What we’re about
What we’re about:
All meetings are currently via Zoom and FREE -- perpetually -- no hidden fees or agenda.
Are you a victim or Narcissistic abuse (or feeling uncertain or confused about a person in your life)?
In this group, you will learn MANY tools such as how to:
- Recognize abuse.
- Answer the question - Was I abused or am I being abused?
- Protect yourself from abuse.
- Set healthy boundaries.
- Understand codependency.
The goal is for each and every participant to learn something about how to Love themselves...and, in so doing, feel happier and more joyful!
By Loving ourselves completely and unconditionally, we can discover and experience true happiness and joy. As we learn to Love ourselves, we begin to 'awaken' to the essence of our existence. We learn to shed the expectations society has placed on us (Ego), and we grow to understand our own and others' inherent worth and beauty.
The modality of this group is similar to group therapy. It incorporates principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Art Therapy, Meditation, and secular Spirituality. All people, all issues, all beliefs are welcome! Our regular attendees have a mix of secular and non-secular belief systems. The organizer does believe in God and asks for God's help in the healing and guiding process.
Meeting Format:
Each meeting begins with a brief discussion associated with the subject for the day listed in the event details for each meeting.
Following the subject discussion is time for individual sharing and group listening, moderated by the facilitator.*
Individual share time ranges from 15-20 minutes. During which time, the group listens in silence, until the sharer reaches a stopping point.
The moderator will ask if the sharer is:
- Seeking only to be listened to.
- Seeking supportive feedback.
- Seeking advice.
All support, feedback, or advice must be given with a loving intent and focus upon kindness and support.
Above all we share a space that is welcoming and accepting without judgement.
*The facilitator is a licensed therapist in the state of Washington and has been running this and other similar groups for more than 10 years. However, this group is not legally considered therapy, and the facilitator is not acting as a therapist in the meetings, nor can the facilitator conduct therapy for any participant - other than for Washington residents.
Here are a few resources:
```
https://www.psychologytoday.com/
good source regarding anxiety
herohouse.org - mental illness resource for jobs
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline -- Dial 988
[Genesis.org](http://genesisnow.org/explore-our-program-to-end-sex-trafficking-in-seattle/) - help for women trapped in the sex industry or abusive relationships
```
Upcoming events
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•OnlineNarcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly Meeting
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
9 attendees- •Online
Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly Meeting
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
3 attendees - •Online
Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly Meeting
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
4 attendees - •Online
Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly Meeting
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
2 attendees
Past events
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