The Rise of Choicetech | Love in the Time of Dating Apps

Dating apps don’t just change who we meet, they change how we decide.

This session is part of Love in the Time of Dating Apps, a multi-part series exploring modern dating through the lens of decision-making in the Information Age. Each session stands on its own, but together they offer a deeper framework for understanding why choosing can feel so draining, confusing, or effortful today.

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A ticket is required to attend. Space is limited.
Sliding scale pricing $5-$35. Reserve your spot today.

About This Session
As uncertainty has become a defining condition of modern life, we’ve increasingly turned to technology to help us manage both information and choice. Choicetech refers to tools and systems designed to structure decision-making under conditions of complexity and uncertainty, by filtering, ranking, pacing, and framing information so choices feel more manageable.

This session explores the rise of choicetech as both a response to and a driver of the Information Age. Using dating apps as a familiar, concrete example, we’ll look at how these systems shape what we see, what we ignore, what feels meaningful, and how quickly we’re pushed to decide. Rather than framing dating apps as “good” or “bad,” the focus is on understanding how choicetech influences perception, evaluation, and timing.

This is not a dating advice talk. There are no scripts, hacks, or promised outcomes. Instead, it’s an educational, reflective conversation about the systems we’re dating inside and what changes when we can finally see them more clearly.

Who This Is For

• People currently using dating apps
• People thinking about using online dating
• Anyone curious about how technology shapes everyday decision-making

This event is intentionally dating-goal, orientation, and identity agnostic. The focus is on how decisions are shaped, not what you should want or aim for.

What to Expect

• A grounded, nerdy, and accessible presentation
• Interactive moments to reflect privately on your own experience
• A realistic but ultimately hopeful perspective

Ticket Required.
RSVP on Meetup is for interest only. Admission requires advance registration via Remake The Rules.
A sliding scale contribution of $5-$35 is requested for this event. Your contribution helps cover the costs involved in creating thoughtful, accessible programming and supports the continuation of this series.

About the Facilitator
This session is led by Emily Pabst, Choicetech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules. Emily’s work focuses on helping people understand and actively shape how modern systems and technologies influence decision-making across dating, leading, and everyday life.