Triggers, Boundaries & Better Relationships - New Mexico

Tuesday, October 13, 2026 | 6:30–8:00 PM Mountain Time
Online via Zoom | Free
Do you go quiet the moment you feel criticized?
Over-explain until the other person finally understands?
Pursue harder when someone pulls away - or pull away the moment someone gets too close?
Do it often enough, and a protective reaction can begin to feel like:
“That’s just who I am.”
Maybe.
Or maybe that’s how you learned to protect yourself.
A trigger can feel like proof that someone else is the problem. Sometimes they really are behaving badly. But the intensity of what happens inside you may also carry important information - about a boundary, an old fear, an unmet need, or a part of your own power you’ve learned not to use.
In this live, guided 90-minute workshop, relationship coach Aaron King will lead everyone through one recent, manageable trigger using a clear step-by-step process.
First, you’ll work privately with the questions as Aaron guides the group. Then, up to three volunteers will have the opportunity to explore their patterns more directly with Aaron. A fourth volunteer may be invited only if time allows.
Volunteering is entirely optional, and individual coaching is not guaranteed. You are welcome to participate quietly and keep your reflections private throughout the workshop.
The goal is not to excuse harmful behavior, blame yourself, force forgiveness, or convince you that you’re overreacting. It is to separate what actually happened from what your nervous system believed was happening - so you can decide what the moment really calls for.
The trigger is the bell - not the verdict.

### In this workshop, you’ll learn how to:

• Map one recent moment that got under your skin
• Separate what happened from the meaning your mind gave it
• Recognize your automatic protective reaction
• Understand what that reaction was trying to prevent or protect
• Distinguish a present-day boundary from an old pattern
• Choose one clearer, more self-trusting response

This process can be applied to romantic relationships, family, friendship, dating, and workplace dynamics - anywhere criticism, distance, rejection, control, silence, or uncertainty tends to activate you.

### RSVP and final confirmation required

Space is limited to 20 participants.
Because this event may have a waitlist, your initial RSVP holds a provisional place.
A final confirmation request will be sent through Meetup on Friday, October 9. To keep your place, reply CONFIRMEDby 6:30 PM Mountain Time on Sunday, October 11.
Unconfirmed RSVPs will then be removed so people on the waitlist have enough time to attend.
Please RSVP only if you reasonably expect to participate. If your plans change, update your RSVP to Not Going as soon as possible.

### Please bring

A notebook or journal and one recent situation that triggered a noticeable emotional reaction.
Choose something meaningful but manageable - ideally around a 4–6 out of 10, not your most overwhelming or traumatic experience.

### About Aaron

Aaron King is a Jungian relationship coach based in Taos, New Mexico. He helps people recognize recurring relationship patterns, strengthen boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and stop abandoning themselves to keep the peace.
His approach draws from Jungian shadow work, relational coaching, attachment-informed insight, and practical emotional-awareness tools. No prior experience is required.

### Important note

This is an educational and experiential workshop, not group therapy, crisis support, or a substitute for care from a licensed mental-health professional.
Participants are asked to respect confidentiality, speak from their own experience, and avoid diagnosing or giving unsolicited advice. As with any online group, complete confidentiality cannot be guaranteed, so share only what feels appropriate.

### Take the free Trigger Map Quiz