Knowing Your Relational, Emotional and Psychological issues

Addiction is not about substances or behaviours. It is about pain. It is about an emotional wound that was never healed, and that the mind tries to soothe through compulsive actions. Whether the addiction involves alcohol, drugs, food, shopping, gambling, internet, pornography, work or constant stimulation, the underlying mechanism is the same. A vulnerable part of the self feels alone, empty, frightened or unworthy, and the addictive behaviour becomes a way to escape the unbearable emotional state.
Through the lens of Schema Therapy, this webinar explores why addictions form, why they persist and why willpower alone is never enough. We uncover the schemas that sit beneath every compulsive behaviour, such as emotional deprivation, abandonment, defectiveness, mistrust, subjugation and impulsivity. These deep emotional patterns push the mind toward behaviours that offer short-term relief but long-term suffering.
You will learn how to recognise your personal cycle of addiction, how to understand the emotional moment in which the craving is born and how to reconnect with the part of you that needs care rather than punishment. With grounding practices, mirror-based exercises and clear psychological strategies, this session helps you move from self-attack to self-understanding, from shame to clarity and from compulsive relief to authentic healing.
This webinar is an invitation to meet that truth inside yourself and begin walking a new path. .

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# Programme

### 1. What addiction really is

• The emotional system behind compulsive behaviour
• Why addiction is a coping strategy, not a moral failure
• The moment the brain uses the behaviour to avoid pain
• Why shame fuels the cycle instead of stopping it

### 2. The roots of addiction in Schema Therapy

• Emotional Deprivation and the search for soothing
• Abandonment and the fear of being alone with emotions
• Defectiveness and Shame, and why addiction becomes self punishment
• Mistrust and Abuse, and the need to escape vulnerability
• Impulsivity and difficulty tolerating frustration

### 3. How addiction works in the brain and body

• The neurobiology of craving
• Why dopamine teaches the brain to repeat the behaviour
• How emotional flooding triggers compulsive urges
• Understanding the crash, the guilt and the cycle restarting

### 4. The three coping styles of addiction

• Surrender, when the behaviour feels stronger than you
• Avoidance, when you numb emotions and disconnect
• Overcompensation, when you chase stimulation to feel powerful or alive

### 5. Identifying your personal addiction cycle

• The trigger
• The emotional state
• The craving
• The behaviour
• The relief
• The collapse
• The guilt and shame
• The repetition

### 6. Healing the vulnerable self beneath the addiction

• Imagery to meet the part of you that feels empty or alone
• Reconnecting needs that were ignored or silenced
• Mirror-based exercises inspired by Mindful Interbeing Mirror Therapy
• How compassion breaks the cycle more than discipline

### 7. Learning new ways to soothe and stabilise

• Grounding techniques for moments of urge
• Creating emotional safety in the body
• Building routines that regulate the nervous system
• Rebuilding trust in yourself

### 8. Long-term change and relapse prevention

• Understanding that relapse is information, not failure
• How to strengthen the Healthy Adult part of the self
• How to ask for help and build a supportive network
• Integrating small daily actions that create freedom

### 9. Final experiential practice and Q&A

• Guided grounding to integrate the session
• Unrecorded Zoom space for questions and sharing

# The Psychology of Luck Workshop: a 2-day Workshop to start your Journey!

Friday 22 nd and Saturday 23 rd of MAY 2026

• Two-day structured Workshop
• 2+ hours lessons, 4+ hours practice (3 hours the first day and 3 hours the second day)
• Includes ebook and meditations
• Video recordings of the lessons (lifetime access)

Imagine spending two days discovering why some people seem to attract opportunities while others keep watching life pass by. Now imagine realising that the difference is not destiny, but patterns inside you that you can finally understand and transform. This workshop is where that shift begins.

## There are moments in life when you realise that information is no longer enough ...

There are moments in life when you realise that information is no longer enough.
You have read, listened, and watched. You have come to understand many things about yourself. And yet something inside remains stuck, repeating the same patterns, holding you in the same emotional landscape, keeping possibilities just out of reach.
This two-day workshop is designed for that moment. The moment when awareness must become transformation.
For years, people have asked why some individuals seem to meet opportunities at every corner while others feel invisible to luck. Traditional explanations point to talent, personality, or destiny. But clinical experience and scientific research reveal something far more powerful.
Your relationship with luck is shaped by deep emotional patterns, subconscious schemas and coping strategies learned long before you were aware of them.
These patterns determine what you notice, what you ignore, what you pursue and what you avoid. They shape your courage, your network, your capacity to risk, your willingness to act, and even your sense of deserving.
If you do not change these patterns, no amount of rational understanding will shift your life.
This workshop is an immersive experience designed to help you break that cycle.
Over two powerful days, you will peel back the layers of your internal system and discover the emotional architecture that has shaped your sense of possibility for years.
You will learn to see your mind clearly, and then to move it.

