MEN CUDDLING MEN

I'm looking forward to meeting you folks new to cuddling and curious about it. Oct 16 is just days away as I write this. Five guys coming right now.

I've met guys who came to cuddle events -- who'd been curious to attend for years. But they were nervous. They all said they wished they'd come sooner. We are the only Meetup cuddle group for gay men in the country! People sometimes drive in from out of town to attend. MCM events are for men only. THIS IS A NO-TOUCH EVENT. Trying to limit this group to 8 so right now we're at capacity. PLEASE let me know if any of you need to cancel, to give space to someone else. Thanks.

So in that spirit, I'm offering COFFEE FOR THE CUDDLE-CURIOUS. It's a chance to meet with me, organizer Dwight, to ask questions and learn about the whole cuddle experience. I'm not planning to have a prepared speech so much as respond to questions. Such as: What if I get a boner? How does cuddling help with anxiety/depression? Can I find a regular cuddle buddy through the group? What if something weird occurs? What is Clothing-Optional? If the cuddle event is open to nipple players, can I attend if my nips aren't sensitive?

We'll meet at Klein's Cafe at 4155 N Broadway/ Chicago @ 6.30 to 7.30pm. They have great bakery goods and coffee. [If the place is too busy, a good alternative is kitty corner...North Buene Deli.]

If I get enough RSVPs, I'll probably have a sign that says Cuddle-Curious. If not enough replies, I will cancel in advance. This is a free event. (If you reply but have to cancel, please let me know. Thanks!)

Dwight

This is a combination Naked Cuddle Event + Nipple Play. Ideal for nip enthusiasts -- and also those who enjoy naturism or being clothes-free. This event is presented by MEN CUDDLING MEN. It is for men only. Even if your nips aren't sensitive, you'll have fun nude cuddling.

FOLKS CAN USE PAYPAL IF THEY WISH.
Events all take place on the north side near. I send my exact address the week of events. (Ignore the meetup map as it is random.)

WHAT'S THIS COMBO EVENT GOING TO BE LIKE?
We might have a quick demo of nip play positions (Over the Shirt, Under the Shirt, Nippling from Behind, Nipple Licking, Arms Overhead, One Man Worshipped by Two Men). Cuddling reduces stress, releases oxytocin, decreases loneliness, provides nurturing and is a lot of fun! I also work with individual clients on an ongoing basis.

EVENT FORMAT
FIRST HOUR (WE ARE ON OUR FEET)
-- We start with a WELCOME CIRCLE where each person tells their name, and something about themselves. Next we do an undressing ritual in which we help each other get comfy. Shades will be be drawn and room is darkened as much as possible. This is the perfect time to explore each other's nipples and nude bodies.
-- GROUND RULES will be repeated aloud. Cuddling/Nippling is by consent. If someone does not abide -- the other man is free to leave that partner and cuddle elsewhere. (Also see Do's and Don'ts below.)
-- The majority of the first hour is devoted to HELLO HUGS where one gets to embrace every man in the room for 5 minutes (hugging, body exploration, caressing). This is done standing and is very sensual, nurturing. Often if a new person, this is where he starts to relax.

SECOND HOUR (WE ARE LYING DOWN)
-- In the second half, we do two cuddle sessions. The first cuddle is focused on nipple worship. This is pre-partnered. It is a 20 minute cuddle lying down on the bed, futon, or foam mats.
-- The last cuddle is your choice. It can be a Threeway Cuddle or Twoway Cuddle lasting 20 minutes. (In Threeways, each man takes turns being in the middle, touched by the others. This is ideal to have the middle man's nips being licked by the men on each side.) We are the only male cuddle meetup group in the Midwest. There are male cuddle groups also in Philadelphia and in San Francisco. MEN CUDDLING MEN events get a 4.9 star rating out of 5 by over 200 attendees.

The value for this unique event is $25. RSVP early to get the early bird discount. Fee is reduced to $20 if you RSVP by SEPT 24! After it's $25.

IMPORANT: Email me your MEETUP NAME (else I can't match up payment to actual person!) and indicate how you are paying, the amount, date of event and your email address. Our Cuddles can sell out quickly so don't delay. THERE ARE NO REFUNDS, NO DATE CHANGES. Members who wish to join a sold out event should check meetup site regularly for cancellations.

