Childhood experiences-do they shape adult life?-new venue Vasaplan 4

Dear all,
Childhood is often described as a magical, carefree time - but it’s also one of the most vulnerable phases of life.
Our brain, nervous system, sense of self, and emotional capacity are shaped during those early years. Yet we rarely talk about how deeply childhood experiences influence our wellbeing throughout adult life.
Attachment theory describes several patterns:

• Secure – when we felt seen, safe, and emotionally comfortable and content
• Anxious – when love or attention was unpredictable
• Avoidant – when emotions were pushed away or ignored
• Disorganized – when the caregiver provided both comfort and fear

These patterns are not flaws - they are emotional adaptations, survival strategies learned in childhood.
At the coming club meeting we explore one central question:
I was a secure child and am secure adult or is there some of my inner-self stuck in child experiences, searching for safety and security in adulthood.
Discussion Questions

1. What emotions come up first when you think about your childhood - harmony, unconditional love or confusion, pressure, something else? Why these emotions?
2. What did you learn about expressing emotions - was it okay, or were you discouraged, ignored, or unpredictable? How does that show up today?
3. What kind of “safety” did you need most as a child - and do you seek the same kind now?
4. Did you feel more responsible, independent, or worried than other kids of your age? How might that have shaped you?
5. When someone is upset with you now, do you react calmly, or does the child version of you appear? - trying to prove your worth, shutting down, fixing everything, crying or feeling grudges.
6. Did you feel loved and appreciated in the childhood – unconditionally or conditionally? Do you still chase and try to earn love in adulthood? How do you treat others?
7. What did your family teach you about mistakes - danger, shame, or learning? How does this affect your self-respect and self-esteem? How do you treat others now in this aspect?
8. If your inner child could tell your adult self one thing, what would it be?
9. What childhood pattern do you think you’ve repeated without noticing?
10. What pattern have you already outgrown or healed? What helped you change it?

I will guide the sessions as a Mindshifting mentor, if you are curious, open, and ready to reflect together—welcome to the group.
Join us to connect, reflect, and discover how small shifts can make a big difference.
Warm regards,
Vilija