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*"She dressed too sexy", "She was out late at night", "Why didn't she leave sooner?"...* these are some of the ways in which women victims across all cultures are blamed for getting in harm's way or even for provoking the men who harmed them. Men, in contrast, are often shown more sympathy (or "Him-pathy") and understanding for the mistakes they commit, especially men of good character and status. Prof. Kate Manne explains that *“the emotions and perspectives of men are centred and those of women are set to one side."* We'll discuss... 1\. Should men who harm women ever deserve any sympathy? 2\. Should cultural differences be an excuse? 3\. What could be solutions to move the focus towards the perpetrator? Background reading: -[What Love Island teaches us about 'himpathy'](https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jul/13/love-island-amy-hart-teaches-himpathy) (The Guardian) -[The the psychology of why some people side with perpetrators of sexual misconduct](https://theconversation.com/himpathy-the-psychology-of-why-some-people-side-with-perpetrators-of-sexual-misconduct-podcast-239860) (The Conversation) -[Women fight victim blaming every step of the way](https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/women-fight-victim-blaming-every-step-way) (British Psychological Society) *Join us for a relaxed group conversation where we explore the real life, the grey areas, and how our different cultures and backgrounds shape our views about key topics.* *Expect real talk, no judgment, and a chance to learn how others see it.* **\*Come for the discussion, stay for the friendships. Our weekly discussion series brings together thoughtful people for honest conversations on relationships, life, and society - with warm social vibes before and after.\*** **WHAT TO EXPECT:** * Good vibes only: we chat big topics in a chill, respectful way. No arguing - just open-minded exchange. * We warm up with casual socializing (come solo or with friends!) * The topic starts around 7:45/8pm, wraps around 9:30. * 🍕 There's pizza, drinks, milkshakes and snacks available at the bar (incl plant-based options) * And most people stay until late for drinks and mingling! **DISCUSSION FORMAT:** **\- Our group conversations are open and flexible\! There is a very soft guided flow to ensure we focus on the key questions\, and to ensure that everyone gets a balanced opportunity to speak\.** \- We rotate groups intentionally during the discussion so everyone gets to meet a wider mix of people and perspectives\. \- After the structured part\, you’re free to mix and mingle with anyone\. **Here's a typical discussion structure, but we may adjust this depending on the turnout:** \- Introductions and initial thoughts *(\~5 mins).* \- Group breakouts per question *(\~20 mins x 3).* \- Final round of opinions *(\~10 mins)*. \- Mix and mingle\, make new friends\, get drinks etc *(\~until late)* **Rules & etiquette:** 1\. Debate the topic\, not the participants \- no personal attacks please\. 2\. No phones\, no interrupting\, no bystanding\. 3\. Always follow the moderator/host instructions and guidelines\. **WHAT IS WORLD CITIZENS?** We're one of London's longest-running and largest communities. Since 2012 we run socials, cultural activities and stimulating discussions to foster meaningful exchange and learning among London's global professionals. They are inspired by MUN (Model United Nations) and salon discussions and offer a more relaxed and social evening version. **LOCATION DETAILS** What: Discussion session followed by social/networking When: Tuesday, 7:30pm until late. Where: Curzon Aldgate (bar area), 2 Canter Way, E1 8PS Closest stations: Aldgate East, Aldgate, Tower Hill/Gateway Cost: Pay for your own meals or drinks Hosts: We have a rotating team and the actual host of each event varies. Our regular members can also help you out with basic matters. *NOTE: like most guests, our volunteer hosts join after work and may arrive after the start time. If you are punctual or earlier than our hosts, we highly appreciate this! Please feel free to start socializing already and/or get something to eat or drink - that’s the point of our events anyway! Our regular members can also help you out with any basic matters.* **\*Our other weekly events\*** \- Friday evening socials every week \- Saturday afternoon cafe in Chelsea \- Canary Wharf socials every other Wednesday \- Outdoor fun \(hiking\, kayaking\, etc\) every weekend \- Dining\, cultural and travel activities on\-demand **JOIN OUR TEAM!** We're all volunteers, so if you enjoy organizing activities or events in your spare time, while meeting great people every week, send a message to our team account "TP"! **DISCLAIMER** We are a 100% volunteer-run team. Though we have high standards in planning, this is a private informal activity so we cannot be liable for any damage or inconvenience. However, we put safety and comfort first. We take all complaints seriously, and take severe action against any harassment, verbal or non-verbal, and anti-social behaviour, towards our guests or team members. We collaborate with the police when needed. We take photos and videos which may include you to help promote the community in line with GDPR Data Protection law, as well as stock photos from Pexels or Unsplash. We may restrict or prioritize guests at our own discretion for safety, quality and logistics reasons. While our team's decisions may not be perfect we ask that you follow our decisions first and raise any disputes to discuss with us later and privately. By attending you understand, agree with and respect all terms of this disclaimer.

