About us
"Return to Connect" is a community of folks from all around the world who are using emotional-regulation tools together. Events are facilitated by Ly-Lan Lofgren.
Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, therapist, coach, and facilitor, leads these circles to help people practice effective tools to reach their goals.
Our Free Monday groups are 15 minutes of positive, supportive EMDR and EFT Tapping led by LCSW, Ly-Lan Lofgren. followed by socializing and Q&A. We have up to 80 members practicing together, live, internationally. It's a powerful group experience, and only takes 15 minutes.
Our free Accountability Buddy hours help us accomplish our to-do list tasks, with support and encouragement. This Body Doubling time helps us to stay focus and use more of our resources to overcome task paralysis with community support.
Our free Q&A with a Sex Therapist allows us to be in a sex positive space with each other, say the silly thing, ask the silly question and let the discussions lead to deeper self-awareness, communication and lots of fellowship. Ly-Lan, LCSW, Sex Therapist since 2007, previously trained and certified through AASECT.
Our free in-person gatherings might involve an existing event or outdoor venue. There is not an additional fee, but some activities may have fees paid to the event company.
Paid small groups and workshops have specific topics and evidence-based effective tools including Self-Hypnosis, EMDR, and EFT. Special topics include procrastination, digestive discomfort, Trans 101, Self-Regulation for Leaders. Vulva Puppet and empowerment, Vulva Origami and empowerment, High Intensity/Gifted relationships, mindfulness, couples intimacy workshops, and so much more!
Ly-Lan Lofgren facilitates each group, and co-hosts may be invited for some groups.
We also have an optional WhatsApp Group for daily support.
There are many resources for personal growth and helpful communities. If you feel drawn to work with Ly-Lan, please reach out.
For a free introduction, or to schedule individual therapy or coaching with Ly-Lan:
www.LofgrenTherapy.com
Please do not email or text your personal history. By facilitating online informational groups, Ly-Lan does not agree to provide psychotherapy services for any member. If you are interested in individual sessions, please contact Ly-Lan and wait for a response and initial introduction before sharing personal history.
Upcoming events
11
Nervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things." - Mary OliverGroup: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays* 11am PST
*most mondaysWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other Return To Connect events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&A
Oct 8 - free in-person Yoga Long Beach Yogalution
Oct 12 - paid workshop from Limited to Expansive
Oct 21 - in-person Confluence Rising Breakfast, Long BeachAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
10 attendees
Intimacy and Sexuality Q & A with Sex Therapist
·OnlineOnline"Sex? That's not so simple."
Mae West, age 83Group: Return to Connect
Event: Sex Therapy Q&A
Host: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, Sex Therapist
When: Monthly First Tuesdays 11:30am PST
Where: Zoom, You must have some identifying name (initials are also fine) and your camera must be on. You must be at least 18.Questions about Anything Sexuality Related: Polyamory, Non-binary, Orgasm, post-cancer, asexual, long-term monogamy, living with disabilities, post-infidelity, new couples, new parents, pain, shyness, differences in desire, kink, mental illness, new diagnoses, queer, affects of news and media on our sexuality, life, anything.
People have presented all situations and circumstances with the goal of improving their own sexuality and their relationship sexualities. And we create the path to success for all situations. There are real resources and real sources of helpful information available to support you on your journey.Welcome to 30 minutes of Sex Therapist, Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, answering your sex and sexuality related questions.
Ly-Lan has over 20 years of experience as a Sex Therapist working with individuals, couples, and classes as a sex therapist, will discuss your topics and answer your questions.
This session is not therapy, no assessment or treatment planning will take place. Ly-Lan does not agree to provide therapuetic services by offering this group. Please contact Ly-Lan with your return-call information only, not personal history.
If you are interested in a private therapy or coaching session, please first schedule an intake, as you would with any service provider (for example, physical therapist, medical doctor, personal trainer). After making an agreed upon scheduled call, 15 minute free call, or a full consultation session, where Ly-Lan will talk with you, live, about your questions, concerns and goals.
