Men's Circle of Malaysia

SCHOOL OF THOUGHT SOCIETY invites you to:
Men's Circle February Discussion: Divorce — Endings & Transitions
📍 Where: Violet Flame KL
📅 When: Wednesday, 25 February 2026
🕗 Time: 8:00PM – 10:00PM
📞 Reservation: +6019 723 2112

Divorce isn’t just a legal process — it is a deeply human experience, woven with emotional distance, unmet needs, identity shifts, and profound internal reckoning. Recent reflections by academics and legal commentators featured on the front pages of theSun [1] point to emotional disconnection as a central cause of marital breakdown where couples stop “turning towards each other” years before separation happens.

Local data also reveals a troubling pattern: rising divorce rates alongside declining reconciliation. This highlights growing pressures within families and persistent communication breakdowns signalling a broader need to rethink how relationships and separations are held within our social and legal frameworks [2][3][4][5].

Divorce rarely affects only two people. It ripples through families, children, and communities. While it may carry less social stigma today, it often plunges individuals into grief, depression or anger. Some may emerge having made peace, others carry unresolved pain for years, shaping how they relate to love, trust, and themselves.

This space is for Men who have lived through separation, those still navigating it, close family members affected by it, and those seeking to understand its deeper impact. Not to judge, fix, or preach but to reflect, to be witnessed and to find meaning beyond divorce.

References:

1. Emotional distance linchpin for failed marriage: Academic (theSun 7 Jan 2026)
2. Rising divorces, low reconciliation exposing flaws in family law system (theSun 7 Jan 2026)
3. Rising divorce rates shake foundation of society (theSun 3 Jan 2026)
4. Rise in divorces not a commercial prospect for lawyers but a growing social concern, says M'sian Bar (The Star 26 Dec 2025)
5. Malaysian Bar urges family law reforms as divorces rise, calls to shift away from courtroom battles (malaymail 26 Dec 2025)

SCHOOL OF THOUGHT SOCIETY invites you to:
Men's Circle March Discussion: Affair - Desire & Consequence
📍 Where: Violet Flame KL
📅 When: Wednesday, 25 March 2026
🕗 Time: 8:00PM – 10:00PM
📞 Reservation: +6019 723 2112

An affair is often reduced to betrayal but behind it lies a far more complex human story.

Affairs come in different forms. Many begin quietly. Some are physical. Others are emotional affairs [1] where intimacy and attention are shared outside a committed relationship long before any physical line is crossed.

For Men , as husbands, partners, sons, and boyfriends, affairs don’t happen overnight. They unfold gradually through emotional distance, loneliness, unresolved resentment, accumulated negativity, avoidance, comparison with alternatives and idealising someone else [2]. Lust may be the spark, but it is rarely the whole fire.

When an affair is exposed, the aftermath can be devastating. Guilt, shame, anger, collapse of trust, fractured families and deep confusion about who we are and what we stand for. Some try to repair what was broken. Some choose to walk away.

This Men’s Circle holds space to reflect on affairs to look honestly at how they start, what they cost and what comes after. Whether you’ve been involved, affected, betrayed or tempted, this is a grounded space to explore responsibility, atonement and rebuilding trust [3]. Forgiveness, whoever it is for and whatever it concerns, must be whole and unconditional.

Not to condemn.
Not to excuse.
Just Men, honest reflection and shared humanity.

References:

1. The most insidious type of cheating isn't physical — here are 8 signs it could be happening to you
2. How Do Affairs Happen?
3. Practical, Science-Based Steps to Heal from an Affair

SCHOOL OF THOUGHT SOCIETY invites you to:
Men's Circle April Discussion: Loneliness - Being Alone & Staying Human
📍 Where: Violet Flame KL
📅 When: Wednesday, 29 April 2026
🕗 Time: 8:00PM – 10:00PM
📞 Reservation: +6019 723 2112

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), loneliness and social isolation are more than emotional states, they are serious public health threats. Humans are biologically wired for connection and when that connection breaks down, the consequences can include higher risks of heart disease, stroke, depression, anxiety, dementia, and even premature death. Nearly one in six people worldwide report feeling lonely, and rates are even higher among adolescents, young adults, and those in low-income settings [1].

A report highlighted by the Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) shows that loneliness is rising across age groups, with young people (16–24) and older adults (65+) especially affected. Between 2015 and 2022, the share of young people meeting friends daily dropped significantly, while the risk of social isolation increased among older adults. The report also finds that men and young people have emerged as at-risk groups for loneliness and reduced relationship quality [2].

In our earlier session, men spoke about watching movies alone, attending gatherings yet returning home empty and feeling unseen even in familiar spaces. Loneliness showed up not as isolation, but as disconnection from others, from meaning and from self.

This Men’s Circle session revisits loneliness with deeper awareness. We explore how loneliness can exist and acknowledging that loneliness is not a personal failure.

We are here not to fix.
We are here not to advise.
Just Men , shared presence, and the courage to voice out what is real.

References:

1. Loneliness and isolation – the hidden threat to global health we can no longer ignore
2. Loneliness growing among young and old, says OECD