*Bookings available only via Footy Addicts (footyaddicts.com)* You can see full upcoming games list here: https://footyaddicts.com/football-games/women-london [!] We do not use Meetup to confirm the spots any more. --- - This is women only session - All level, abilities welcome - Book your spot online and come to play football THE GAME - Meet 10 minutes before kick-off, at the reception - Report at the reception you are coming for the Footy Addicts game and they will direct you to the right pitch - 3G artificial grass surface - You can wear boots, No metal studs - Changing rooms & Showers available - No parking available - Closest tube station is Wood Ln (Hammersmith & City Ln.) and White City (Central Ln.) stations GAME PLAY RULES - Goalkeepers: everybody is playing goalie. We rotate on goal every 6-7 minutes - 1 hour booking - You cannot score in the area - Any kind of aggressive behavior will NOT be tolerated - Make sure you are in a mood to have fun & on time IMPORTANT TO KNOW Everyone must play fair, respect their team-mates and opponents. MARK NO-SHOWS If for any reason you cannot make it to the game you need to modify your RSVP as soon as possible, in order to free your spot. In case you are in the attendance list and you do no turn up for the game, you will be marked as a No-Show.

**BOOK HERE**: https://sportas.co.uk/games/38061 **Game Description:** Please be aware that our sessions are also on our own mobile app. Therefore, the number of participants you currently see may not reflect the total number of participants. Elevate your volleyball skills at our Women's only adult coaching sessions! Led by expert coaches, our sessions cater to all levels, from beginners to experienced players. Develop your technique, agility, and teamwork through drills and gameplay. Join our vibrant community and unleash your full potential on the court. Let's play, learn, and excel together. **Rules** By booking this session, you acknowledge and agree to comply with our terms and conditions, privacy policies, and cancellation policy, which can be found below. Terms & Conditions at: https://www.littlegiantsvc.com/terms-and-conditions Privacy Policy at: https://www.littlegiantsvc.com/privacy-policy

Ciao ragazze! 🇮🇹 I’m organising a relaxed Italian girls meetup (age 30–40) for those of us living in London who would like to meet new friends and enjoy a classic Italian-style aperitivo together. 📍 We’ll meet at Vagabond in Victoria at 6:30pm for a glass of wine and some chats. The idea is simple: connect with other Italian women, have a drink, share stories about life in London, and enjoy a friendly atmosphere. After the aperitivo, if people feel like continuing the evening, we can stay around the Victoria area and go to a restaurant nearby — there are plenty of great options! This is a casual and welcoming meetup, whether you’ve just moved to London or have been here for years and want to create new meaningful connections. Looking forward to meeting you all and creating a little Italian community in London 🇮🇹✨ 📍 Location: Vagabond Victoria 🕡 Time: Saturday at 6:30pm 🍷 Just bring yourself and enjoy a glass of wine!