Why You Cannot Miss This Journey
This is not a lecture or a video. It’s a two-day immersion that brings clarity, direction, and the emotional shift most people chase for years.
If webinars opened your eyes, this workshop will open your life. It’s the beginning of a path that can truly change your trajectory.
If you feel even the smallest pull inside you, trust it. This is your moment.

1st Workshop Day

Understanding the Emotional Code of Your Luck
Friday, 27 February from 5:00 PM to 8:00 PM (UK Time)
The first day is a deep exploration of the schemas and coping modes that unconsciously block your opportunities. You will map the inner mechanisms that make you:

• Underestimate yourself
• Sabotage good things
• Disconnect from possibility
• Stay in relationships or environments that limit your growth
• Avoid risks that could change your trajectory
• Feel unworthy of success or visibility
• Repeat the same emotional story even when life offers something new

This day is a revelation. Most participants describe it as the moment in which their life narrative suddenly becomes coherent. You see the logic behind your patterns, the origin of your resistance, and the emotional forces that shaped your behaviours. You finally understand yourself fully and compassionately.

2nd Workshop Day

Transforming the Patterns and Expanding Your Capac
Saturday, 28 February from 5:00 PM to 8:00 PM (UK Time)
The second day marks the beginning of real change. Through guided experiential practices, imagery work, emotional processing, and targeted feedback, you learn how to:

• Soften the emotional blocks that keep luck away
• Open your attention to the signs and opportunities you normally do not perceive
• Cultivate a mindset that creates relational and professional possibilities
• Dismantle avoidance habits and replace them with micro-actions that change your trajectory
• Strengthen your ability to take healthy risks
• Break the identity of “I am not lucky” and replace it with a grounded, embodied sense of possibility
• Interrupt self-sabotaging patterns at the exact moment they arise
• Create emotional coherence between what you want and how you act

A bossy boss can change the entire atmosphere of a workplace. You may start doubting yourself, feel anxious before meetings, or lose your voice when you need it the most. Yet the problem is never only about the boss. It is about the emotional patterns inside you that get activated in the presence of authority, pressure and criticism.
This webinar explores how bossy behaviour interacts with your schemas and coping styles. We uncover why some people freeze, others collapse, others explode, and others work twice as hard to avoid conflict. Through the lens of Schema Therapy, we identify the patterns most often triggered by controlling or dismissive leaders, including subjugation, emotional deprivation, defectiveness, unrelenting standards and mistrust.
You will learn how to stay grounded when authority feels overwhelming, how to express your needs without fear, how to set boundaries that are respected and how to recover your confidence even in an aggressive environment. With practical tools, emotional grounding, and mirror-based practices, we explore not only how to survive under a bossy boss but also how to emerge stronger, clearer, and more in control of your own life.

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# Programme

### 1. Understanding bossy behaviour

• What bossiness really is
• How controlling leadership affects the nervous system
• Why humans react strongly to dominance
• The emotional cost of working under pressure

### 2. Schema Therapy and Authority Figures

• Subjugation schema and the fear of speaking up
• Emotional Deprivation and the need for validation from authority
• Defectiveness and Shame, and why criticism hurts so deeply
• Mistrust and Abuse schema triggered by aggressive leadership
• Unrelenting Standards and perfectionism under pressure

### 3. Your coping styles at work

• Surrender, when you give up your voice
• Avoidance, when you disconnect or numb emotions
• Overcompensation, when you fight, rebel or become rigid
• How to recognise the style you use most often

### 4. Why bossy bosses activate childhood patterns

• The link between early caregivers and current supervisors
• How old emotional memories shape workplace reactions
• Why your body responds before your mind
• Understanding emotional flooding in work situations

### 5. Regulating yourself in real time

• Grounding techniques to stay calm during conflict
• How to pause without shutting down
• Restoring access to logical thinking under pressure
• Reducing fear of criticism

### 6. Reclaiming your voice and setting boundaries

• How to express your needs clearly
• How to negotiate without aggression
• How to resist intimidation without escalation
• Learning assertiveness that does not feel dangerous

### 7. Mirror-based work to recover inner authority

• Meeting your vulnerable part that feels powerless
• Strengthening the Healthy Adult identity
• Developing internal stability even in unstable environments
• Mirror-based exercises inspired by Mindful Interbeing Mirror Therapy

### 8. Creating long-term emotional resilience

• How to rebuild confidence
• How to protect your emotional energy
• How to evaluate when the workplace is still healthy for you
• Integrating routines that strengthen psychological stability

### 9. Final guided practice and Q&A

• A grounding and clarity-focused experiential exercise
• Unrecorded Zoom space for sharing and questions

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