About us
"Return to Connect" is a community of folks from all around the world who are using emotional-regulation tools together. Events are facilitated by Ly-Lan Lofgren.
Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, therapist, coach, and facilitor, leads these circles to help people practice effective tools to reach their goals.
Our Free Monday groups are 15 minutes of positive, supportive EMDR and EFT Tapping led by LCSW, Ly-Lan Lofgren. followed by socializing and Q&A. We have up to 80 members practicing together, live, internationally. It's a powerful group experience, and only takes 15 minutes.
Our free Accountability Buddy hours help us accomplish our to-do list tasks, with support and encouragement. This Body Doubling time helps us to stay focus and use more of our resources to overcome task paralysis with community support.
Our free Q&A with a Sex Therapist allows us to be in a sex positive space with each other, say the silly thing, ask the silly question and let the discussions lead to deeper self-awareness, communication and lots of fellowship. Ly-Lan, LCSW, Sex Therapist since 2007, previously trained and certified through AASECT.
Our free in-person gatherings might involve an existing event or outdoor venue. There is not an additional fee, but some activities may have fees paid to the event company.
Paid small groups and workshops have specific topics and evidence-based effective tools including Self-Hypnosis, EMDR, and EFT. Special topics include procrastination, digestive discomfort, Trans 101, Self-Regulation for Leaders. Vulva Puppet and empowerment, Vulva Origami and empowerment, High Intensity/Gifted relationships, mindfulness, couples intimacy workshops, and so much more!
Ly-Lan Lofgren facilitates each group, and co-hosts may be invited for some groups.
We also have an optional WhatsApp Group for daily support.
There are many resources for personal growth and helpful communities. If you feel drawn to work with Ly-Lan, please reach out.
For a free introduction, or to schedule individual therapy or coaching with Ly-Lan:
www.LofgrenTherapy.com
Please do not email or text your personal history. By facilitating online informational groups, Ly-Lan does not agree to provide psychotherapy services for any member. If you are interested in individual sessions, please contact Ly-Lan and wait for a response and initial introduction before sharing personal history.
Upcoming events
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Nervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Your own self-realization is the greatest service you can render the world," -Ramana Maharshi
Group: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays 11am PSTWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PST/PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.We will use these tools with only positive thoughts and experiences. We do not use these tools in this brief group setting to address any upsetting material.
Healing from trauma is a valuable journey, and not directly addressed in this 15 minute group. This group is just one tool which focuses on rewiring our brains and nervous systems for safety, security and self-nurturing.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
We also have a WhatsApp group for support & reminders.
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&AAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
7 attendeesNervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Your own self-realization is the greatest service you can render the world," -Ramana Maharshi
Group: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays 11am PSTWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PST/PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.We will use these tools with only positive thoughts and experiences. We do not use these tools in this brief group setting to address any upsetting material.
Healing from trauma is a valuable journey, and not directly addressed in this 15 minute group. This group is just one tool which focuses on rewiring our brains and nervous systems for safety, security and self-nurturing.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
We also have a WhatsApp group for support & reminders.
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&AAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
2 attendeesNervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Your own self-realization is the greatest service you can render the world," -Ramana Maharshi
Group: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays 11am PSTWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PST/PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.We will use these tools with only positive thoughts and experiences. We do not use these tools in this brief group setting to address any upsetting material.
Healing from trauma is a valuable journey, and not directly addressed in this 15 minute group. This group is just one tool which focuses on rewiring our brains and nervous systems for safety, security and self-nurturing.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
We also have a WhatsApp group for support & reminders.
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&AAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
2 attendees
Mile Square Park, Fountain Valley, CA Archery
Milesquare Park, Fountain Valley, ca, USLet's play outside!
In-Person Archery Introduction, Mile Square Park, Fountain Valley, CA, USA
Meet up Group: Return to Connect
Event: In-Person Archery for Stress Relief and Socializing
Where: Mile Square Park, Archery Range
When: September 30, 4-6pm
Requirement: Registration with OCParks on Septmber 16Archery is an amazing opportunity to practice thought training, breath techniques, positive self-talk, and be outside.
We will use this event to meet fellow Return To Connect practitioners in person, and practice or learn about archery. Ly-Lan is not creating or facilitating this OC Parks event. Ly-Lan inviting you to play at an existing event, and have space to socialize during and after.
This is an Orange County Park activity, and you do need to create an orange county recreation account and register on Sept 16.
Next Steps: Set your calendar for September 16- that is the Orange County registration date. and set another calendar reminder for September 30th at 4, that is the class. https://parks.oc.gov/events/introduction-archery-adults-0
We will meet a few minutes before the class to make introductions, and then chat afterwards.
"Return To Connect" reminds us to return to our most resourced selves in order to connect with each other and our goals.
We would like to meet in person and build a supportive community when possible.Please arrive Early to account for traffic, parking, bathroom and other tasks. We will begin on time.
We are still putting this event together.
These events are casually curated by group members to build community where they each live. If you have suggestions for an in-person meet-up please make a suggestion.*Who is Ly-Lan?
Psychology Today Profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Insta: ReturnToConnect https://www.instagram.com/returntoconnect/
Ly-Lan has enjoyed facilitating group experiences since 1996, witnessing meaningful connections grow.- Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
No. Your insurance may provide reimbursement.
*How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~You can also share this practice with people in your life, to keep yourself and them in a healthy habit routine (like flossing teeth).
~And if you would like to leave typed feedback, with your own words, that is also very helpful. (Meetup, Yelp, Google Maps, Healthgrades: Ly-Lan Lofgren)Connect:
- Meetup Group “Return to Connect” has free online EMDR and EFT Tapping on Mondays. There are paid small groups and also in-person events, like this one. https://www.meetup.com/returntoconnect
- Return To Connect: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/returntoconnect/
- Schedule a free 15 minute introduction: https://calendly.com/ly-lan/15minuteintro
- Call or text with questions, comments, feedback 1-805-762-4598
2 attendees- Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
Past events
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