About us
Welcome to Men Cuddling Men (MCM)! And to all those who are cuddle-curious. We've been around since 2015. MCM is the only Meetup cuddling group in the country focused on serving the gay male community. Or more broadly those who are GBT (gay, bisexual, or trans men).
Based in Chicago, Dwight Okita is the organizer of MEN CUDDLING MEN. As of this writing, we have over 800 members. Cuddling is a newer healing modality that has been growing since the turn of the millennium. Studies have shown the benefits of mindful cuddling -- an increase in oxcytocin levels which is the hormone that makes one feel nurtured and cared for, and a decrease in "skin hunger" which is the condition of being touch-starved. Cuddling is a great tool for combatting political stress, anxiety, loneliness & depression. Is it calming and sensual? It can be. Is it sexual? No. How long does it take for one to feeling the therapeutic effects of an embrace? Twenty seconds. Just imagine how an hour or two would feel?
At MCM, we start with 5-minute HELLO HUGS! The men are kind, open and welcoming. Then we move to 20-minute man to man cuddles. Three-man cuddles too. We also offer Clothing-Optional Cuddling and are the only men's cuddle group to encourage nip exploration. Cuddle position menus and nip menus available. One can be clothed or less so. Sometimes we have a movie night.
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BASIC STUFF:
PAYMENT -- Starting in 2025, we can only take payment by ZELLE. NO REFUNDS (unless Dwight cancels due to low rsvps,etc.) NO CANCELLATIONS. No date switching. The fee is for the event itself, my time as organizer, for the energy put into managing the events -- not just on the day of the event.
PROFILES -- It's ideal if you post a current photo of your face as your profile. It also helps folks get to know you better and vice versa. Nude pics get deleted. Also since many people use an invented name on their profile, it's important you send me your real name and meetup name...or else I can't match your zelle payment with your name!
WAIT LISTS -- One enhancement as new owners have bought Meetup is that now paid events like mine can also do automatic Wait Lists! Yeah!
WELCOME INFO -- For those who rsvp/pay fee, I send a Welcome Packet the week of the event. It contains my home address where the event takes place, a cuddle partnering list, a Do's & Don'ts Guidelines, and more. It's important to keep an eye out for this.
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Men Cuddling Men has gotten a 4.9 STAR RATING (out of 5 stars) from over 250 anonymous reviews on its Meetup events. Thank you all. This is a public group geared toward supporting gay men. You are encouraged to post your profile pic & bio for maximum engagement. MCM events are about creating a safe, affirming alternative to online personals, bath houses, and the bar scene. It's a good place to make new friends. Our members are of diverse ages, ethnicities, body types, neighborhoods, occupations, passions. Meaningful friendships have developed, and two long-term couples have resulted!
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NOTE OF MUTUAL ENGAGEMENT. As an organizer, I am very involved with this group and its flourishing. In return I also hope that members are proactively engaged in the group. What I mean is that I will send out information thru the Meetup Mail ONCE -- and you are responsible for checking that mail. In the past I've tracked your actual emails/actual names/actual phone numbers/Meetup DMs and followed up multiple times to make sure folks get messages. Not so much moving forward. So if you are signed up for an event and haven't gotten a welcome packet with the event location -- please be responsible to contact me. THIS IS HOW YOU WILL LEARN THE LOCATION OF THE EVENT. If you don't get info, you risk missing out if there is a change, cancellation, etc. THANKS VERY MUCH for the energy you bring!
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Due to the fact that many members do not use their real names, and due to the fact that there are countless Joes, Toms, and Jims in the world -- please update your profile name to add a last initial. When you just give a first name, it makes me have to track down who you are to make sure your fee is associated with the right member.
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"Still thinking about last Saturday! I still have no words to express how much of a fun, cozy, and wonderful time I had. So glad to have met everyone. Hands down the best meetup I've ever attended. Looking forward to the next!" -- Noel, business student
"Cuddling with strangers wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be. Thanks to all my cuddle partners for communicating the ground rules so well, making me feel much more comfortable." -- Cory, social worker
PRIVATECuddling -- Dwight has been a trained pro cuddler certified by a national cuddle organization. In 2017, he started doing client sessions with an array of people with an array of predicaments that made them seek out touch at a unique moment in their lives. He can provide enlivening, platonic one-on-one sessions designed around your specific needs. Session are $100 per hour at his home on the north side. Dwight is also an author. His latest memoir, The Invention of Fireflies, is due out in 2026-27.
Sometimes I just want to cuddle with someone. Having a private cuddle session was fantastic! Dwight is very knowledgeable, and eager to help. I didn’t know private cuddlers existed. This cuddling gave me the sense of connection with another person I was seeking. -- Doug, book seller
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SPECIAL INTRO FEE just $50 for One-Hour Private Session! (Regular $100)
Dwight's Place, Location on north side of Chicago, Chicago, il, USFor a limited time, I'm offering a SPECIAL INTRO FEE of just $50 for One-Hour Private Session! (Regular fee is $100 per hour.)
