What we’re about
What we’re about:
All meetings are currently via Zoom and FREE -- perpetually -- no hidden fees or agenda.
Are you a victim or Narcissistic abuse (or feeling uncertain or confused about a person in your life)?
In this group, you will learn MANY tools such as how to:
- Recognize abuse.
- Answer the question - Was I abused or am I being abused?
- Protect yourself from abuse.
- Set healthy boundaries.
- Understand codependency.
The goal is for each and every participant to learn something about how to Love themselves...and, in so doing, feel happier and more joyful!
By Loving ourselves completely and unconditionally, we can discover and experience true happiness and joy. As we learn to Love ourselves, we begin to 'awaken' to the essence of our existence. We learn to shed the expectations society has placed on us (Ego), and we grow to understand our own and others' inherent worth and beauty.
The modality of this group is similar to group therapy. It incorporates principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Art Therapy, Meditation, and secular Spirituality. All people, all issues, all beliefs are welcome! Our regular attendees have a mix of secular and non-secular belief systems. The organizer does believe in God and asks for God's help in the healing and guiding process.
Meeting Format:
Each meeting begins with a brief discussion associated with the subject for the day listed in the event details for each meeting.
Following the subject discussion is time for individual sharing and group listening, moderated by the facilitator.*
Individual share time ranges from 15-20 minutes. During which time, the group listens in silence, until the sharer reaches a stopping point.
The moderator will ask if the sharer is:
- Seeking only to be listened to.
- Seeking supportive feedback.
- Seeking advice.
All support, feedback, or advice must be given with a loving intent and focus upon kindness and support.
Above all we share a space that is welcoming and accepting without judgement.
*The facilitator is a licensed therapist in the state of Washington and has been running this and other similar groups for more than 10 years. However, this group is not legally considered therapy, and the facilitator is not acting as a therapist in the meetings, nor can the facilitator conduct therapy for any participant - other than for Washington residents.
Here are a few resources:
```
https://www.psychologytoday.com/
good source regarding anxiety
herohouse.org - mental illness resource for jobs
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline -- Dial 988
[Genesis.org](http://genesisnow.org/explore-our-program-to-end-sex-trafficking-in-seattle/) - help for women trapped in the sex industry or abusive relationships
```
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly MeetingLink visible for attendees
### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Setting Boundaries
Hi everyone,
During this month's weekly meetings, we’ll be diving into another important topic: Setting Boundaries. Are you an expert at setting boundaries? Then teach us!! Otherwise, you'll learn a lot in this series.Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008Password:
123456We'll break it down into four stages over as many weeks, each with key takeaways:
***
### Session 1 - 7/5: Foundations of Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do They Matter?
Group Focus:
Participants will explore the purpose of boundaries in emotional safety, identity, and relationship health, and begin distinguishing between healthy, rigid, and porous boundaries.
Healing Modalities:- Psychoeducation on boundary types and the nervous system’s response to perceived threat
- Somatic check-in and boundary-mapping visualization (e.g., personal “bubble” space)
- Group discussion on early family messages around saying "no" and expressing needs
Homework:
- Write a “Boundary History Timeline” identifying key moments when your boundaries were violated or ignored
- Practice noticing daily when you're uncomfortable but don't speak up—jot down what you feel, think, and do
***
### Session 2 - 7/12: The Nervous System and Boundary Dysregulation
Group Focus:
This session explores how trauma and attachment patterns shape our ability to set or maintain boundaries, and how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses in real time.
Healing Modalities:- Guided somatic exercise: tracking bodily sensations during interpersonal discomfort
- Group discussion: “What does safety feel like in the body?”
- Polyvagal theory primer with real-life examples
Homework:
- Practice a daily 5-minute body scan and journal how your body signals a “yes” vs. a “no”
- Create a personal “Boundary Cue Card” listing internal signs you’re abandoning yourself
***
### Session 3 - 7/19: Speaking Boundaries – From Fear to Assertiveness
Group Focus:
Participants will learn practical communication tools to express boundaries clearly and compassionately, even when fear or guilt arises.
Healing Modalities:- Role-play exercises: “Scripting your No” and “Setting Limits with Love”
- Group reflection on guilt, fear of rejection, and people-pleasing
- Voice activation: breathwork and tone exercises to strengthen vocal expression
Homework:
- Practice setting one small, non-threatening boundary with someone in your life
- Journal about how it felt before, during, and after—what came up emotionally and physically?
***
### Session 4 - 7/26: Maintaining Boundaries and Reclaiming Autonomy
Group Focus:
The final session focuses on sustaining boundaries long-term, dealing with pushback, and building a life anchored in self-respect and emotional authenticity.
