What we’re about
Welcome. I'm so glad you found us... Welcome to SMWSLT. Our group is alive and well and growing by leaps and bounds. We host both online and live events, mostly but not exclusively in the Orange County area.
As of 2022, I am now leading transformational groups to Greece twice a year. Please check out my travel website at lesbiangetaways.com for trip info. We still have space open for our two 2024 adventures in June and September! You can watch a video presentation on the home page if you like or email me anytime.
I have been so touched by the intimacy and connections that are being created ongoingly through our group interactions. Lots of close friendships and circles have been made and yes, even some romance! I try to mix it up and keep it interesting and I’m always open to new ideas and feedback. My commitment to every member is that there are no "outsiders" and all folks that identify as a woman loving women are welcome. I believe that the experience of feeling welcome and included is palpable in our group events whether live or on Zoom.
For FB users, please follow us (facebook.com/somanywomensolittletime/). If you would like to be part of our secret FB group or our So Cal Lesbian Pickleballers group, please email me at lesbiangetaways@gmail.com and let me know. Once in, you can invite your friends directly from there.
I would love it if you joined my mailing list. This separates out our special announcements from all the other meetup emails which can be overwhelming at times. The occasional emails will come from Lesbian Getaways. I ask that you please set your notifications at minimum to receive organizer messages and new event announcements. This has to be done while actually on our group site. You can find the settings by clicking on your round profile photo on the top right corner and select email and notifications.
I am so looking forward to meeting you whether it be online or in person when that time comes.
With Enthusiasm,
Your organizer, Jody
I have been asked many times when I will host another speed dating event since it's been years. Well, THAT TIME HAS COME! This is not your standard speed dating event. This is HIGH-TECH meaning you will answer a few questions ahead of time and then be matched with women who fit your criteria whenever possible!
IF YOU ARE INTERESTED, PLEASE READ ALL THE WAY TO THE BOTTOM!
How does it work? The Little Gay Book's innovative technology allows you to tailor your event experience. You share some information beforehand, including age range, where you fall on the masculine-feminine spectrum and what your preferences are, if any, for your date. Our algorithm then matches you with like-minded individuals, ensuring a more personalized experience compared to random speed dating. Throughout the night, you will receive text messages directing you to the table where your next encounter awaits.
You will have five minutes to connect and then complete a few quick questions on your phone asking if you are interested in getting to know that person more either as a friend or a date. The technology will track your responses and match you accordingly. You must match in both directions to receive their contact information and then, VIOLA!
I am thrilled to be having my first partnership with Dr. Frankie Bashan of the Little Gay Book! Collaboration is where it's at! They host a lot of speed dating events in many different areas geared toward various demographics. This means that we are both reaching out to our crowds to draw in the perfect combination of participants, some you may know but lots you may not. That's the beauty of it.
I know that some of you say that you do not want to date for a variety of reasons and that you are perfectly happy alone. I say good for you. Nothing wrong with that. However, you can still come to make new connections and grow your community of friends, acquaintances and perhaps even for the purpose of business networking.
Having a few quality minutes with someone can give you a good sense of the person in front of you and whether you feel comfortable and have any common interests and values. If you are a feeling person, you can check out the vibe between you as well. Personally, I get just as excited meeting someone I really hit it off with, even if I am only interested in them as a friend. All relationships have to start somewhere, right? That attitude is a great way to approach this event.
This is a perfect event for those that are shy and feel awkward milling about in large groups because it is structured and everyone is there for the same reasons. I will make this fun and entertaining and on top of that, you will be enthusiastically greeted at the door and introduced around before we event start. You can show up early when the doors open at 6pm if you want some time to relax and warm up so to speak. COME ON....TAKE A CHANCE! Worse case scenario, you will have a fun evening, get some dancing in and go home!
Upstairs at the Executive Suite is an excellent venue for speed dating. It is spacious and the lighting is perfect. Your tickets gets you free entrance to the drag show at 9pm and dancing after that!
TICKETS: $35 in advance, $45 at the door
CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE YOUR EVENTBRITE TICKET
RSVPing here does not give you entrance. You must purchase your ticket on Eventbrite.
SCHEDULE
6:00-6:30 pm Doors open- registration, intros, mingling, buy drinks
6:30-8:30 - Speed dating starts (please arrive by 6:15)
8:30-9:00 - Relax, unwind, visit (optional)
9:00-10:00 - Drag Show (optional)
10:00 on - Dancing (optional)
Please arrive at 6pm to allow for parking, grabbing a drink and registration which could take some time depending on how long the line is. We would appreciate it if you do not come at the last minute so we don't disrupt the event.
