Building Healthy and Successful Routines to Live a Good Life

Most people do not fail because they lack motivation; they fail because something inside them quietly blocks the ability to create lasting routines. In this webinar, we explore exactly what those blocks are, how they form, and why they take control of your days without you even noticing. Healthy routines are not about forcing yourself; they are about understanding your emotional and psychological patterns and building a rhythm that supports your life instead of draining it. We look at the hidden mechanisms that break consistency, the stress responses that sabotage your intentions, and the schemas that push you to start strong and then collapse. Drawing from Schema Therapy, neuroscience and the real experience of thousands of people in CloseByYou, we identify the inner barriers that keep you stuck, and we show how to transform them into supportive forces. You will learn how to create routines that fit your mind, your emotions and your goals, and how small, consistent actions can change the quality of your life. This session gives you practical tools, clear direction and a grounded path to stability, wellbeing and success. And remember, you can watch all video recordings for free by registering at www.closebyyou.com.

### 1. Why routines fail even when motivation is high

• The invisible inner blocks that break consistency
• Why do you start with energy and collapse after a few days
• The emotional patterns that secretly control your behaviour
• How the nervous system reacts to change and why this matters

### 2. Understanding your psychological patterns

• The habits that drain your energy without you noticing
• The link between stress, avoidance and inconsistency
• How your emotional reactions shape your daily choices
• Why forcing yourself never works long-term

### 3. Schema Therapy and daily routines

• The schemas that sabotage healthy habits
• Failure
• Unrelenting Standards
• Emotional Deprivation
• Subjugation
• Approval Seeking
• How each schema influences motivation and follow-through
• Recognising the moment your schema takes over

### 4. The neuroscience of routines that last

• How habits form in the brain
• Why small steps work better than big intentions
• The role of repetition, safety and emotional grounding
• How to bypass resistance with a micro change

### 5. Identifying your real block

• Are you collapsing into avoidance or surrender
• Are you overcompensating with intensity
• Are you following a routine that does not match who you are
• How to discover what your mind truly needs to feel safe

### 6. Designing routines that support your emotional system

• How to create a rhythm your brain accepts
• How to match routines to your schemas and coping styles
• How to build a structure without pressure
• Examples of routines for stability, creativity and wellbeing

### 7. The CloseByYou method for lasting change

• Learning to work with yourself, not against yourself
• Practical strategies from real community experience
• How to find a balance between discipline and compassion
• How to build clarity through small, consistent actions

### 8. Daily tools for success

• Grounding practices you can use in 30 seconds
• Emotional reset techniques for difficult days
• The one per cent rule and how it transforms your mind
• How to use the mirror to stabilise your emotional state

### 9. Building a routine that changes your life

• How to keep going without collapsing
• How to recover after setbacks
• How to grow identity, direction and stability
• Moving from intention to action with confidence

### 10. Final experiential practice and Q and A

• Short grounding exercise to integrate your new routine
• Unrecorded Zoom session for sharing and questions