Healing Modalities:- Guided visualization: "Meeting Your Future Self Who Honors Their Boundaries"
- Paired partner work: supporting each other’s boundary goals and troubleshooting common challenges
- Group ritual: releasing guilt and claiming personal power
Homework:
- Create a “Boundary Maintenance Plan” that includes self-care practices, accountability partners, and phrases to use when reasserting limits
- Write a letter to your inner child promising to protect and honor their needs moving forward
***
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk - Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly MeetingLink visible for attendees
### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Setting Boundaries
Hi everyone,
During this month's weekly meetings, we’ll be diving into another important topic: Setting Boundaries. Are you an expert at setting boundaries? Then teach us!! Otherwise, you'll learn a lot in this series.Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008Password:
123456We'll break it down into four stages over as many weeks, each with key takeaways:
***
### Session 1 - 7/5: Foundations of Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do They Matter?
Group Focus:
Participants will explore the purpose of boundaries in emotional safety, identity, and relationship health, and begin distinguishing between healthy, rigid, and porous boundaries.
Healing Modalities:- Psychoeducation on boundary types and the nervous system’s response to perceived threat
- Somatic check-in and boundary-mapping visualization (e.g., personal “bubble” space)
- Group discussion on early family messages around saying "no" and expressing needs
Homework:
- Write a “Boundary History Timeline” identifying key moments when your boundaries were violated or ignored
- Practice noticing daily when you're uncomfortable but don't speak up—jot down what you feel, think, and do
***
### Session 2 - 7/12: The Nervous System and Boundary Dysregulation
Group Focus:
This session explores how trauma and attachment patterns shape our ability to set or maintain boundaries, and how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses in real time.
Healing Modalities:- Guided somatic exercise: tracking bodily sensations during interpersonal discomfort
- Group discussion: “What does safety feel like in the body?”
- Polyvagal theory primer with real-life examples
Homework:
- Practice a daily 5-minute body scan and journal how your body signals a “yes” vs. a “no”
- Create a personal “Boundary Cue Card” listing internal signs you’re abandoning yourself
***
### Session 3 - 7/19: Speaking Boundaries – From Fear to Assertiveness
Group Focus:
Participants will learn practical communication tools to express boundaries clearly and compassionately, even when fear or guilt arises.
Healing Modalities:- Role-play exercises: “Scripting your No” and “Setting Limits with Love”
- Group reflection on guilt, fear of rejection, and people-pleasing
- Voice activation: breathwork and tone exercises to strengthen vocal expression
Homework:
- Practice setting one small, non-threatening boundary with someone in your life
- Journal about how it felt before, during, and after—what came up emotionally and physically?
***
### Session 4 - 7/26: Maintaining Boundaries and Reclaiming Autonomy
Group Focus:
The final session focuses on sustaining boundaries long-term, dealing with pushback, and building a life anchored in self-respect and emotional authenticity.
Healing Modalities:- Guided visualization: "Meeting Your Future Self Who Honors Their Boundaries"
- Paired partner work: supporting each other’s boundary goals and troubleshooting common challenges
- Group ritual: releasing guilt and claiming personal power
Homework:
- Create a “Boundary Maintenance Plan” that includes self-care practices, accountability partners, and phrases to use when reasserting limits
- Write a letter to your inner child promising to protect and honor their needs moving forward
***
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk - Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly MeetingLink visible for attendees
### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Setting Boundaries
Hi everyone,
During this month's weekly meetings, we’ll be diving into another important topic: Setting Boundaries. Are you an expert at setting boundaries? Then teach us!! Otherwise, you'll learn a lot in this series.Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008Password:
123456We'll break it down into four stages over as many weeks, each with key takeaways:
***
### Session 1 - 7/5: Foundations of Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do They Matter?
Group Focus:
Participants will explore the purpose of boundaries in emotional safety, identity, and relationship health, and begin distinguishing between healthy, rigid, and porous boundaries.
Healing Modalities:- Psychoeducation on boundary types and the nervous system’s response to perceived threat
- Somatic check-in and boundary-mapping visualization (e.g., personal “bubble” space)
- Group discussion on early family messages around saying "no" and expressing needs
Homework:
- Write a “Boundary History Timeline” identifying key moments when your boundaries were violated or ignored
- Practice noticing daily when you're uncomfortable but don't speak up—jot down what you feel, think, and do
***
### Session 2 - 7/12: The Nervous System and Boundary Dysregulation
Group Focus:
This session explores how trauma and attachment patterns shape our ability to set or maintain boundaries, and how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses in real time.
