What we’re about
WELCOME CONSCIOUS-MINDED TAMPA SINGLES! ❤
This is a group where quality conscious singles can MEET, mingle, & IMPROVE!! We're an open-minded, non-judgmental group of positive singles looking to improve our relationship/communication skills so we can become the best possible version of ourselves.
Membership is only $1/month --> to be paid annually [$12].
- This is to attract ONLY those truly seeking change and wanting to participate.
- This eliminates those potential members who are willing to take but not willing to give back. To have a healthy relationship, we must give and receive...it can't be a one-way street.
- Members have "some skin in the game" ...all the "risk" doesn't fall on just the organizers.
- Members are part of a team... we all work together to make this group successful. Group effort and group participation = amazing results!
- $12 is hopefully an amount that everyone can afford...especially to improve their own lives. [Many people don' know that Meetup charges us about $200/year to be an organizer so this helps share the costs.] ❤ Thank you!
- We're BRAND NEW so the group size will be small at first...but attend all of our events anyway! It'll definitely be worth your time and you'll be a founding member of an AMAZING community of happy, healthy adults.
Learn how to co-create happy, HEALTHY relationships filled with more PLAY, LOVE, and INTIMACY. Relationships are complicated! ANY relationship can be joyful and painful. Heartbreaks happen. Relationships with friends, co-workers, family, AND romantic relationships all have overlap... annnnnnnnd YOU ARE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR. We need to look at ourselves first. Don't you want relationships that ADD to your life instead of stress you out? YES! Then it is time to UPLEVEL communication and relationship skills!
How we learn and grow from each relationship will improve our lives ...and will help us in present and future relationships keep us from becoming bitter, jaded, and/or disheartened. What is HEALTHY and what is NOT?!? It is important to keep an open mind, understand who you are, be able to identify FEELINGS and triggers, understand attachment styles, take radical responsibility for your own responses & reactions [but also LEARN from them to grow], and OH, SO MUCH MORE!
That's why I wanted to create this group.❤ Everyone can learn NEW SKILLS and PRACTICE THEM so they are easier to do in [stressful] relational situations. We CAN do it. We just need some help, tools, practice, AND support with like-minded people.
To provide help and tools, we are going to have both online and in person Meetups. We are going to have classes about improvement in communication & relationships, learn about personal-development books, and we are going to help you regain your self-confidence, clarity, happiness, stability and mental wellness.
But most importantly, we are going to help each other on having a better future—a better mindset, better lifestyle, better mental health, and a better future relationship.
As the organizer of our group , I hope to share what I've learned and make a positive impact on your life first and then you can take that into your relationships so they are HAPPY & HEALTHY.
We're BRAND NEW so the group size will be small at first...but attend all of our events anyway! It'll definitely be worth your time and you'll be a founding member of an AMAZING community of happy, healthy adults. We'll create a vibrant, fun and playful atmosphere where you will MEET single individuals at social gatherings, fun events at different venues, and educational classes.
At a minimum we will be more connected, have some fun, MEET new conscious friends ... and perhaps you will MEET your next BFF or true love-- all while learning/practicing new relationship & communication skills in a safe, FUN interactive way! Yes, that's right! Each event will have little lessons to learn and practice your new skills!
Aren't you tired of the rollercoaster of emotions, guessing, and game playing when it comes to dating? Our focus will be on learning & practicing new EQ* skills with the intention of improving ourselves so we can show up in our relationships as the best possible version of ourselves. This means working through our past wounds and triggers...then taking radical responsibility for our reactions & responses...and finally rewriting our old scripts in a SAFE, non-judgmental atmosphere.
Don't look now but your insecurities are showing!
[But we're not judging you because ours are showing too! lol] ;)
We will learn that:
1. being "offended" or "triggered" is a sign that there's a "wound" that needs "attending"
2. it says more about the one being offended than it does about the "offender" [which is contrary to the popular cultural narrative of the past]
3. we need to work THROUGH our own triggers ourselves so they dissolve...NOT try to get other people to change so we're not triggered.
ALL relationships can benefit from our new knowledge [including relationships with our children, parents, friends, co-workers, ex-es]...but most importantly we're improving the relationship with ourselves and getting ready for a happy, healthy relationship with our future partner.
What are EQ Skills?
Like Intelligence Quotient [IQ], the Emotional Quotient [EQ] is the level of our emotional intelligence. These are the skills needed to have happy, healthy relationships with those around us. Our EQ is FELT in different places in our bodies and we hear that voice in our heads almost 24/7 so it is REALLY important to get a handle on it so it doesn't take control of us/our lives. And no, this does NOT mean "just forgetting it" or "shoving it down" or "distracting yourself"! We'll learn how to DO THE WORK.
COME JOIN US if you're wanting to learn and grow...regardless of sexual preference or identity. This group is open to ANYONE SINGLE no matter where they are in the DATING CYCLE...whether you're divorced, widowed, already dating someone but not yet married, you're starting to go on dates, you're just checking out the "dating pool," OR you just want to make friends until you're ready to start dating. This is open to anyone regardless of relationship preference: heterosexual, polyamorous, homosexual, bi-sexual, one partner, marriage minded or not.
We don't tend to "get triggered" as often outside of relationships as we do IN relationships. I believe that we need THE MOST support AND practice as we're starting new relationships so we can spot red flags AND also choose healthy responses ourselves. Unfortunately, many times these relationships only last a few months anyway. In addition, even if you find someone fabulous, it can take a couple years before you both decide to tie the knot. Therefore this "singles" group will not kick you out or ask you to leave just because you start dating someone. Instead, we just expect everyone to be upfront and honest about where they are at in the DATING CYCLE...and don't assume ANYTHING about anyone else. Ask.
