Small Group Conversations for Connection & Support (Virtual)

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A session on exploring workplace relationships, boundaries, personalities, and the social side of our careers.

Most of us spend a huge portion of our lives and time at work.
Whether you’re navigating difficult coworkers, complicated manager relationships, workplace politics, blurred boundaries, or simply trying to figure out how to connect with colleagues, workplace dynamics can have a major impact on our wellbeing.

In this session, we’ll explore the human side of work. How do we build healthy professional relationships? What happens when personalities clash? How do we navigate conflict, feedback, favoritism, office politics, or feeling left out? And how do we maintain authenticity while still operating within professional environments?

This isn’t a session about career advancement or productivity. It’s a space to reflect on the relationships, expectations, and social dynamics that shape our work lives.

This session is for you if:

• You’re struggling with a coworker, manager, or workplace relationship
• You find workplace dynamics stressful or confusing
• You’re trying to set healthier professional boundaries
• You feel isolated, excluded, or misunderstood at work
• You’re navigating a new job or professional environment
• You’re curious about how others experience workplace relationships

Come as you are, whether you love your job, dread Monday mornings, or fall somewhere in between.

Who Am I?
Hi, I’m Jesse, a communications and advocacy professional passionate about building a safer, more just world. Originally from Austin and now living in Italy, I believe life is measured by the quality of our connections, and I’m excited to use this space to help people build community through openness and shared stories.

How Does it Work?
This is an open, guided discussion led by your Keeper, Jesse. Each participant will have the opportunity to listen to and share experiences on anxiety, well-being, emotions, and whatever else comes up during the session.

When and How Do We Meet?
We meet digitally to make participation easy for those with demanding schedules. Cameras are optional, and you’re welcome to join from wherever you are, even between shifts. We only ask that you find a private place to join or use headphones to help maintain the security of everyone present.

To join, please sign up through our site.

All sessions are free, and signing up on the site helps us create a smoother experience for everyone.

Feel free to message me with any questions or concerns!

Sometimes we’re loved in ways that deeply move us — and sometimes those same expressions of love aren’t the ways we naturally give love back. Maybe someone shows up for you through grand gestures, unwavering consistency, or acts of sacrifice… and you wonder: Am I supposed to return it in the exact same way?

In this Space, we’ll explore reciprocity, love languages, family dynamics, and the expectations we carry around giving and receiving care. Together, we’ll reflect on whether love can still feel genuine, even when it looks different on both sides.

This is an opportunity to check in with ourselves gently and honestly — not to judge the ways we love, but to better understand them. To explore how we give, receive, and interpret care. And to remember that being held in community doesn’t always require sameness; sometimes it asks for curiosity, communication, and compassion instead.

Who Am I?
Claire (she/her) is a passionate advocate for refugees, immigrants, survivors of domestic and sexual violence, and queer communities. Originally from West Michigan and now living in Texas, she brings a trauma-informed lens to community building and believes deeply in the power of dignity, lived experience, and connection.

Living with chronic illness, she proudly claims her place in the “spoonie” world and values spaces where people can show up exactly as they are. She lives with her partner, their unimpressed cat, and a dog who runs the household.

She holds a B.S. in Psychology from Grand Valley State University and is here for the messy, deeply human work.

How Does it Work?
This is an open, guided discussion led by your Keeper, Claire. Each participant will have the opportunity to listen to and share experiences on well-being, emotions, and whatever else comes up during the session.

When and How Do We Meet?
We meet digitally to make participation easy for those with demanding schedules. Cameras are optional, and you’re welcome to join from wherever you are, even between shifts. We only ask that you find a private place to join or use headphones to help maintain the security of everyone present.

RSVPing on Meetup doesn’t reserve your spot for this session!
To join, please sign up through our site.

All sessions are free, and signing up on the site helps us create a smoother experience for everyone.

Feel free to message me with any questions or concerns!

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How do we take a vacation, laugh with friends, float in a pool, eat something delicious, or let ourselves have a good day while the world is on fire?

For helpers, joy can feel complicated. We may know we need rest, but still feel guilty for stepping away. We may crave lightness, but feel strange enjoying ourselves when people we love, or the world around us, are struggling. Sometimes even a quiet afternoon or a fun summer plan can bring up the question: Am I allowed to feel good right now?

This session is about making room for joy without checking out completely. Together, we’ll talk about guilt, rest, pleasure, and the very human need to breathe, even when there is still work to be done.

Meet Your Host
Hi, I’m Heather, I am an Asheville-based mom of two, full-time Totem team member, and passionate believer in Spaces where people can be real, seen, and supported.

How It Works

• Free and confidential, hosted on Totem’s secure digital platform
• Guided sharing, so everyone has space to speak, with no pressure to overshare
• Community-driven support, not therapy or medical advice
• Cameras optional, come as you are

To join, please sign up through our site.

All sessions are free, and signing up on the site helps us create a smoother experience for everyone.

Feel free to message me with any questions or concerns!

You know what it feels like to grind. Head down, one more run, one more rep, one more day.

There's a version of that energy that works. EXP farming is efficient. You find the loop that pays out, you run it until you level up, and then you move on. Gamers understand this intuitively. The grind isn't glamorous, but it makes sense. It has a logic. And for a lot of people, that logic extends well beyond the game.

The harder question is what happens when the loop stops paying out. When you're putting in the same hours, the same effort, the same consistency you always have, and the number isn't going up. That's when the grind starts to feel less like a strategy and more like a ceiling. And that's also when a lot of people quietly start to wonder if something is wrong with them, rather than with the system.

There's also the version of grinding that never quite stops. The person who can't let themselves rest without feeling like they're falling behind. Who keeps farming when they're already capped, because stopping feels more dangerous than the burnout does. That's a different problem. And it tends to have a longer history than just one bad season.

This session isn't about productivity. It's about what you're actually after when you grind, what it costs when it stops working, and what you've been telling yourself to keep going. Whether you're in the middle of a grinding season right now or just coming out of one, this is a place to put it down for a minute and look at it honestly.

Who Am I?
Hi, I'm Gianni. I’m an actor based in Los Angeles working across screen and stage. My background in the performing arts has shaped my interest in storytelling and the ways people make meaning of their experiences. Living with narcolepsy and ADD has also deepened my perspective on self-compassion and personal growth. Outside of acting, I enjoy cooking with my wife, playing trading card games, watching films, and singing.

How Does it Work?
This is an open, guided discussion led by your Keeper, Gianni. Each participant will have the opportunity to listen to and share experiences on anxiety, well-being, emotions, and whatever else comes up during the session.

When and How Do We Meet?
We meet digitally to make participation easy for those with demanding schedules. Cameras are optional, and you’re welcome to join from wherever you are, even between shifts. We only ask that you find a private place to join or use headphones to help maintain the security of everyone present.