The event date above is just a placeholder date for ongoing "event." Cuddle date can be negotiated for any day!!
WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES OF A PRIVATE CUDDLE WITH DWIGHT OVER A GROUP CUDDLE?
-- Private cuddles can be booked on any day that works for your schedule -- whereas group cuddles are on one certain day of the month.
-- Private cuddles include a consultation with Dwight to understand why you are seeking out a cuddle at this moment, and what you wish to get out of it. Thus the touch can be more focused. Group cuddles are not based on such a consultation so are more general and random.
-- Have you ever wondered why group cuddles are just $28, yet many regular clients enjoy one-hour cuddles with Dwight for $100, and often drive in from out of state?
-- Private cuddles can be for different lengths of time -- 1 hour, 1.5 hours, 2 hours depending on your need. At group cuddles, you are paired up for just 20 minutes at a time. The longer the time, the more deep relaxation and oxytocin. For a limited time Dwight is offering private session also at the reduced $50/hour rate!
-- Private cuddles by nature are more private, can be more creative and sensual. They can be clothing-optional, can include nip play, mutual body exploration. You have more control of the cuddle as it is designed specifically around you. Dwight has many repeat private clients who pay as much as $200 for a few hours of tactile pleasure.
NOTE: Be sure to check out this menu link below. It shares a Cuddle Menu and a Nipple Play Menu. About two dozen positions in all. You can request up to three positions per private session!
cuddlemenu.weebly.com
I have over seven years experience as a trained, certified cuddle practitioner engaging with a dozens of clients with diverse needs. Every person has their own unique Touch Story. One-on-one PRIVATECuddling is great to address a need, or solve a problem. Or just to have fun. It can be therapeutic or sensual or a combination. Not everyone likes to cuddle in a group. We can schedule a session at any time convenient for both of us. Private cuddles give you more control as we can customize your session to your needs. See the two menus of cuddle positions and nip playing below.
We start by talking by email/phone and I ask “What exactly do you hope to get out of this cuddle session?” Some of the answers clients have told me: I want to feel cared for. I’m too isolated. My job has gotten stressful. I'm touch-deprived.
HOW TO SET UP A SESSION
1. Start by RSVPing to this event. (The meetup RSVP will not automatically charge you.) RSVPing by itself doesn't mean much until you pay in advance by Zelle.
2. Direct message me to discuss the session and date/time as well as length of session/fee. dwightokita@gmail
3. We will have a brief phone chat to get a comfortable sense of each other. Also to make sure a private cuddle is a good fit for what you are seeking.
4. Pre-payment to me is required by Zelle. I can't take paypal or venmo for private cuddling.
REDUCED RATES:
One Hour Session is $50 (regular $100).
1.5 Hour Session is $75 (regular $150).
Two Hour Session is $100 (regular $200).
If you need to cancel, please give 24 hours notice for a full refund. With less than 24 hours notice -- you will need to pay half the fee. I look forward to our session!
WHAT HAPPENS IN A CUDDLE SESSION? At the session you might tell me what cuddle positions you enjoy. (Spooning, head on chest, face to face, back to back, etc.) Feel free to set any boundaries. As soft music plays, clients often enjoy talking during the cuddle. Come freshly showered, with teeth brushed, and I will be likewise. My building has security at the front desk and is very safe and accessible. Will give you address once booked.
GUIDELINES
OKAY LIST -- Cuddling, spooning, nip play, planking, massaging, caressing, tickling, body exploration (may vary depending on whether therapeutic or recreational). Mutual consent.
NOT OKAY LIST -- No oral, no penetration.
ENDORSEMENTS OF CUDDLE SESSIONS W/ DWIGHT
"It was such a pleasure to hug, to touch and be touched by a caring cuddler. I came across Dwight on a massage site. This hybrid of massage/cuddling made me feel cared for, unlike anyone else on the site. I look forward to my next 90-minute appt!" -- BerlinGermany
"I had a great time at both my private 90-minute sessions. Leaving the session, I felt rejuvenated and relaxed. I work as a nurse and these sessions are part of my self care routine." -- Sully
DWIGHT'S CUDDLE CALENDAR
Terry J (6-24-25) -- Two hours
Salu A (6-21-25) -- One hour
David Berlin (6-17-25) -- One hour
Paolo B (5-30-25) -- One hour
Barry S (5-24-25) -- One hour
“Cuddling produces oxytocin, a bonding hormone that promotes calmness and security and reduces stress hormones. It is a highly effective stress reliever. -- Women’s Health5 attendees
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