Men’s Circle - December - What They Forgot to Teach Us at School
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Most of what really matters in life — how to handle emotions, build good relationships, find purpose, or stay grounded — never showed up on a school timetable.
This men’s circle is a chance to talk about those lessons we had to learn the hard way. Inspired by The School of Life’s book What They Forgot to Teach You at School, we’ll share stories, compare notes, and maybe pick up a few insights from each other along the way.
Here are some questions to think about and come ready to discuss, as much as you are comfortable with.
- What’s one life skill you wish school had actually taught you?
- Who or what has been your “teacher” in adulthood — maybe a mentor, mistake, or experience?
- What’s something you’ve learned about handling conflict or expressing yourself that took time to figure out?
- How do you stay emotionally grounded when life gets messy?
- When you were younger, what did “success” mean to you — and has that changed?
- What helps you feel like you’re moving in the right direction these days?
- What makes conversations like this different from the ones we usually have with friends or coworkers?
- If you could pass on one “real life lesson” to a younger version of yourself, what would it be?
The book itself is very useful and I highly recommend it but you don't have to read it to attend, I've included the table of contents below as I find just perusing it can be useful when thinking about the questions above.
- A Suspicion of School
- You Don't Need Permission
- No One Cares
- No One Knows
- Understand Your Childhood
- Love Yourself
- Others Are a Lot Like You
- Be Kind
- Repair Relationships
- Manage Your Moods
- Listen to the Adult Within
- Aim for Emotional Maturity
- Be More Selfish
- Give Up on People
- Choose a Partner Carefully
- Dating Resilience
- There Is Always a Plan B
- Time Is Short
- Be Free
- There Is No Destination
- Live Light-heartedly
Looking forward to a fruitful conversation!
Mayar
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Join us for a friendly gathering of men (all ages welcome) where we’ll have an open discussion on anything and everything related to the experiences and challenges we as men face in the modern age.
The topics of discussion will vary from meeting to meeting, covering a wide range that could include work and money, relationships and intimacy, parenthood and family, loss and grief, travel and relocation, fitness and health, etc. The format is flexible and while we usually suggest topics and vote on them, we may also leverage articles or excerpts from books in the area to guide the discussion.
Please note that this isn’t meant to be therapy or coaching.
We’ll provide a safe and confidential space and require the same from all our attendees. If you’re not the type to enjoy deeper discussion, this group is probably not the right one for you. The group will be kept on the smaller side to foster an intimate setting and allow everyone enough time to share.
This group is for men only. We understand women also face many of these challenges and we encourage you to join one of the many women’s-only meet-ups available in Montreal. This group will be held in English.
There is a small fee for in-person events to cover the space costs, online events will be free.
PLEASE NOTE: This group strives to create a safe and respectful space for open dialogue that aims to heal rather than exacerbate the divisions in society. While we agree that a lot of men are struggling in the modern world, we do not condone much of the unsavoury takes found in "the manosphere". However, we do extend a warm invite to men who may have been drawn to certain ideologies but are eager to transcend them. So if you're seeking to move beyond divisive perspectives and instead choose to focus on personal growth and positive transformation to become a well-rounded active member of society (including as a partner and father, if you choose), this group is for you!