**In partnership with Nando's Women in Engineering** 🎉 **Celebrate IWD with the best women in tech and incredible food!** This International Women's Day, a number of London's most powerful women-in-tech communities are coming together for an unforgettable evening of inspiring talks, a delicious feast, a candid panel discussion, and genuine connection. Whether you're just starting your tech journey or leading engineering teams, this night is for **you**. **🚨 How to Join** Sign up for the event and **complete the registration form** via the [registration link](https://forms.gle/X5e9wWxgGuapz2CM9) including your dietary requirements, drink preferences, and community name. Please complete it **at least one week in advance** so we can make sure the evening runs smoothly (and the food is perfect for everyone). **🎤 Why You Should Attend** Female coding communities. One room. Incredible women. This is a rare chance to hear directly from practitioners and leaders who are shaping the future of tech, then talk to them over drinks. **What's On** 🍽️ **Feast & Drinks** \- because the best conversations happen over great food 🗣️ **Three Lightning Talks** * **[Sarika Sharma](https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarika-sharma-3b0a1117/?originalSubdomain=uk),** Technical Lead at Nando's & **[Katie Strong](https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-strong97/)**, Software Engineer at Nando's * **[Irina Pchelintseva](https://www.linkedin.com/in/irina-pchelintseva-a97ba7262/)**, Manager, Applied Machine Learning Engineering at Shopify * **[Elena Uzhegova](https://www.linkedin.com/in/uzhegovaelena/)**, Data Analytics & Governance Lead at Publicis **Panel Discussion: "Break the Pattern"** * **[Chantelle Coussey](https://www.linkedin.com/in/chantelle-coussey/)**, Product Manager at Nando's UK & IRE * **[Elena Uzhegova](https://www.linkedin.com/in/uzhegovaelena/)**, Data Analytics & Governance Lead at Publicis * **[Nonna Shakhova](https://www.linkedin.com/in/nonna-shakhova/)**, Senior Analytics Engineer at TrustedHousesitters 🎙️ **Panel Discussion** "Break the pattern" an honest, unfiltered conversation on navigating tech careers, representation, and what real inclusion looks like. 🤝 **Networking** to connect, exchange ideas, and find your next collaborator, mentor, or friend. **Event Agenda** * **18:00** Doors open * **18:30** Feast & drinks * **19:05** Opening & community announcements * **19:15** 3 x 15 Talks * **20:00** Drinks break * **20:30** Panel discussion "Break the pattern" * **21:00-22:00** Networking **About Women Coding Community** Empowering women in their tech careers through education, mentorship, community building, and career services. We run workshops and events, connect members with industry mentors, and champion more inclusive industry practices. [Website](https://www.womencodingcommunity.com) · [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/company/womencodingcommunity/) · [Slack](https://womencodingcommunity.slack.com) **👩🏽‍💻 Code of Conduct** At Women Coding Community we are committed to a vibrant, supportive community. All attendees are expected to follow our [Code of Conduct](https://womencodingcommunity.com/code-of-conduct) 📍 **Spots are limited - RSVP now and complete the registration form to secure your place!** A few things to note before you fill in the form: * Let us know your **dietary requirements** (vegetarian / meat / allergies) * Let us know which **community** you're coming from * Confirm your **photo consent** \- we'd love to capture the memories\! 📸 * **[Now fill the Registration form here](https://forms.gle/X5e9wWxgGuapz2CM9)**

**What this is** This is a relaxed, in-person speed dating night for women who want to meet other women without apps or awkward small talk. You’ll have short one-to-one chats that rotate every few minutes, followed by time to stay and talk with anyone you click with. Most women come on their own. That’s normal here. The format takes the pressure off and makes it easy to settle in, even if you’re a bit nervous at first. It’s a standing event with short conversations, followed by open social time. You don’t need to prepare anything or know what to say. You won’t be put on the spot, and you won’t be left awkwardly standing around. If you’ve been wanting to meet more women in real life, this is a good place to start. **How to attend** You must register in advance to attend. Register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/speed-dating-march/](www.thelcommunity.com/speed-dating-march/) The venue will be released on the week of the event. **Arriving and support** The booking is under the name Jenny. If you’re nervous, arriving alone, can’t find us, or have any difficulty at all, you can message at any point — days before, on the day, or during the event. If it helps, we can have someone come outside to meet you. **WhatsApp Jenny** WhatsApp only (calls or messages): **+44 7591 386019** Normal calls or texts won’t go through on this number. **Important** This is a female-only lesbian space. That boundary is clear and upheld at events. If that doesn’t work for you, this won’t be the right event. **Staying connected** Registering for an event is separate from joining the wider community. If you’d like to stay connected between events, access the private WhatsApp group, and join the wider network, you can register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/register](https://thelcommunity.com/register/)

**Location:** Outside The Oystercatcher (riverside entrance) Kings Lodge, 7 Victoria Parade, New Capital Quay, London, SE10 9FR *Look for the river-facing entrance near the seating area.* About a 8 minute walk from Greenwich DLR Station. **Event Description:** Join us for the first walk of the Greenwich Women’s Walking Group! This is a relaxed, friendly walking group for women aged 25–35 who want to enjoy fresh air, gentle exercise, and good conversation. We’ll stroll along the scenic riverside path at a casual pace, with plenty of time to chat and get to know each other. No fitness level is required, just bring comfy shoes, water, and a smile! Whether you’re new to the area, looking to make friends, or just want a calm and positive start to your weekend, you’re very welcome. Come along, meet like-minded women, and enjoy a gentle Saturday morning walk in beautiful Greenwich. **What to Bring:** * Comfortable shoes * Water * A friendly attitude **RSVP:** Sign up on Meetup so we know you’re coming! We can’t wait to meet you.

