Making the Shift is inspired by the work of Dr. David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness, attachment theory, and somatic meditation. But at its core, Conscious Relating isn’t about chasing the typical self-help fantasy of “happily ever after.”
It’s not just another tool to fix your dating life or perfect your partnership. It goes deeper than that. It asks:
What is your relationship with life itself?
Because how you meet life—your presence, your patterns, your beliefs—ripples through every relationship you touch: with a lover, a parent, a child, a friend, a colleague, even a stranger.
This work doesn’t bypass the messy, real-time dynamics of intimacy. In fact, that’s exactly where the work happens. But we keep our eye on something deeper—what Sages might call the common ground of being—that shared essence beneath all the roles we play.
Conscious Relating is about aligning with that ground. Remembering it.
And choosing, again and again, to bring more of our awareness to it.
When we do, our relationships become more than just containers for comfort or survival.
They become catalysts for evolution.
Put simply: if a relationship—romantic, familial, communal, or organizational—isn’t helping us grow, it tends to regress. We fall into co-dependence. We stagnate.
And in group dynamics, when individuals avoid doing their inner work, the group becomes what we might call a lazy tribe—comfortable, perhaps, but unawake.
This path isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence—and the courageous willingness to grow into something greater, together.
Understanding Attachment: From Wounding to Wholeness
Our patterns in love didn’t begin in adulthood.
They were etched early—through the nervous systems of caregivers, the unspoken rules of closeness, and the emotional landscapes we learned to survive in.
At the heart of conscious relating is a deeper understanding of attachment systems—how we bond, how we protect ourselves, and how we unconsciously repeat what’s familiar.
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We explore the foundational journey from insecure to secure attachment.
From anxious chasing or avoidant withdrawing, to the often overlooked disorganized style—where love and fear coexist in painful confusion.
Through the pioneering work of Hughes & Pears in attachment-based therapy, and insights from Stan Tatkin (Wired for Love) and Dr. Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight, EFT), we begin to untangle the emotional blueprints that drive our most intimate moments at a real-world experiential level.
These aren’t just theories—they’re maps back to connection.
Maps that show us how to move from reactivity to repair, from shutdown to safety, from self-protection to co-regulation.
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This work is deeply informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and integrates seamlessly with the consciousness-based framework of Dr. David Hawkins.
Rather than getting lost in abstract psychology, we distill these teachings into something digestible and embodied—something you can feel in your nervous system and apply in your real-life relationships.
Because secure attachment isn’t a destination.
It’s a practice of presence.
A choice to stay open in the places we were once closed.
A re-education in love—not as fantasy, but as courage gathered, shared growth, and felt shift.
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Continuing down the road is your choice.
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