What we're about

🍷 Welcome... If you're single, aged 40-59 and want to meet new people while socialising over a few drinks in the best bars and pubs, or perhaps dancing along to a DJ, live band or tribute act, with plenty of fun & laughter along the way - then read on... 🎶 💃

◼️ ABOUT US...

Whether its a free casino tribute evening (with DJ after), a 70s/80s night, a Karaoke evening, a comedy night or a meal in a lively or quirky restaurant you'll be guaranteed a brilliant time with like minded singles (you won't find any couples at our pub nights or meals!).

We also run day trips, overnighters and longer breaks through the year, all are lively and fun and offer timetabled sightseeing with Pub and Bar stops along the way (for those who want to join in) which is a great way to relax, socialise and get to know others over a few drinks or meal 🍻

Of course, we also run events where you can get to know others in a quieter or smaller environment; Sunday Lunches, Caddies Indoor Golf, Monday Toby Roasts, Mid-Week Meals at Roebuck, Elms and Last Post, Sunday Evening Cinema and many more (and not a couple in sight) 🍴

◼️ HOSTED & RELIABLE...

Unlike other groups, all our events are well organised, highly reliable and properly hosted. We'll be ready to meet and greet you at the exact spot and time we say, have a chat and introduce you to others.

◼️ NO TIME TO LOSE...

Remember, life is not a rehearsal, so switch off the TV, getup from your sofa and enjoy a fab evening out with some lovely people instead. What have you got to lose?

◼️ IF YOU LIKE US...

After attending three events, if you like us, appreciate our efforts and would like to come along to more of our events, our ONCE OFF joining fee is just £14.

We are all volunteers and freely give up our spare time. Your joining fee is much appreciated and helps towards our annual bill from meetup.com and other running expenses.

"We do all the hard work and make it happen, all you have to do is turn up and enjoy"

◼️ WE HOPE YOU'LL JOIN US SOON... 💃🍷🍻 🎶

PS: We are not a dating website, we are a social group for singles who want to meet new people and have some fun by coming along to events IN REAL LIFE. New membership is only open to single, unattached people in the Essex area who are happy to supply a good profile photo of just themselves, are aged 40-59 and belong to less than 40 other meetup groups.

Upcoming events (5)

CANCELLED: Dinner & Drinks @ O'Picado - Homemade Madeiran Cuisine & Tapas 🍴🍷

Due to Coronavirus, all Pubs, Bars, Casinos & Restaurants (etc) will be shut until further notice. So we thought it best to cancel this evening but we hope to reschedule and catch up again as soon as possible. ***************** Original info.... It's time for another visit to the quirky yet traditional, family owned O'Picado restaurant in Westcliff. They serve tasty authentic Madeiran cuisine including tapas, fish, chicken and pasta dishes including Vegetarian & Vegan. Here's some of the feedback from December.... ********* "Love the quirkiness of this place, the food is great, and topped off with good company made a fab evening" "Definitely a great family run restaurant, who give the extra touches.. Looking forward to our next visit..😉 Love this place" "What an awesome night.. Loved the food drink🍷🍲 " "Really enjoyed this meal and venue; good food, nice staff and just a really relaxing, enjoyable evening" ********* So why not join us in a smaller group this evening to sample the taste of beautiful Madeira in a friendly environment with good people, good conversation and a few drinks? We hope to see you there 🍷🍴 ▿ ✪ MENU ✪ Their full menu is here: https://www.opicadorestaurant.co.uk/menus PS: They also offer an extensive range of cocktails, wines, beers & spirits 🍷🍷 ▿ ✪ WHO CAN ATTEND? ✪ Members of our group and their +1 guests may attend with an RSVP. Guests should also be single, aged 40-59 and first timers. At this event, we are unable to include unexpected strangers, non-members and couples. If you are not a member of our group (Southend Over 40s), simply apply to join us and then RSVP. Look out for the "request to join" button on any of our event pages. ▿ ✪ NEWER MEMBERS ✪ For newer members, don't worry about your first few visits as everyone is here to have a good time, meet new people and socialise so you're pretty much guaranteed to enjoy the evening. Your hosts from 7:30pm will be Mike & Pippa. If you don't know us, take a good look at our photos, come and say hello (no matter what we're doing) and we'll introduce you to the others. ▿ ✪ MEETING PLACE/TIME ✪ We'll be ready to welcome everyone at our table from 7:30pm booked under the name of Mike Smith. We'll get our drinks and start ordering food around 7:45pm. ▿ ✪ DRINKS & THE OLD BILL ✪ To avoid a complex bill, it's essential everyone buys their own drinks from the waiting staff separately (if possible). Ideally, no drinks to be added to our group bill. Thank-you. ▿ ✪ DEPOSIT PAYMENT ✪ On this event page, RSVP by clicking YES (or maybe "PAY NOW"). This takes you to Paypal where you can quickly pay by debit or credit card even if you dont have a Paypal account. You will be asked to pay £5.50 of which paypal deduct around 50p in fees (they don't work for free). This leaves £5 as your deposit which we will pay the restaurant and will be deducted from your final bill on the day. ▿ ✪ DEPOSIT REFUNDS ✪ Your deposit is not refundable if you do not turn up or if you cancel within 48 hours of the meal. Apart from that, your deposit is refundable if somebody else pays for a space after you have cancelled and all cancellations before yours have been filled. To cancel, simply change your RSVP to NO. Message me (Mike) and I'll refund you in cash (avoids paypal fees) when we meet at your next event. ▿ ✪ PAYING THE BILL - CASH ONLY ✪ All our meals are CASH ONLY to make things quick and easy for your hosts. Simply work out your contribution, add a tip (compulsory for groups in most places) then take off your £5 deposit. Please put your CASH in the pot. NO CARD PAYMENTS and no messing around with discount vouchers etc. This just distracts everyone, adds time and complexity for your hosts and potentially causes errors. ▿ ✪ PARKING ✪ Plenty of spaces along London Road or you'll find a big car park at the Hamlet Court Rd traffic lights on London Road (5 mins walk).

