The New "Friend Zone"- Orange County

Please Note- If you are new to the group, please contact me with proposals for events. I work out of the country for 2 months out of every 3 months, and I'd like to hear your idea!

Tired of the single life and all the dating drama? You’re not alone, and it’s time for a fresh approach. The NEW Friend Zone is a group dedicated to redefining how we interact and connect with others—by focusing on fun, group activities rather than the pressure of finding “The One.” This isn’t the typical "friend zone" you may have heard of—it’s about relearning how to enjoy life with like-minded people, taking the pressure off dating, and embracing friendships first.

Imagine flipping the dating scene on its head! The NEW Friend Zone is a concept I created to bring charm, class, and values back to meeting new people. After years of being single, I discovered something hiding in plain sight: the value of building genuine friendships before diving into relationships. Even if you don’t join, I encourage you to think about this concept and share it with your friends.
Here’s how it works: When I meet a woman (whether I’m attracted to her or not), we start as friends. We hang out and have fun—no pressure, no rush. For 4-6 months, we remain friends without talking about feelings or intimacy, allowing us to truly get to know each other. In that time, we can see what would or wouldn’t work in a relationship, and guess what? Even if we aren’t a match, we stay friends!
No more awkward encounters or ghosting after a couple of dates. In the NEW Friend Zone, it’s all about transparency and friendship—with the understanding that we’re taking our time. And yes, that means no intimate contact for a while! It might sound crazy, but giving someone time to show who they really are is worth it. By the end of those 4-5 months, you’ll know if it’s meant to be, and if not, you’ve gained a great friend.
The idea came to me when I was studying to become a Christian minister. I saw so many friends meet great people, only for the connection to fizzle out after one or two dates. I knew there had to be a better way. The truth is, relationships don’t have to start with romance—they can begin with friendship and respect, where both people take time to really understand each other.
Here in Orange County, we can surf, hike, paddleboard, or just hang out—without the pressure of dating. I’ve met so many amazing people, and I’m excited to share this concept. Women seem to get it, but guys struggle with waiting. But after seeing countless relationships crash and burn, I’d much rather just enjoy time with friends and see where things go naturally.
Think about it—what would the dating world look like if we all took the pressure off? Less drama, fewer breakups, and more focus on living life. Finding the right person is about timing and patience, not forcing things to happen.
So, let’s get out there and have fun while staying respectful and intentional. And to help with that, I’ve come up with a few guidelines I like to follow—simple rules that help maintain healthy boundaries and avoid the typical pitfalls of dating:
RULE #1: Never talk about other women in front of the woman I’m spending time with. Stay present and respectful.
RULE #2: Give a compliment and move on. It’s not about making a move; it’s about showing respect.
RULE #3: No talk about feelings for at least 5 months. It takes time for the real person to show up!
RULE #4: Introduce all NEW Friend Zone friends to each other. Building a positive network is key.
RULE #5: Treat the ladies like princesses, even on their off days. Many women have been hurt in the past, and it takes time for them to adjust to being treated well.
RULE #6: Don’t over-text or call. Keep communication balanced.
RULE #7: Find someone who shares your interests. For me, opposites don’t attract.
And most importantly—make the most of your single life! Now is the time to work on yourself, explore new interests, and live out your dreams without anything holding you back. I call this “While We Wait for Love.” While we’re waiting patiently for our moment, there’s a whole world out there to discover and plenty of personal growth to pursue.
I’m here to answer any questions and would love to hear your thoughts. Let’s change the dating game together!