Olympia Discussion: When You Stop Chasing Love: Man Fasting & Emotional Sobriety

Welcome to this week’s women’s circle! Tonight, we’ll focus on connection and self-discovery. We’ll begin with a fun icebreaker to set the tone and get to know one another better. From there, we’ll explore the evening’s topic, 'When You Stop Chasing Love: Man Fasting & Emotional Sobriety,' through open discussion, sharing our thoughts, and reflecting on personal experiences. This gathering is a space to connect, grow, and be inspired by one another’s journeys. We’ll close with a moment to set intentions, leaving with fresh perspectives and a sense of support. Let’s dive in and make this time meaningful together!

Below is the "Mindful Musing" for the week which includes our Main Topic and some questions for us to explore together!

There comes a moment when the constant hum of “maybe he’ll call” or “maybe this time will be different” just… becomes unbearable. You’re not broken. You’re just burned out from trying to earn love instead of simply receiving it.

So what happens when you stop? What happens when you step off the cycle of hope-disappointment, of overanalyzing texts, of curating your life to be more “attractive”—and just sit with yourself?

At first, it’s disorienting. The silence is loud. Your phone doesn’t buzz as much. You might feel the urge to re-download the apps or check his Instagram "just in case." But stay with it.

This is the emotional sobriety we don’t talk about enough—detoxing from the high of attention, the distraction of fantasy, the little dopamine hits that come from “what if.” It’s not just about men. It’s about reclaiming your energy from anything that pulls you out of your center.
Because when you stop chasing, something wild happens: You find the parts of yourself you’ve been too distracted to meet. You realize how much time you've spent orbiting around someone else’s potential rather than anchoring into your own.

This session is not about swearing off relationships—it’s about falling back in love with your own presence. With your own magic. With your own enoughness. No performance. No pretending.

Just you. And she is more than enough.

### Discussion Questions

1. What relationship patterns do you use as a distraction from yourself?
2. How do you feel when no one is texting, liking, or validating you romantically?
3. What emotions surface when you're not “talking to someone” or dating?
4. Where have you compromised your standards just to feel wanted?
5. What version of yourself do you present when you’re hoping to be chosen?
6. When have you felt most powerful or clear while single?
7. What’s one belief you’ve held about love that no longer serves you?
8. What does emotional sobriety mean to you?
9. How do you fill your time and space when you're not pursuing or being pursued?
10. What would it look like to reclaim your energy and redirect it toward your own healing, joy, or growth?