CANCELLED: Drinks & Chat @ The Royal Hotel (over 50 different Gins🍷)

Due to Coronavirus, all Pubs, Bars, Casinos & Restaurants (etc) will be shut until further notice. So we thought it best to cancel this evening but hope to reschedule and catch up with everyone again as soon as possible. ***************** Original info.... We love our social evenings at the Royal Hotel Bar. It's the perfect place for an easy going chilled-out drink and chat with others. As a bonus, they serve great cocktails and over 50 gins. So why not come along and join us in this grand old venue. It was built in 1791 and is a former haunt of Royalty and Aristocracy! This evening will be ideal for newer members or those who enjoy socialising in a smaller group. We hope to see you there 🍷 ▿ ✪ WHO CAN ATTEND? ✪ Members of our group and their +1 guests may attend with an RSVP. Guests should also be single, aged 40-59 and first timers. At this event, we are unable to include unexpected strangers, non-members and couples. If you are not a member of our group (Southend Over 40s), simply apply to join us and then RSVP. Look out for the "request to join" button on any of our event pages. ▿ ✪ RSVP REQUIRED ✪ Members, please click RSVP so we know who to expect and you'll also be kept up to date with event news and any important changes. If you later find you can't make it, please undo your RSVP asap - it's courteous, only takes a moment and could free up a space for someone else. NOTE: Members who clock-up multiple no-shows or lastminute cancellations will gain a reputation for being unreliable and inconsiderate and may be deleted from the group. ▿ ✪ NEWER MEMBERS ✪ For newer members, don't worry about your first few visits as everyone is here to have a good time, meet new people and socialise so you're pretty much guaranteed to enjoy the evening. Your hosts will be Mike & Pippa. If you don't know us, take a good look at our photos, come and say hello (no matter what we're doing) and we'll introduce you to the others. We'll do our best to look out for you based upon your profile picture (hope its a good one?). At this event, if you prefer, we can meet you outside or by the door, just PHONE Mike on[masked] on arrival. DO NOT TEXT as the quick beeps can be easily missed. ▿ ✪ MEETING SPOT & TIME ✪ We'll meet by the middle of the main bar, just turn left as you walk through the main door. Your hosts will be standing around here from 7:30pm ready to meet and greet everybody. ▿ ✪ CAR PARKING ✪ Best to park in the Royals Car Park (it's not free) by Grosvenor Casino. It's a safe 5 minute walk in well lit areas. Or the small council car park behind Tomassis which is free after 6pm I believe, and still a 5 minute walk but a bit darker.

