About us
We meet every other week, usually on Friday evenings or weekends, so there’s plenty of time to recharge between events without losing momentum. Our gatherings are thoughtfully spaced to give you time to reflect and stay excited for the next adventure whether that’s a cozy wine tasting, a nature hike, or a creative workshop designed to spark real conversation.
Between events, members stay in touch through our private message board, where you can share reflections, plan casual hangouts, or just keep the connection going. It’s a low pressure space to get to know people at your own pace, swap book recommendations, or hype each other up before the next gathering.
We’re looking for locals who are genuinely ready for something real not just swiping or surface level chats. If you’re kind, emotionally aware, and ready to build something lasting with someone who shares your values, this is your crowd. You’re probably the type who believes love is worth the effort, and you’re not afraid to show up as yourself.
Accessibility matters to us, so we rotate venues to ensure a mix of indoor and outdoor options with wheelchair access, gender neutral restrooms, and quiet spaces when needed. We also provide transportation tips and can arrange carpooling to help make sure no one misses out. If you have a specific need, just let us know we’re here to make it work.
If you’re tired of the dating game and ready for something deeper, this is your invitation. The Ontological Eros Starling Club is more than events it’s a shared journey toward meaningful connection, with people who get it. Come as you are, bring your whole self, and let’s build something real together.
Upcoming events
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Bakersfield Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
QJ9W+2R Central Waterfront, Oakland, CA, US💘 Start Your Speed Dating Journey Here – Online, Simple & Relaxed!
⚠️ RSVP ≠ Registration!
Your Meetup RSVP on its own does not lock in a spot. You must click your age group link below, finish registration, and complete the personality quiz. Places are limited and go quickly!
📋 Find Your Age Range Below to Register:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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🌟 Interested in meeting real singles without the bar scene? You're home! We created this event for people who are over the apps but aren't ready for loud mixers. It's the perfect middle ground – online, personal, hosted, and filled with genuine Bakersfield singles seeking real connections.
🎯 Perfect for:
- People wanting to meet local Bakersfield singles without stepping outside
- Introverts who thrive in one-on-one conversations
- Working professionals who prioritise their time and comfort
- Singles who value a guided, hosted dating format
Event Details
- Format: Zoom gathering – real-time chats in a chill online space
- Location: Wherever you’re most relaxed – that’s your date spot tonight
- Host: Encouraging facilitator experienced in helping first-timers enjoy speed dating
- Vibe: Comfortable chats with Bakersfield singles in a supportive, newcomer-friendly setting
- Matching: Driven by our personality quiz for stronger compatibility
- Duration: About 1 to 1.5 hours – plenty of time to meet great people without going too long
How It Works
- Sign Up for Your Age Group – Pick the session that matches your age range above and finish registration.
- Finish Your Profile Quiz – A brief questionnaire so we can find your ideal matches.
- Go Live – Enter the Zoom room, say hi to your host, and get ready for a brilliant night.
- The Fun Part – Rotate through rounds of lively chats with pre-matched Bakersfield singles.
- Discover Your Matches – We’ll let you know about any mutual interest afterwards. The rest is up to you!
💡 Top tip: Good lighting and a tidy background make a big difference on Zoom dates.
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✨ Stop waiting for the ideal moment. This is it. Meet Bakersfield singles this evening! 🫶 ✨36 attendees
Fresno Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
RM4F+G4 Oakland, Oakland, CA, US🥰 Effortless Online Speed Dating – No Pressure, Authentic Connections, Beginners Welcome!
🔴 PLEASE READ: RSVP Alone Won't Secure Entry!
To participate, you must: (1) Click your age group link below, (2) Finish registration, and (3) Complete the personality quiz. Limited places available – sign up now before they're taken!
📌 Sign Up for Your Age Group Here:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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☕ What if your next date kicked off from your sofa? It totally can! We've guided thousands of newcomers into discovering how fun speed dating from home can be. Quick, enjoyable conversations with compatible singles – it's simpler than you'd expect and far more rewarding than any dating app.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Singles who feel uneasy about meeting in person and prefer starting from home
- Singles who feel most at ease connecting from home first
- Anyone after a fun, organised way to meet new people
Event Details
- Format: Hosted live via Zoom – guided, enjoyable, and hassle-free
- Location: No venue necessary – just a comfy chair and a solid internet connection
- Host: Skilled facilitator who guides first-time speed daters with patience
- Vibe: Easy-going connections with friendly Fresno singles – enjoyable and relaxed
How It Works
- Sign Up for Your Age Group – Pick the session that matches your age range above and finish registration.
