About us
Exploring connection, trust, desire, and understanding between women and men
Are you ready for a new conversation about gender; one that brings women and men together instead of pulling them apart?
Yin-Yang Talks on Gender, Culture & Relationships.. A vision of gender equality rooted in balance, respect, and partnership, not division.
This is not a therapy group. However, participants may find that a clearer understanding of modern gender dynamics naturally reduces confusion, stress, and conflict in their personal and professional lives.
By exploring how masculine and feminine energies interact across relationships, workplaces, and politics, the group offers practical insights. The result is a supportive, intellectually grounded space that often feels therapeutic because it helps members navigate real-world challenges with more confidence and clarity.
Based in Montreal, we offer a mix of in-person and online meetups so you can join from anywhere in the world.
MEETUP MODULES
Active links go to previous Meetups on our YouTube Channel or Gender Talks Substack:
- 🌗 History of Feminism: Historical roots of Anglo-American feminism and why it feels more confrontational. Introduction to how yin-yang balance, not dominance, can create healthier gender relations.
- 🇺🇸 American Feminism & How It Achieved Global Dominance: What is American Feminism? How the higher education system created the intellectual foundations of what is now known as Modern or American Feminism. How did it colonize feminist thought in the West and many other countries.
- 😂The Feminism of Feelings: Modern women suffer more mental illness than other generations. Ideology vs biology and Evolutionary Psychology.. The paradox of female desire.
- 👷🏼♂️ Men and Feminism: The male backlash: Simps, Incels, the Manosphere, Men's rights movements, Passport bros. Dialogue over demonization. How men can be equal while staying true to their masculinity and vice versa.
- 💞Male Female Relationships: Love, Marriage, Divorce, Fatherhood and Single Mothers. How the revolution in artificial intelligence will affect gender relations. Female Laughing Buddhas using humor and free speech to reduce conflict, How to rebuild healthy connections.
- 📌 Workplace Gender Relations: Sexual Harassment, MeToo. Walking on eggshells and the decline in dating and relationships at work. Yin socialism & Yang capitalism. Blending profit with social good. Conscious capitalism ventures benefiting women, men and communities.
- 💋 The Sexual Revolution: Sex-Positive Feminism. From shame to confidence and pleasure. Consent culture, the Sexual Revolution, politicized sexuality and sexual identity politics.
- ✊ Political Influence of American Feminism: What are some of the consequences of American feminism on hot-button social and political issues?
- 🌍 Global Consequences of American Feminism: The Effects on Subsaharan Africa, Muslim Dominant Countries, Europe and Elsewhere Across the Globe.
- 🌱 Eco & Spiritual Feminism: Healing the planet as we heal gender relations, environmental justice as feminist practice. Spiritual feminism Eastern Tantra. Shiva and Shakti
- ⚔️ Warrior WoMan & Defensive Power: From victim to warrior, resilience. Basic defense skills to reduce vulnerability. Women in the military.
- ⚖️ Yin-Yang Feminism: True equality & balance where both genders thrive in partnership. Global Feminism Success Stories: Scandinavia, Costa Rica, Bhutan, and the Philippines. Countries with cultural feminist philosophy where local forms of feminism strengthen social harmony while promoting equality in many areas of gender relations.
- 👩🎓👵 Generational Divides. Older and younger feminist divisions. Intergenerational relationships. Cougars for World Peace.
📖 Warrior WoMan: A Yin-Yang Path to Gender Equality Our online discussion group is based on this open-source book written with the help of volunteers from around the world. It is NOT required to buy this book to attend. However, it is a great companion to the Meetup.
About Your Host Mojo
A lifelong traveler, social entrepreneur, and writer, Mojo has lived and worked around the world, from Hawaii to Holland, Sweden to South Africa. In his travels he explored the connections between gender, community, relationships, politics and culture.
Mojo founded the Hedonisia Hawaii Ecofeminist Community which blended sustainability and eco-tourism with programs fostering gender equality. It operated successfully for 14 years until it was destroyed by the Kilauea volcano eruption in 2018. Mojo now lives part-time in Montreal, and Hawaii.
Practical Notes
The online Meetup Events will be on Montreal time (EDT or EST if Daylight Saving Time is in effect). Montreal is a beautiful vibrant city filled with a wide array of people and opinions living in a greater degree of harmony than many other cities with the same demographics. It is the base from which we are building this online community.
We’ll also host occasional in-person gatherings for those who want to connect face-to-face. They will be mostly in Montreal but also in Hawaii where the host, Mojo lives part-time.
Global Membership
The intention of this Meetup is to be global. Most events will be held online so you can join no matter where you live in the world.