CANCELLED: Mike's Birthday Party @ Grosvenor (Singer, DJ) + Welcome Drinks🍺🍷💃

Due to Coronavirus, all Pubs, Bars, Casinos & Restaurants (etc) will be shut until further notice. So I thought it best to postpone my Birthday and I'll remain the same age for a bit longer. ***************** Original info.... We've had some great Birthday celebrations so far this year - and there's more to come. But tonight it's my turn - and I'd like to invite everyone to join me for an evening of drinks, dancing and entertainment to help celebrate my Birthday at The Grosvenor Casino 🍺 It all starts with a complimentary welcome drink (beer, bubbly or juice) for those arriving between 8:30pm and 10pm in the private drinks area between the bar and dance floor. There's plenty of time to chat, meet others and get the drinks in before our guest singer Mark Owen performs his party set with favourite hits from the 80s plus a bit of Soul, Motown and much more 💃 After Mark's performance, the celebrations and dancing continues with the Grosvenors resident DJ playing a variety of 80s, pop and rock so we can continue partying into the early hours. All members of our group including new members and those who've not been along for a while are welcome to RSVP and join in. Come and meet us and enjoy a "Good Friday" night out 🍷 Thanks to the Grosvenor, this evening is FREE entry. PS: For a bit of nostalgia, the first 9 photos on this page were taken on my previous Birthday nights with good friends I've got to know over the years. I hope you can join us 🍷🍺💃 ▿ ✪ WHO CAN ATTEND? ✪ Members of our group and their +1 guests may attend with an RSVP. Guests should also be single, aged 40-59 and first timers. At this event, we are unable to include unexpected strangers and non-members. If you are not a member of our group (Southend Over 40s), simply apply to join us and then RSVP. Look out for the "request to join" button on any of our event pages. ▿ ✪ RSVP REQUIRED ✪ Members, please click RSVP so we know who to expect and you'll also be kept up to date with event news and any important changes. If you later find you can't make it, please undo your RSVP asap - it's courteous, only takes a moment and could free up a space for someone else. NOTE: Members who clock-up multiple no-shows or lastminute cancellations will gain a reputation for being unreliable and inconsiderate and may be deleted from the group. ▿ ✪ NEWER MEMBERS ✪ For newer members, don't worry about your first few visits as everyone is here to have a good time, meet new people and socialise so you're pretty much guaranteed to enjoy the evening. Newer members should ideally arrive about 9pm. Your hosts will be Mike, Pippa, John & Elle. If you don't know us, take a good look at our photos, come and say hello (no matter what we're doing) and we'll introduce you to the others. We'll do our best to look out for you based upon your profile picture (hope its a good one?). ▿ ✪ MEETING SPOT & TIME ✪ Keep walking straight ahead through the main door to the bar. We stand towards the right of the bar nearest to the stage and dancefloor. Your hosts will be standing around here from 8:30pm ready to meet and greet everybody. Newer members should ideally arrive around 9pm. If you'd like to have a chat and get to know others then please arrive soon after 9pm as conversation and introductions can be difficult once the entertainment begins. ▿ ✪ CAR PARK (REIMBURSED) ✪ The Royals (shopping centre) car park is right opposite the casino entrance. It's a well lit, modern, open, multi-storey building with 400 spaces. Take a ticket at the entry barrier and register it at the casino reception desk when inside. When you leave, go to the reception desk and they will give you the correct cash to pay the machine in the car park. Take your exit ticket which will open the barrier to drive out. Otherwise, up to 3 hours £2.80, up to 4 hours £4.50, up to 5 hours £5.50.

CANCELLED: Wetherspoons Curry Night @ The Elms (normal menu also available)

Due to Coronavirus, all Pubs, Bars, Casinos & Restaurants (etc) will be shut until further notice. So we thought it best to cancel this evening but hope to reschedule and catch up with everyone again as soon as possible. ***************** Original info.... Why not join us tonight for a delicious pub meal, a few drinks and a chat? It's Wetherspoons Curry Night and it'll cost you just £7.95 with a drink included (their normal pub menu is also available). Now in its 5th year, this meetup is ideal for newer members or those who prefer to get to know others in a smaller group. ▿ ✪ WHO CAN ATTEND? ✪ Members of our group may attend with an RSVP. Due to limited table availability, it's only fair that we prioritise members so we won't be able to accept guests, anyone with an unreliable RSVP record and of course, strangers, non-members or couples. If you are not a member of our group (Southend Over 40s), simply apply to join us and then RSVP. Look out for the "request to join" button on any of our event pages ▿ ✪ RSVP REQUIRED ✪ Members, please click RSVP so we all know who to expect. You'll automatically be kept up to date with event info and any important changes. If you later find you can't make it, please undo your RSVP asap - it's courteous, only takes a moment and could free up a space for someone else. NOTE: Members who clock-up multiple no-shows or lastminute cancellations will gain a reputation for being unreliable and inconsiderate and may be deleted from the group. ▿ ✪ NEWER MEMBERS ✪ For newer members, don't worry about your first few visits as everyone is here to have a good time, make new friends and socialise so you're pretty much guaranteed to enjoy the evening. Turn up any time between 7:15pm and 7:45pm and we'll arrange tables for 4-8 as and when people arrive. Your hosts will be Mike and Pippa. If you don't know us, take a good look at our photos, come and say hello (no matter what we're doing) and we'll introduce you to the others. I am happy to meet you at the door if you prefer. Just text a couple of hours before to let me know you are coming and then phone me (Mike) on arrival:[masked]. ▿ ✪ MEETING SPOT ✪ We'll meet at our usual spot inside - as you go in the main London Road entrance, turn left, follow the bar and walk just around the corner. Your hosts will be standing here from 7:15pm-7:45pm ready to meet & greet everybody and arrange tables for 4-8 as and when people arrive. ▿ ✪ PARKING ✪ The Elms has 2 car parks, either side of the pub with different entrances. The one on the left side is the largest. You can also park free in nearby roads. We look forward to meeting you...

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