Getting Unstuck from Your Story (in-person event)

Question for you, Bolder Woman:

What’s the one thing that’s had the biggest influence on shaping your life, and continues to shape it today?

Your parents? Where you grew up? The experiences you’ve been through?

While all of those undoubtedly had a significant impact on your life, there’s one factor that supercedes all of them: the stories you tell yourself about those influences.

To illustrate my point, I’m going to use a true story relayed by the motivational speaker, Earl Nightingale, in one of his audio recordings. It goes like this:

Two sons of a raging alcoholic father were interviewed by a psychologist. One son was a straight arrow; had his life together and was enjoying the success of living a generally responsible life. The other son was a hopeless alcoholic like his Dad.

Both sons were asked this question in separate interviews: Why do you think you turned out the way you did? And to the psychologist’s surprise, both sons gave the exact same answer: “What would you expect when you have a father like mine?”

The point is this: we think it’s the circumstances in our lives that led us to where we are today, but in reality, it’s often our thoughts and stories about those circumstances.

While that can be tough medicine to swallow, here’s the good news: stories can be rewritten.

And that’s what our next meeting is about!

In September we kicked off our end-of-the-year series and worked on dialing in our desires for 2024. This month we’re continuing that series and taking a look at the stories that get in the way of bringing those deepest desires to life.

We all have disempowering stories we tell ourselves. Whether it’s around money…relationships…our careers…our health…or some other key area, we have a story on repeat about why we haven’t achieved and can’t achieve the level of success or harmony we’d like.

And that story sits in our mind as truth. But is it really?

In this meeting, you’ll take the time to put that story under a microscope and see if you can shift your perspective on it. You’ll then have the opportunity to dream about the new story you want to tell in 2024. (I’ll have a funsheet to help walk you through this part!)

After some time for personal introspection, we’ll break into small groups and discuss questions, like these:

• How does your old story make you feel? What happens in your body when you tell this story?

• What’s the benefit you’ve received from holding on to this story?

• What’s not possible in your life when you believe this story? What's it costing you?

• How does your new story make you feel? What happens in your body when you tell this story?

• Why is this new story important to you? What would be possible in your life if you fully believed this story?

• Imagine you’re in a situation where you would normally tell your old story - either to yourself, your best friend, or someone else. For example, maybe you ate an entire family-size bag of chips instead of doing that workout you said you’d do…or you overdrew your checking account again…or the person you’re dating turns out to be the same kind of manipulative jerk as the last 3 people you’ve dated.

Based on where you’re headed with your new story, how can you explain your behavior in a more empowering way? Think of this as a stepping stone to fully embodying your new story.

• What are some practices, tools, or resources you can use to help make your new story your reality in 2024?

As always, come ready to get real…hold space…and discover some transformative insights with your fellow Bolder Women!

I can’t wait to see you there!

With Passion and Purpose,
Terra

Suggestions for What To Bring:

• Notebook and pen
• Water Bottle
• Business Cards
• Protein Bar or other snack if you think you might get hungry

A Note About Our Location:

We are gathering in the Porch Light Real Estate office, which is on the second floor of the Chase Bank building on Arapahoe, between Folsom and 28th St.

Use the door that has the ATM next to it. The door faces Nothing Bundt Cakes. Go to the second floor and follow the hallway around to suite 210.
If the main door to the bank is locked, we will either have someone there letting people in, or there will be a sign with a number you can call to notify us that you’re here.