- Complete the Quick Compatibility Quiz – Helps us match you with like-minded Fresno newcomers.
- Hop on Zoom – Pour yourself a drink, get settled, and let the host walk you through each round.
- Speed Dating Rounds – Enjoy hosted, structured chats with friendly Fresno singles.
- Your Results – Check your matches and take the next step with someone special.
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✨ Virtual speed dating tailored for newcomers – meet local singles right from home. Come join us! 🫶 ✨36 attendees
Sacramento Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
QMGF+X6 West Alameda, Oakland, CA, US✨ Speed Dating at Home – A Friendly, Inclusive Space for First Timers!
⚠️ IMPORTANT: Your RSVP Does NOT Secure a Place!
To confirm your spot, you must register and finish the personality quiz using one of the age group links below. Pick your age range, click to register, and take the quiz. Places are limited – don't delay!
📋 Find Your Age Range Below to Register:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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🛋️ No dressing up or going out required. Speed date right from your couch! This isn't a standard dating event. It's a curated, online experience where newcomers meet compatible Sacramento singles in a relaxed, hosted setting. No pressure – just potential.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Anyone after a fun, organised way to meet new people
- Singles who value a guided, hosted dating format
- Anyone giving speed dating a go for the very first time
- Anyone who's done with swiping and craves genuine conversation
Event Details
- Format: Virtual via Zoom – relaxed, low-key from wherever you are
- Location: Wherever you happen to be – no commute, no parking, no fuss
- Host: Charismatic host who keeps the mood positive and the nerves at bay
- Vibe: A feel-good evening of laughs and connection with Sacramento newcomers
How It Works
- Sign Up for Your Age Group – Pick the session that matches your age range above and finish registration.
- Do the Short Personality Assessment – This lets us optimise your matches for the night.
- Go Live – Enter the Zoom room, say hi to your host, and get ready for a brilliant night.
- Speed Dating Rounds – Enjoy hosted, structured chats with friendly Sacramento singles.
- Connect After the Event – Mutual matches are shared so you can keep the conversation going.
💡 Quick tip: Smile when you answer the call – it sets a great tone for the conversation!
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✨ One event, many conversations, endless possibilities. Sign up now and see what happens! 💝 ✨36 attendees
Long Beach Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
1030 Marina Village Pkwy, Oakland, CA, US💝 Relaxed Online Speed Dating – Crafted for Newcomers & First Timers!
⚠️ IMPORTANT: Your RSVP Does NOT Secure a Place!
To confirm your spot, you must register and finish the personality quiz using one of the age group links below. Pick your age range, click to register, and take the quiz. Places are limited – don't delay!
📌 Sign Up for Your Age Group Here:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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👋 Trying speed dating for the first time? You'll wish you'd started earlier! We've guided thousands of newcomers into discovering how fun speed dating from home can be. Quick, enjoyable conversations with compatible singles – it's simpler than you'd expect and far more rewarding than any dating app.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Newcomers who want a relaxed, hosted experience
- Anyone after a fun, organised way to meet new people
- First-time speed daters after a friendly, easy-going experience
- Anyone who feels uneasy about conventional dating scenes
- Working professionals who prioritise their time and comfort
Event Details
- Format: Hosted live via Zoom – guided, enjoyable, and hassle-free
- Location: Anywhere you have Wi-Fi – your sofa, your café, your pick
- Host: Engaging guide who creates a relaxed, pressure-free space for beginners
- Vibe: Great energy, honest talk, and genuine connections with Long Beach locals
- Privacy: Your contact details are never shared without mutual agreement
- Matches: Mutual matches shared after the event wraps up
- Rounds: Several short rounds so you can meet plenty of people
- Atmosphere: Positive, inclusive, and completely judgement-free
How It Works
- Choose Your Age Range – Click the link for your age group and complete sign-up.
- Finish Your Profile Quiz – A brief questionnaire so we can find your ideal matches.
- Jump on Zoom – Your host will greet you and guide you through everything.
- The Fun Part – Rotate through rounds of lively chats with pre-matched Long Beach singles.
- Connect After the Event – Mutual matches are shared so you can keep the conversation going.
💡 Pro tip: Have a beverage ready and find a quiet, well-lit area for the best experience.
⭐ "I nearly didn't sign up because I was anxious. So happy I did – best choice I've made!" – First-time speed dater
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✨ One event, many conversations, endless possibilities. Sign up now and see what happens! 💘 ✨36 attendees
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