no ejaculation, no penetration (not okay for either cuddle modality).

ENDORSEMENTS OF CUDDLE SESSIONS W/ DWIGHT
"Dwight is kind, patient, calm and informed. Though nervous at first, we hugged and my anxiety lessened. I felt an energy exchange throughout the session. I also felt calm and light at the end! I will schedule more sessions." -- Marsf

"It was such a pleasure to hug, to touch and be touched by a caring cuddler. I came across Dwight on a massage site. This hybrid of massage/cuddling made me feel cared for, unlike anyone else on the site. I look forward to my next 90-minute appt!" -- BerlinGermany

"I had a great time at both my private 90-minute sessions. Dwight is very sensitive to the needs of his clients. I felt safe and comfortable with him. Leaving the session, I felt rejuvenated and relaxed. I work as a nurse and these sessions are part of my self care routine." -- Sully

DWIGHT'S CUDDLE CALENDAR
Terry J (6-24-25) -- Two hours
Salu A (6-21-25) -- One hour
David Berlin (6-17-25) -- One hour
Paolo B (5-30-25) -- One hour
Barry S (5-24-25) -- One hour
Tim G (4-28-25) -- One hour
Terry J (4-11-25) -- Two hours
Terry J (2-3-25) -- Two hours
Syed (1-25-25) -- 90 minutes

“Cuddling produces oxytocin, a bonding hormone that promotes calmness and security and reduces stress hormones. It is a highly effective stress reliever. -- Women’s Health

(THIS IS NOT AN EVENT SO THE DATE IS NOT REAL. THIS IS INFORMATIONAL.)

This is how you can send direct messages to organizer Dwight. You can do it from the Meetup site wherever you see my name/photo.

(Also there is a chat option between members after an event takes place. To use the new chat function, both members have to agree to be contactable.)

Please look at the two photos above. On the right you see my name and photo. If you click the picture -- it brings you to the second photo on the left. (In this case it shows the chat page for Antonio, because it won't allow me to chat with myself -- but it would take you to my chat page.) So if you're trying to reach me, that's one way. The other way to reach me is by email which is in most of the events -- dwightokita@gmail

I prefer not to have private chats with members on the discussion board. So for messages just for me, please use the chat function or my email. Thanks so much. Let me know if you have any questions.

Dwight