Join us to network and grab a drink or a meal. We will have a space dedicated for our group. Looking forward to seeing you! This months topic is The high achievers guide to the holidays!

**What this is** This is a relaxed, in-person speed dating night for women who want to meet other women without apps or awkward small talk. You’ll have short one-to-one chats that rotate every few minutes, followed by time to stay and talk with anyone you click with. Most women come on their own. That’s normal here. The format takes the pressure off and makes it easy to settle in, even if you’re a bit nervous at first. It’s a standing event with short conversations, followed by open social time. You don’t need to prepare anything or know what to say. You won’t be put on the spot, and you won’t be left awkwardly standing around. If you’ve been wanting to meet more women in real life, this is a good place to start. **How to attend** You must register in advance to attend. Register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/speed-dating-march/](www.thelcommunity.com/speed-dating-march/) The venue will be released on the week of the event. **Arriving and support** The booking is under the name Jenny. If you’re nervous, arriving alone, can’t find us, or have any difficulty at all, you can message at any point — days before, on the day, or during the event. If it helps, we can have someone come outside to meet you. **WhatsApp Jenny** WhatsApp only (calls or messages): **+44 7591 386019** Normal calls or texts won’t go through on this number. **Important** This is a female-only lesbian space. That boundary is clear and upheld at events. If that doesn’t work for you, this won’t be the right event. **Staying connected** Registering for an event is separate from joining the wider community. If you’d like to stay connected between events, access the private WhatsApp group, and join the wider network, you can register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/register](https://thelcommunity.com/register/)

**One quick note on how the community works** **L Community is member-funded.** The standard contribution is **£13 per month** to cover the platform, events, moderation, and safeguarding. If £13 isn’t workable for you right now, you can opt out for now. Support can be changed or cancelled at any time. Support the platform: [www.thelcommunity.com/back-us-now](www.thelcommunity.com/back-us-now) **What this is** A relaxed weekly night for drinks, conversation, and meeting other lesbian and bisexual women in real life. Women usually range from their 20s through to their 60s. Most weeks it’s a genuine mix of new faces and returning women, so you won’t be the only person arriving for the first time. Most people come on their own. That’s normal here, and we make sure you don’t feel it. Hosts introduce people, keep things flowing, and make it easy to settle in without pressure. There’s no requirement to drink, talk constantly, or impress anyone. You can arrive quietly, chat a bit, sit back, or leave early. All of that is fine. If you’re feeling nervous, you won’t be the only one. Many women feel that way before their first event and end up staying longer than they expected. **Important** This is a **female-only lesbian space**. That boundary is clear and upheld at events. If that doesn’t work for you, this won’t be the right event. **How to attend** You must register in advance to attend. Register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/meet-mingle/](https://thelcommunity.com/meet-mingle/) **Arriving and support** Table booking is under the name **Jenny**. If you’re nervous, arriving alone, can’t find us, or have any difficulty at all, you can message at any point — days before, on the day, or during the event. If it helps, we can have someone come outside to meet you. **WhatsApp Jenny** WhatsApp only (calls or messages): **+44 7591 386019** Normal calls or texts will not go through on this number. **Staying connected** Registering for an event is separate from joining the wider community. If you’d like to stay connected between events, access the private WhatsApp group, and join the wider network, you can register here: [www.thelcommunity.com/register](http://www.thelcommunity.com/register)

**Our March pick is *God of the Woods* by Liz Moore.** **This month’s novel is an award-winning literary mystery that blends family drama with psychological suspense. It explores women’s voices and relationships while delivering an exciting, eerie, and deeply suspenseful story. The book is 576 pages in print or 14 hours and 35 minutes on audiobook.** Early morning, August 1975: a camp counselor discovers an empty bunk. Its occupant, Barbara Van Laar, has gone missing. Barbara isn’t just any thirteen-year-old: she’s the daughter of the family that owns the summer camp and employs most of the region’s residents. And this isn’t the first time a Van Laar child has disappeared. Barbara’s older brother similarly vanished fourteen years ago, never to be found. As a panicked search begins, a thrilling drama unfolds. Chasing down the layered secrets of the Van Laar family and the blue-collar community working in its shadow, Moore’s multi-threaded story invites readers into a rich and gripping dynasty of secrets and second chances. It is Liz Moore’s most ambitious and wide-reaching novel yet.