Rethinking Sexual Desire

It's the time of year when things are feeling beautiful, fresh, and new. Birds are chirping, bees are buzzing, and life is more … lively! Let's take the opportunity to gather, grab a drink, and explore the psychological and emotional currents that make our closest relationships truly satisfying.

Most of us were raised on the "desire imperative", the myth that passion should always be spontaneous, effortless, and instant. When the "spark" feels elusive, it's not uncommon to worry that the relationship (or ourself) is broken, when the reality is simply that understanding how our brains actually process stress, safety, and vulnerability can address the issues.

This is a premium, limited-capacity event, intentionally keeping the group size small. This ensures that, in addition to a high-quality dialogue with several intelligent and thoughtful Thinkers, you’ll have the space to be heard.

Suggested viewing before we meet (9 1⁄2 min video): Rethinking Sexual Desire

• In what ways is relational closeness primarily a psychological and emotional process rather than a physical one?
• How does understanding that some people require a safe environment and emotional warmth first, rather than a sudden spark, alter the traditional rules of how we build intimacy?
• How do factors like stress, body image, everyday exhaustion, or underlying resentment slam on the brakes, blocking our ability to feel emotionally close?
• To emphasize closeness in an existing relationship, how can we create a better environment free of stress in our daily lives?

Let's move past the myths, look at the science, and think about it together!