FAQ:
Q: How can I connect with my matches after the event?
A: After the event, you'll receive the contact information for your matches, giving you the opportunity to take those promising connections to the next level.
Q: What should I do after the event ends?
A: We encourage you to stay after the event, mingle, and support the venue. It's a chance for great conversations, new friendships, and connections that continue on after our event is over. Sticking around can make the experience even more memorable.
Q: Are there any specific guidelines for attendees?
A: Yes, these collaborative speed dating events are open to lesbian, bisexual, nonbinary, and genderqueer women including trans women.
SCHEDULE
6:00 pm Doors open- casual introductions and mingling, registration
6:30-8:30 - Speed dating starts
8:30-9:00 - Relax, unwind, visit (optional)
9:00-10:00 - Drag Show (optional)
10:00 on - Dancing (optional)
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- FREE! Lesbian Dating & Love Over 60Link visible for attendees
This is a cross post with Conscious Girlfriend Academy. Happy to share the invitation with you to this exciting event!!
If you're over 60 and single, wondering how to get started dating... or not sure another relationship is in the cards for you... or still hurting from a breakup or from the loss of your partner, wondering about opening your heart again... or afraid that health, money or geography will block you from love... Join us for a free live class to kick off our all-new four-week intensive, Lesbian Dating & Love Over 60: Your Time Is Now.
The class will be recorded, and we will make the replay available (technology willing), but do come live for the best experience! Open to all self-identified woman and adjacent non-binary people.
Free Zoom registration here for the free class on April 26 -- and, read more below about our upcoming 4-week series on this topic!
***About the upcoming Lesbian Dating & Love Over 60+ Course starting May 3 (learn more in the free class OR or on the page below***
Lesbian Dating & Love Over 60 (4-Week Class)
Friday, 1:00-3:00 p.m., May 3, 10, 17 & 24, 2024
2:00 MT, 3:00 CT, 4:00 ET, 22:00 GMT, and 7:00 a.m. AEDT
The stakes are higher.
You know you won't be around forever.
You want love in your life,
but you sometimes wonder:
Is it too late for me?
Is the right woman for me even out there?
Would anyone still want me?
Am I even capable of a healthy relationship?
Are all the good ones taken?
Where would I even begin to look?
If you feel like you're searching for a needle in a haystack, it's tempting to give up.
If you're not sure you trust your "picker," or your relationship skills, it can feel like it's not worth it to try.
Yet the dream won't die.
More details here.
Who are we, and how did we come to be offering this free class? The Conscious Girlfriend Academy is the leading resource helping women and non-binary people in 25+ countries around the world to find and create the lesbian relationships of our dreams. Visit our site to download the first four chapters of our Amazon best-selling book, Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, here, and learn more about our life-changing on-demand and live-on-Zoom classes. - Narcissists, Empaths,& Unavailable Women (And Lesbian Attachment Healing)Needs location
Free Class: Narcissists, Empaths, & Unavailable Women (And Lesbian Attachment Healing)
April 26, Saturday, 1:00-2:30 p.m.
2:00 MT, 3:00 CT, 4:00 ET, 22:00 GMT, and 7:00 a.m. AEDT
Join us for an all-new look at some of the topics closest to our hearts, some of the most painful patterns lesbian relationships can fall into, and how to rewrite your relationship scripts so that you never find yourself in this kind of pain again. Free to all self-identified woman and adjacent non-binary people.
Visit this page for more information and the free Zoom registration link
What is "Lesbian Attachment Healing," and why should it matter to you?
Lesbian relationships can be the best relationships on the planet. But, two women can also hurt each other very badly... and this class will help you understand why that can happen.
Can You Relate To Any Of These Painful Statements?
"Everything was going great, and then she ghosted me."
"Why does it seem like I always pick the wrong people?"
"When someone gets too close, I get scared I'm going to mess it up."
"I'm attracted to unavailable women."
"I'm drawn to independent women, but then they end up getting clingy."
"She seemed so into me at first, but then she started pulling away."
"Why do relationships have to be so hard?"
The sad truth is, lesbians are often great at falling in love, but our divorce rates are 3X higher than those of other couples. And few people realize that the #1 reason for lesbian breakups and divorces... is attachment wounding.