NOTE: We will have DATING events specifically for those who are completely single and looking for a special someone. [If you're married, you can join our other group "Up-level Your Love" Life ❤.]
Please bring other singles to join our group, so we make even more vibrant, fun, and playful. Do you have some fun ideas for places/events? Let me know!
X❤X❤,
Erica, Tampa Love Muse
[Your Organizer]
IG: @SinglesMeetMarket
FB: @SinglesMeetMarketTampa
The RULES/Requests
1. Please RSVP early AND keep your RSVP current. Instead of pulling your name of the list because you think "not enough people are going" or you don't see anyone "attractive enough"... GO ANYWAY! Know that even the events where just a few people show up have been an absolutely amazing experience because the conversations and connections are so deep!
2. HELP US GROW. Invite others...every single time. Think if everyone does this!!
3. SHOW up with a GREAT attitude of service to others! Be a good listener. Ask questions. Add value to the conversation. Find commonalities. Give VALIDATION to their feelings when they share. [Most people are just waiting for their turn to talk and then tell the other person what they agree with and what they don't. That's not deep or productive so don't be THAT person. Find out WHY they think that...what led to that discovery or belief. Learn something new.]
4. Touch base with others you've conversed with in at past events. Ask them about how things are going for them...and try to be specific to something you remember about them.
5. Plan on spending QUALITY time with new people...getting to know THEM and share your true self. I personally believe that you never know when, where and through what medium you're going to find your next friend or love! I believe that we can meet amazing people through introductions AND it's good to have friends of all ages and from all backgrounds!
[That means that the little old lady you meet at a beach event may NOT who you are going to date (or maybe you are!), but by REALLY TALKING WITH HER, she realizes that her grandson/daughter/neighbor/co-worker is PERFECT for you! But you'll only KNOW that unless you are open to talking WITH everyone/anyone. OR just maybe YOU have a perfect match in your world for HER...your boss/dad/grandma/preacher!] FUNNNNN!!!
6. Introduce people you've met to each other! Try to think of things they might have in common when you introduce them...like maybe they each have kids or they are both from the North. Be cautious to NOT share something they told you in PRIVATE. If you don't remember a name, don't sweat it...admit it! lol
7. Please write up great reviews for the events. AND message me TESTIMONIALS I can post on websites and events. Thank you!!!!
8. Help pitch in for the cost of the group. A great donation is $5-10/event + cost of the event. [A lot of events are free but you might buy your food/drinks or have to pay for parking.]
9. Share our event LINKS to get these singles events in front of MORE fabulous singles who need and want this!
10. Follow/like/share/comment on our Meetup, Facebook, and Instagram pages! :) Thanks!!!
***Wow. What a different way to look at the purpose of SINGLES groups! Learn, grow and add to the singles community! ***
The UGLY Details:
- This is NOT A HOOKUP group. Unsolicited contact is grounds to be banned [more below]. There are plenty of other sites if you just want to hook up one-on-one SO don't make folks feel unsafe here. Please be ladies and gentlemen! Forcefulness will not be tolerated.
- Don't send instant messages through Meetup to folks you haven't met. It’s CREEPY to get propositions from a virtual stranger to meet outside of Meetup events. Of course, a relevant message to/from an event host regarding an upcoming Meetup is different. If you have done a Meetup with someone and want to send them a "good to see/meet you" follow-up, that is totally acceptable as long as you are respectful and honor boundaries.
NOTE: if they do not reply or aren't interested don't be a "Meetup CREEP" and be disrespectful at future events or in future messages. Of course it's great if folks "meetup" and some magic develops--but it HAS to be MUTUAL! So please remember while it is fun to "meetup", this group is not "hookup.com" or "Match.com". Not every single here is ready to be seeking a romance, they may not have seen the message, or MAYBE they didn’t feel a connection. Whatever the reason, don't take it as rejection and keep it ALL respectful.
Remember if you receive an unsolicited, suspicious, or inappropriate message or see inappropriate behavior, please report and forward it to me as it is grounds for dismissal of the violating party. They probably are spamming others here and in other groups... or will be soon...so let me know. ALSO negative or adversarial comments, posts or actions will result in removal and banning of the offending party.
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To be clear OUR group is not for pick-up or seduction techniques, or wingman tactics!!! This sort of behavior will NOT be tolerated! [lol--Meetup wants us to say this!]
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Possible Topics We'll Be Covering for Singles:
· masculine and feminine energy
· triggers
· needs of women vs needs of men
· your love language
· your sex language
· your apology language
· vision boards
· core values
· communicate effectively and respectfully
· attachment styles
· shadow work
· law of attraction [LOA]
· having positive attitude
· gaining confidence
· setting boundaries and red flags
· getting your needs met
· waltzing vs disco (in relation to the dance of relationships)
· writing and deciphering online dating profiles
· how to date but stay genuine and authentic
· hiring a matchmaker
· differences between pre- and post- menopausal women
· differences between pre- and post- andropausal men
· either reigning in your expectations or expanding them
· building your "non-negotiables" list
· let's talk about sex, baby!
· what is tantra?
· having FUN and play
· BDSM, role play, dirty talk, etc
· polyamory
· self-care
· lifestyle choices
· finances
· budgeting
· trusts, life insurance, prenups to provide for children/family
· rebuilding your finances [esp after a divorce or breakup]
AND SO MUCH MORE JUICY STUFF!!!! You're going to love it! <3
