Why "What Do You Do?" Is the Worst First Question
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Why "What Do You Do?" Is the Worst First Question
Have you ever asked someone what they do for work within the first few minutes of meeting them?
Most of us have. And most of us have had it asked of us.
Sometimes it is just nerves. Sometimes it is a shortcut, a way to quickly figure out whether this person fits into the life you are building.
Both are honest reasons.
But here is the problem: the question rarely gets you what you actually want to know. And depending on who is sitting across from you, it may have already changed the tone of the conversation before it had a chance to go anywhere real.
Tonight, we are going to get into why we ask it, what we are really trying to find out, and what kinds of questions actually work; the ones that feel like genuine curiosity and still tell you everything.
We will give you a few to try. They work better than you might expect.
If you have ever asked yourself:
- Why do my early conversations feel like interviews?
- How do I find out what I need to know without coming across as cold or transactional?
- What should I actually be asking in those first conversations?
This one is for you. Bring your perspective, your stories, and your honesty.
### š¬ What to Expect
This is a peer-led group discussion with a live breakout practice session. There is no formal presentation or coaching. You will have the chance to reflect, share, hear from others, and actually try a better approach in real time. Whether you speak up or listen in, you are welcome here.
š„ P.S. For a more engaging experience, we encourage you to turn on your camera during the session. Your privacy is important to us, and all discussions will be handled with the utmost respect and confidentiality.
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