DO'S AND DON'TS
No f*cking or s*cking or oral. Cuddling can be nurturing, therapeutic, or sensual. It is not centered on the sexual. Come with your body and beards freshly showered, teeth brushed. Hardons and nip play welcome. Soft music will be played. Many like to converse during cuddles, some prefer not. This is communal cuddling. It's based less on physical attraction and more on understanding we all need to be touched. Diversity of ages, backgrounds, body types welcome. Drama will not be tolerated. The cuddle occurs in a good hood just south of Uptown. The week of the event, I will send details of event, and my address/unit number. If you don't get it -- email me.

In honor of Thanksgiving, MCM presents a Gratitude Cuddle. And for a change, let's gather on a Friday nite at the end of a work week! It's Clothing-Optional so you can wear was little or as much clothes as you wish.

FOLKS CAN USE PAYPAL IF THEY WISH. Or if you use Zelle, DwightOkita@gmail is the identifier. Make sure to send me a note telling me your Meetup name so fee goes to right person! Events all take place on the north side near Montrose and the lake. I will send my exact address the week of events. (Ignore the meetup map as it is random.) * The new owners of Meetup are increasing annual organizer fees from like $165 to $300. Thus event fees will increase slightly starting Nov 2024. Sorry guys. *

WHAT'S THIS COMBO EVENT GOING TO BE LIKE?
Cuddling reduces stress, releases oxytocin, decreases loneliness, provides nurturing and is a lot of fun! I also work with individual clients.

EVENT FORMAT
FIRST HOUR (WE ARE ON OUR FEET)
-- We start with a WELCOME CIRCLE where each person tells their name, and something about themselves. Next we do an undressing ritual in which we help each other get comfy. Shades will be be drawn and room is darkened as much as possible.
-- GROUND RULES will be repeated aloud. Cuddling is by consent. If someone does not abide -- the other man is free to leave that partner and cuddle elsewhere. (Also see Do's and Don'ts below.)
-- The majority of the first hour is devoted to HELLO HUGS where one gets to embrace every man in the room for 5 minutes (hugging, body exploration, caressing). This is done standing and is sensual, nurturing. Often if a new person, this is where he starts to relax.

SECOND HOUR (WE ARE LYING DOWN)
-- In the second half, we do two cuddle sessions. The first cuddle is pre-partnered, so that newbies are with returners. It is a 20 minute cuddle lying down on the bed, futon, or foam mats.
-- The last cuddle is your choice. It can be a Threeway Cuddle or Twoway Cuddle lasting 20 minutes. (In Threeways, each man takes turns being in the middle, touched by the others. This is ideal to have the middle man's nips being licked by the men on each side.) We are the only male cuddle meetup group in the Midwest. There are male cuddle groups also in Philadelphia and in San Francisco. MEN CUDDLING MEN events get a 4.9 star rating out of 5 by over 200 attendees.

The value for this unique event is $28. RSVP early to get the early bird discount. Fee is reduced to $23 if you RSVP by OCT 11!

IMPORTANT: Direct message me your MEETUP NAME (else I can't match up payment to actual person) and indicate how you are paying, the amount, date of event and your email address. Our Cuddles can sell out quickly so don't delay. THERE ARE NO REFUNDS, NO DATE CHANGES. Members who wish to join a sold out event should check meetup site regularly for cancellations. Most members are gay men, those who identify as male.

DO'S AND DON'TS
No f*cking or s*cking. Cuddling can be nurturing, therapeutic, or sensual. It is not centered on the sexual. Come with your body and beards freshly showered, teeth brushed. Hardons and nip play welcome. Soft music will be played. Many like to converse during cuddles, some prefer not. This is communal cuddling. It's based less on physical attraction and more on understanding we all need to be touched. Diversity of ages, backgrounds, body types welcome. Drama will not be tolerated. The cuddle occurs in a good hood just south of Uptown. The week of the event, I will send details of event, and my address/unit number. If you don't get it -- email me.

The event date above is just a placeholder date for ongoing "event." Cuddle date can be negotiated to your schedule!
There are two kinds of private cuddling that I offer. The fee is the same.

* Therapeutic Cuddling is focused on nurturing. It is clothed and platonic. Ideal for those dealing with stress, mood swings and in need of comforting.

