A Lesson of Break up

## THE LESSONS OF A BREAKUP

### What can I take with me into my next relationship?

1. What positive things did I learn about myself from this relationship?
2. What positive things did I learn from or about the other person?
3. What did this relationship teach me about my boundaries?
4. Could I have recognized the problems or red flags earlier?
5. Have I healed my wounds, or am I hoping that someone else will heal them for me?
6. What conflicts did we have, why did they arise, and how could I have handled them better? Were they about the actual problem – or about ego?
7. How have my feelings and reactions to the breakup changed over time? What did I feel initially – and what do I feel now?
8. What was hardest for me to let go of: the person, the relationship, the shared life, or the future I had imagined?
9. Looking back, were there things I ignored, accepted or explained away that I would recognize differently today?
10. What responsibility can I take for my part in the relationship – without taking responsibility for the other person's choices?
11. What patterns or dynamics do I not want to repeat?
12. Has the breakup changed what I look for in a future partner? If so, how?
13. How am I evolving as a person because of this experience?
14. What can I do differently in my next relationship because of what I know now?

### Final reflection

If this relationship was a chapter in my life rather than the whole story, what was the lesson of that chapter?
What am I grateful to take with me – and what am I ready to leave behind?

See you there,
Vilija

A Different Date is an educational discussion event developed from the Practical Psychology Club. It offers you a chance to understand yourself better while meeting other singles who are also looking for a meaningful relationship.
Important criteria

• Openness, curiosity, and a willingness to know yourself better while connecting with others through meaningful conversations.
• A moderated discussion based on open-ended questions and reflective insights.

This is an educational activity, not a speed-dating event or matchmaking service. The aim is to promote self-awareness and authentic connections with other singles.

I look forward to meeting you!
Vilija Oke (MD, PhD and mentor)