Ly-Lan Lofgren earned AASECT Sex Therapy Certification in 2007, and maintained it for years, and continues to porivde services as a therapist, coach and speaker with specialities in sexuality, trauma, and personal trasnformation. 1-805-762-4598 www.LofgrenTherapy.com
Other events in Meetup Group "Return To Connect" include:
Free EMDR and EFT practice - Mondays 11am PST
Free Accountability Hour - Get your tasks done, variable schedule
Paid Small Groups and Workshops for EMDR, EFT, hypnosis, and/or specific topicsAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, sex, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
*** Ly-Lan is available for your curiosity and concern, and will disconnect from political or moral debate or abusive interactions.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
*Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. This is a sex-positive community, gathering to discuss sex and sexuality topics.*Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator for over 20 years, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. Please do not share your personal details with Ly-Lan in a message. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.
*How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
3 attendeesNervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things." - Mary OliverGroup: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays* 11am PST
*most mondaysWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other Return To Connect events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&A
Oct 8 - free in-person Yoga Long Beach Yogalution
Oct 12 - paid workshop from Limited to Expansive
Oct 21 - in-person Confluence Rising Breakfast, Long BeachAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
5 attendeesNervous System Reset, EMDR and EFT
·OnlineOnline"Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things." - Mary OliverGroup: Return To Connect
Event: Nervous System Reset, Guided Stress Relief
EMDR & EFT Tapping, 15 minutes Live, Together
Scheduled: Mondays* 11am PST
*most mondaysWelcome
Please read this, to help with your expectations for the 15 minute Free practice group.Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will lead us through EMDR and EFT tapping practices to help us return to our most resourced self. From this grounded state, we connect more readily with with our goals and other people. This is a welcoming, positive, supportive group; we do not focus on trauma or disturbing material.
This group begins with practice, instead of introductions or explanations, for curious newcomers and returning "tappers." We are co-regulating as we build our healthy habit routines. Practice time is only 15 minutes. After the practice, we can stay to make introductions, socialize, and problem-solve.
Please sign on early.
10:55am PDT: Yosemite HD, a video studied by UCSF shown to increase happiness
11:00am promptly: Ly-Lan Lofgren, LCSW, will guide you through a few rounds of POSITIVE Focus using an EMDR tool of tapping.
And then we'll practice EFT Tapping.11:15, Q&A and time to socialize, friendships develop in this space
The zoom link will be visible after you RSVP.
Please RSVP for each event in the series, for updates and cancellations.
Other Return To Connect events: Free monthly Tuesday Sex Therapy Q&A
Oct 8 - free in-person Yoga Long Beach Yogalution
Oct 12 - paid workshop from Limited to Expansive
Oct 21 - in-person Confluence Rising Breakfast, Long BeachAgreements:
By joining the zoom session, you agree:
1️⃣ No recording of any kind.
2️⃣ Respect only. No advice, criticism, or suggestions. We practice gratitude and kindness.
3️⃣ No communication for sales, flirting, or unsolicited help. Please keep this safe for peer support.
Any violation will be reported immediately—no exceptions.
Thank you for honoring this space to connect.
Everyone is welcome with these group agreements.
This is not therapy - participate only within your limits.
If you are uncomfortable during the group, this is likely not a good fit for your needs and preferences.FAQ:
* What are EMDR and EFT?
In this brief practice, we are only using one small tool from each of these dynamic therapy modalities.
Please review these videos for information on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pAclBdj20ZU
https://flashtechnique.com/wp/* Is this just an info-mercial for a paid course?
Nope. We are real people who practice EMDR and EFT Tools together on Mondays to help ourselves, and we open this practice up to anyone interested.* Who is Ly-Lan?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/862226
Ly-Lan has been a hypnosis, EMDR and EFT Licensed Therapist, Coach and Facilitator since 2007, helping people achieve their goals, living life more freely. Ly-Lan's specialities include sex therapy, mindfulness, and trauma.* Does Ly-Lan accept Insurance as a therapist?
~No. (most frequently asked question)
By facilitating this group, Ly-Lan is not agreeing to provide you with services. If you are interested in individual therapy or coaching, please first reach out and wait for a response, before sharing your personal history.* How can I best support this community?
~Thanks for showing up in any capacity. You have done enough.
~Leaving typed feedback about your experience or response to the group or your daily tapping practice, is so helpful. These can be left with Meetup, Google, Yelp, FB, or LinkedIn"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." Maya Angelou
4 attendees
Past events
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