For those who wish to discuss personal gender related questions in confidentiality, we offer Gender Healing Private Sessions.
✨ *If you’re curious, open-minded, and ready for meaningful conversation, join us to laugh, learn, and help shape a future where women and men thrive together.*✨
Upcoming events
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Workplace Gender Relations: From the Glass Cellar to Consent Culture
Montréal Cowork, 4388 rue Saint Denis, Montréal, QC, CACan workplace intimacy, mentorship, and organic romance survive in an era of legal anxiety and zero tolerance?
Join us for a provocative, data-backed, and engaging edition of the Gender Talks Meetup as we examine one of the most fraught battlegrounds in modern culture: Workplace Gender Relations.## 🌟 About This Event
Over the last several decades—and with renewed intensity post-#MeToo—our society built a massive legal and HR architecture designed to protect women from harassment at work. That goal was righteous and overdue.
However, in our attempt to eliminate bad actors, we’ve inadvertently altered the landscape of human connection:- Male managers are withdrawing: 60% of male managers report feeling uncomfortable mentoring, traveling with, or meeting one-on-one with female colleagues.
- Workplace romance has plummeted: Once the primary place where adults met long-term partners, workplace relationships have hit historic lows while adult singlehood surges.
- The office has become sterilized: Natural flirtation and social connection have been replaced by legal paranoia, fear of false accusations, and institutional suspicion.
In this talk, facilitator Mojo Mustapha takes on the uncomfortable questions sitting right at the fault line of corporate gender politics. Are we protecting women at the cost of isolating them? How do we balance legal safety with authentic human connection?
## 🔍 Inside the Conversation
- The Glass Ceiling vs. The Glass Cellar: Why modern gender discourse focuses obsessively on corporate boardrooms while remaining silent on the dangerous, dirty, blue-collar jobs (where men account for over 90% of workplace fatalities).
- Chris Rock’s Law & Attractiveness Bias: The uncomfortable social science showing how physical attraction dictates whether workplace advances are perceived as "charming flirting" or "creepy harassment."
- The "Pence Effect" & Mentorship Collapse: How expanding legal definitions of harassment have led to male withdrawal, ironically cutting women off from executive sponsorship.
- From Solidarity to Social Clique: Analyzing how #MeToo evolved from a vital movement exposing serial abusers into a puritanical "Mean Girls" culture of moral policing (and why 100 prominent French women pushed back).
- The "Ladies First" & Consent Culture Solution: How replacing corporate puritanism with sex-positive consent guidelines and female romantic initiation can dismantle predatory dynamics while restoring joy and romance to adult life.
## ⏰ Event Schedule
- 6:00 PM – 6:30 PM: Arrival, & Participant Introductions
- 6:45 PM – 7:30 PM: Feature Talk by Mojo Mustapha (with strategic question pauses)
- 7:30 PM – 8:00 PM: Open Q&A, Informal Networking & Socializing
## ☯️ Our Yin-Yang Discussion Guidelines
Gender Talks events are designed to be intellectually provocative without turning preachy, hostile, or ideological. We use a framework inspired by Taoist and Buddhist principles to keep the room grounded:
- The Observer Mind: Notice your emotional triggers during controversial arguments. Observe them before reacting.
- Loving Non-Attachment: Be willing to let go of needing to be "right." The goal is understanding, not winning a debate.
- Compassion + Accountability: Accountability without compassion becomes cruelty; compassion without accountability becomes indulgence.
- Generalizations with Awareness: Speak about broad patterns without turning them into rigid stereotypes.
- Humor Helps: Serious subjects don't always require solemnity.
## 🎙️ About Your Facilitator
Mojo Mustapha has spent over two decades exploring gender, culture, and social entrepreneurship. With a background in Women’s Studies and sociology, Mojo founded and directed the Hedonisia Hawaii EcoFeminist Community for 14 years, hosting over 3,000 international visitors and developing practical consent-culture frameworks. He is a writer, international traveler, and the founder of the Yin-Yang Gender Healing project, dedicated to creating balanced, honest dialogue between men and women.
## 👥 Who Should Attend?
This meetup is open to everyone; men, women, non-binary individuals, single people, couples, professionals, skeptics, and the curious. Whether you agree or disagree with the premise, you are welcome here as long as you bring an open mind and respect for your fellow attendees.
> "Perhaps true progress doesn't require men and women to treat each other as legal hazards. Perhaps it simply requires us to build enough maturity that warmth, respect, and connection can thrive without fear."
Space is limited to 5 people to ensure a good group discussion. Please RSVP to reserve your spot!
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