Healing Modalities:- Guided somatic exercise: tracking bodily sensations during interpersonal discomfort
- Group discussion: “What does safety feel like in the body?”
- Polyvagal theory primer with real-life examples
Homework:
- Practice a daily 5-minute body scan and journal how your body signals a “yes” vs. a “no”
- Create a personal “Boundary Cue Card” listing internal signs you’re abandoning yourself
***
### Session 3 - 7/19: Speaking Boundaries – From Fear to Assertiveness
Group Focus:
Participants will learn practical communication tools to express boundaries clearly and compassionately, even when fear or guilt arises.
Healing Modalities:- Role-play exercises: “Scripting your No” and “Setting Limits with Love”
- Group reflection on guilt, fear of rejection, and people-pleasing
- Voice activation: breathwork and tone exercises to strengthen vocal expression
Homework:
- Practice setting one small, non-threatening boundary with someone in your life
- Journal about how it felt before, during, and after—what came up emotionally and physically?
***
### Session 4 - 7/26: Maintaining Boundaries and Reclaiming Autonomy
Group Focus:
The final session focuses on sustaining boundaries long-term, dealing with pushback, and building a life anchored in self-respect and emotional authenticity.
Healing Modalities:- Guided visualization: "Meeting Your Future Self Who Honors Their Boundaries"
- Paired partner work: supporting each other’s boundary goals and troubleshooting common challenges
- Group ritual: releasing guilt and claiming personal power
Homework:
- Create a “Boundary Maintenance Plan” that includes self-care practices, accountability partners, and phrases to use when reasserting limits
- Write a letter to your inner child promising to protect and honor their needs moving forward
***
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk - Narcissistic Abuse: Recognize-Survive-Recover-Defend -- Weekly MeetingLink visible for attendees
### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Setting Boundaries
Hi everyone,
During this month's weekly meetings, we’ll be diving into another important topic: Setting Boundaries. Are you an expert at setting boundaries? Then teach us!! Otherwise, you'll learn a lot in this series.Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008Password:
123456We'll break it down into four stages over as many weeks, each with key takeaways:
***
### Session 1 - 7/5: Foundations of Boundaries – What Are They and Why Do They Matter?
Group Focus:
Participants will explore the purpose of boundaries in emotional safety, identity, and relationship health, and begin distinguishing between healthy, rigid, and porous boundaries.
Healing Modalities:- Psychoeducation on boundary types and the nervous system’s response to perceived threat
- Somatic check-in and boundary-mapping visualization (e.g., personal “bubble” space)
- Group discussion on early family messages around saying "no" and expressing needs
Homework:
- Write a “Boundary History Timeline” identifying key moments when your boundaries were violated or ignored
- Practice noticing daily when you're uncomfortable but don't speak up—jot down what you feel, think, and do
***
### Session 2 - 7/12: The Nervous System and Boundary Dysregulation
Group Focus:
This session explores how trauma and attachment patterns shape our ability to set or maintain boundaries, and how to recognize fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses in real time.
Healing Modalities:- Guided somatic exercise: tracking bodily sensations during interpersonal discomfort
- Group discussion: “What does safety feel like in the body?”
- Polyvagal theory primer with real-life examples
Homework:
- Practice a daily 5-minute body scan and journal how your body signals a “yes” vs. a “no”
- Create a personal “Boundary Cue Card” listing internal signs you’re abandoning yourself
***
### Session 3 - 7/19: Speaking Boundaries – From Fear to Assertiveness
Group Focus:
Participants will learn practical communication tools to express boundaries clearly and compassionately, even when fear or guilt arises.
Healing Modalities:- Role-play exercises: “Scripting your No” and “Setting Limits with Love”
- Group reflection on guilt, fear of rejection, and people-pleasing
- Voice activation: breathwork and tone exercises to strengthen vocal expression
Homework:
- Practice setting one small, non-threatening boundary with someone in your life
- Journal about how it felt before, during, and after—what came up emotionally and physically?
***
### Session 4 - 7/26: Maintaining Boundaries and Reclaiming Autonomy
Group Focus:
The final session focuses on sustaining boundaries long-term, dealing with pushback, and building a life anchored in self-respect and emotional authenticity.
Healing Modalities:- Guided visualization: "Meeting Your Future Self Who Honors Their Boundaries"
- Paired partner work: supporting each other’s boundary goals and troubleshooting common challenges
- Group ritual: releasing guilt and claiming personal power
Homework:
- Create a “Boundary Maintenance Plan” that includes self-care practices, accountability partners, and phrases to use when reasserting limits
- Write a letter to your inner child promising to protect and honor their needs moving forward
***
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