* Sensual Cuddling is focused on fun & pleasure, can be clothing optional. Ideal for those seeking refreshing touch, stimulation, engagement.

I have over five years experience as a trained, certified cuddle practitioner engaging with a dozens of clients with diverse needs. Every person has their own unique Touch Story. One-on-one PRIVATECuddling is great to address a need, or solve a problem. Or just to have fun. Not everyone likes to cuddle in a group. We can schedule a session at any time convenient for both of us. I can customize our session to your needs and share a menu of various popular cuddle positions. I'm also an author and a part time caregiver for seniors. Every human has the right to be hold someone and to be held.

We start by talking by email/phone and I ask “What exactly do you hope to get out of this cuddle session?” Some of the answers clients have told me: I want to feel cared for. I’m too isolated. My job has gotten stressful. I'm touch-deprived.

HOW TO SET UP A SESSION
1. Start by RSVPing to this event. (The meetup RSVP will not automatically charge you.)
2. Direct message me to discuss the session and date/time as well as length of session/fee. dwightokita@gmail
3. We will have a brief phone chat to get a comfortable sense of each other. Also to make sure a private cuddle is a good fit for what you are seeking.
4. Pre-payment to mei s required by Zelle. I can't take paypal or venmo for private cuddling.

The fee for a one hour clothing optional PRIVATECuddle with Dwight is $80. (This is the market rate for pro cuddling. Many other pro cuddlers charge $150 to 200 per hr.) Pre-payment is needed. If you need to cancel, please give 24 hours notice for a full refund. With less than 24 hours notice -- you will need to pay half the fee. I look forward to our session!

WHAT HAPPENS IN A CUDDLE SESSION? At the session you might tell me what cuddle positions you enjoy. (Spooning, head on chest, face to face, back to back, etc.) Feel free to set any boundaries. As soft music plays, clients often enjoy talking during the cuddle. Come freshly showered, with teeth brushed, and I will be likewise. My building has security at the front desk and is very safe and accessible. Will give you address once booked.

GUIDELINES
OKAY LIST -- cuddling, spooning, planking, massaging, caressing, tickling, body exploration (may vary depending on whether therapeutic or recreational).
NOT OKAY LIST -- no oral, no ejaculation, no penetration (not okay for either cuddle modality).

ENDORSEMENTS OF CUDDLE SESSIONS W/ DWIGHT
"Dwight is kind, patient, calm and informed. Though nervous at first, we hugged and my anxiety lessened. I felt an energy exchange throughout the session. I also felt calm and light at the end! I will schedule more sessions." -- Marsf

"It was such a pleasure to hug, to touch and be touched by a caring cuddler. I came across Dwight on a massage site. This hybrid of massage/cuddling made me feel cared for, unlike anyone else on the site. I look forward to my next 90-minute appt!" -- BerlinGermany

"I had a great time at both my private 90-minute sessions. Dwight is very sensitive to the needs of his clients. I felt safe and comfortable with him. Leaving the session, I felt rejuvenated and relaxed. I work as a nurse and these sessions are part of my self care routine." -- Sully

One Hour Session is an $80 value.
1.5 Hour Session is a $120 value.
Two Hour Session is a $160 value.

DWIGHT'S CUDDLE CALENDAR
Sully (5-4-24) -- 90 minutes.
Joe C. (5-25-24) -- One hour.
Tim G. (6-5-24) – One hour.
Ned (6-8-24) -- One hour.
Terry (6-11-24) -- 90 minutes.
Sully (6-15-24) -- 90 minutes.
Gideon (6-26-24) – One hour.
David Berlin (7-12-24) – 90 minutes.
Matt (7-24-24) -- 90 minutes. Coming in from out-of-state.
Jim (7-26-24) -- One hour.
Sully (7-26-24) – 90 minutes.
Mario (8-11-24) -- 90 minutes.
Mario (8-24-24) -- 90 minutes + buddhist chanting.
Gabriel (9-4-24) -- 90 minutes for relaxation.
Ed D (9-24-24) -- 90 minutes. Coming in from out-of-state.

“Cuddling produces oxytocin, a bonding hormone that promotes calmness and security and reduces stress hormones. It is a highly effective stress reliever. -- Women’s Health