What is attachment wounding? It's the push-pull between one person whose biggest fear is losing the relationship...and another person whose biggest fear is losing herself. Between one person who just needs more closeness to feel safe... and her girlfriend, who just needs more space. Or one person who needs to talk things through right away, and the other who needs to take a break. Or one woman who wants more time and affection, and another woman who finds her heart closing up, even if she's not sure why. Attachment wounding is behind all this.
The interplay of each person's attachment wounding creates a domino effect. You've been there, right? I sure have. The more I needed, the more overwhelmed my girlfriend felt. Or, the more bonded she got, the more pressured I felt. Pretty soon, both people feel unseen, unheard, and unloved. It's excruciating.
"I just need to know you still care about me. I need to be a priority," says one person. "You're the person I love most in the world. This is a normal thing to want."
"I just need to feel myself again. How can I care about you when I've lost touch with myself? I feel overwhelmed, like I'm drowning in the relationship," says the other. "I just need to get some air."
From either side, it can be easy to blame your partner. "She's got abandonment issues." "She's just scared of intimacy." But blaming doesn't help.
Some of us blame ourselves, too. "What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so needy?" "Am I a terrible person? Why do I shut down and break so many women's hearts?"
The answers lie in understanding, and then healing, your attachment wounds, so you can actually have a sturdy, resilient, flexible, enduring bond. This groundbreaking 4-week class, the first of its kind ever offered specifically for lesbians++, will teach you what to do so that your heart can heal, and your next (or current) love story can have a happy ending.
This course will give you the path forward toward healthy love...
whether you're single, in a relationship but taking the class on your own, or taking it as a couple.
Lesbian Attachment Healing
Saturday, 1:00-3:00 p.m., May 4, 11, 18 & 25, 2024
(2:00 MT, 3:00 CT, 4:00 ET, 9:00 GMT)
A Transformational Live-On-Zoom 4-Part Class
Who are we, and how did we come to be offering this class? Based in the U.S., the Conscious Girlfriend Academy has become the leading global resource helping women and non-binary people create the lesbian love lives we want. Women from 25 countries have taken our classes! Visit our website to learn more and download the first four chapters of our Amazon bestselling book, Conscious Lesbian Dating and Love, free. - Intro to free Masterclass - Building Wealth is a Woman's Right!Link visible for attendees
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Jennifer and Brenda have been taking women on this journey to financial empowerment for years. If you are ready to build wealth, visit our website at www.moneyanddesire.com
- Let's Read... Four StepsLink visible for attendees
Hello book lovers! Let’s read and discuss – Four Steps by Wendy Hudson. Alex Ryan lives a simple life. She has her farm in the Scottish countryside, and the self-imposed seclusion suits her until a crime that has haunted her for years tears through the calm and shatters the fragile peace she'd finally managed to find.
Lori Hunter's greatest love is the mountains. They're her escape from the constant hustle and bustle of everyday life. Growing up was neither traditional nor easy for Lori, but now she's beginning to realise she's settled for both. A dead-end relationship and little to look forward to. Her solution when the suffocation sets in? Run for the hills.
A chance encounter in the mountains of the Scottish Highlands leads Alex and Lori into a whirlwind of heartache and a fight for survival as they build a formidable bond that will be tested to its ultimate limits.
364 Pages. (8 hours and 35 minutes on audio.) Plan accordingly.
Facing the past takes great strength. - Jo Jo
NOTES FOR MEETING
Please be prompt, at 6:30 pm Pacific, and plan to stay until we close out as a group or at 8:00 pm Pacific. We open with a short icebreaker within a few minutes of the start time, which is great for getting to know one another better. Arriving late or leaving early “individually” can distract the group discussion, so arriving on time and staying until 8:00 pm Pacific, is appreciated. We do occasionally stay later but if you need to bow out then, no worries. And…we could finish early. (Early has not happened, but I am just saying it could. Lol.)
* It is a social event so please have your video ON. It is also for transparency and peace of mind for all our members in this Zoom world.
WHERE: Zoom - Attendees will receive a private link and password on the day of the event. I will post a comment when I have sent it. Please do not share or post the link or your password.Make sure your Meet Up notification setting for email is on for this group. (If you saw this book discussion announced via email, your setting is on. ;))
WHAT TO BRING
Bring your sweet self, any notes you want to share, and your favorite beverage. :)- YES RSVPs, if you can't make it, please take a moment to change your RSVP to NOT GOING asap. It is just a courteous thing to do. :)
** If you are new to Zoom, watch this video. Make sure to watch the video to the end. (A little over 5 minutes.) A senior does a great job of showing the various items you will want to know about. It is easy! Really. https://youtu.be/kh50kVaIdAY