About us
Open Relationship
Open the patterns behind how we connect.
A small, judgment-free community for curious people who want to understand themselves and their relationships a little deeper.
We have honest, relaxed conversations about the patterns, emotional triggers, and blind spots that shape how we connect—with partners, friends, family, and ourselves. The Enneagram is our practical lens, but you don’t need to know anything about it to join.
Each meetup explores a different real-life relationship question, with plenty of space to share experiences, exchange perspectives, and learn from one another.
You can also join our optional Enneagram card game or try the test on my website to explore your own type and patterns in a fun, low-pressure way.
Hosted by a certified Enneagram coach out of a genuine passion for self-understanding and meaningful connection.
No lectures. No selling. No pressure. Just real conversations and better connection.
Upcoming events
4
Open Relationship EP7: Divorce… failure or lesson?
Dhoby Ghaut MRT Station, 11 Orchard Rd, Singapore 238826, Singapore, SGEP#07: Divorce: A Failure or a Lesson?
Why is there still so much stigma around divorce, and what can it teach us about relationships?
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- Why does society stigmatize divorce?
- Why is it so often seen as a failure?
- When can divorce feel like a trauma, a lesson, or both?
- What does research say about why relationships end and what helps them last?
Come with a real-life situation, a question, or simply your curiosity. Sharing is always optional, and you’re welcome to just listen.
Each episode explores a different real-life question about relationships, emotional patterns, and how we connect, using Enneagram archetypes as a lens.
Venue
Dhoby Ghaut area.
The exact venue will be shared with RSVP’d attendees only.Who it’s for
Curious minds who want a safe, open space to talk about relationships, whether or not you’ve been through a divorce.What to expect
- A small-group conversation with people in their 20s to 50s. We want to hear stories from every stage of life!
- A brief introduction to the Enneagram as a lens for our discussion
- Space to explore real-life situations related to the topic
- Optional, unofficial Enneagram typing with my Q&A card game, or try the free test on my website to get a rough idea of your type
Your host
A psychology and neuroscience nerd, certified Enneagram coach, and creator of a personality retreat, who is always curious about human nature :)
No lectures. No selling. No pressure. Just real conversations.Ground rules
- Respect is non-negotiable.
- What’s shared in the group stays in the group, and the host may remove anyone who treats other attendees disrespectfully.
- This is a peer discussion, not therapy, legal advice, or crisis support. If you need more support, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service.
8 attendees
Open Relationship: EP#08: Loving Someone While Losing Ourselves...?
Dhoby Ghaut MRT Station, 11 Orchard Rd, Singapore 238826, Singapore, SGEP#08: Loving Someone While Losing Ourselves...?
Have you ever believed that if you did everything for someone, they would love you back the way you wanted... only to realise you were losing yourself?
When does giving in love become giving yourself away?
In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- Why do some of us lose ourselves when we fall in love?
- What’s the difference between compromise and self-abandonment?
- How do people-pleasing and fear of losing someone shape the way we love?
- How can we stay close to someone without disappearing in the relationship?
Come with a real-life situation, a question, or simply your curiosity.
Each episode explores a different real-life question about relationships, emotional patterns, and how we connect, using Enneagram archetypes as a lens.
A special episode
This time, the conversation will be hosted by four of our regular attendees: Ash, Terry, Sheila and Ernest. They each bring a different perspective, and together they create a warm, balanced space for honest conversation.Venue
Dhoby Ghaut area. The exact venue will be shared with RSVP’d attendees only.Who it’s for
Curious minds who want a safe, open space to talk about relationships, whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship.What to expect
- A small-group conversation with people in their 20s to 50s. We want to hear stories from every stage of life!
- A brief introduction to the Enneagram as a lens for our discussion
- Space to explore real-life situations related to the topic
- Curious about your type? Try the free test on the Unbound Chapter website to get a rough idea before or after the session
No lectures. No selling. No pressure. Just real conversations.
Ground rules
- Respect is non-negotiable.
- What’s shared in the group stays in the group, and the hosts may remove anyone who treats other attendees disrespectfully.
- This is a peer discussion, not therapy or crisis support.
- If you need more support, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service.
6 attendeesOpen Relationship: EP#09- trauma bond & toxic relationship
Dhoby Ghaut MRT Station, 11 Orchard Rd, Singapore 238826, Singapore, SGTopic of EP#09 - trauma bond & toxic relationship
Do we really love that person, or are we just choosing what feels familiar?
Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship? Could we be addicted to the toxicity without realizing it?
In this episode, we’ll discuss the psychology behind why we choose love that hurts us and why it can be so hard to walk away.
Come with a real-life situation, a question, or simply your curiosity. Sharing is always optional, and you’re welcome to just listen.
Each episode explores a different real-life question about relationships, emotional patterns, and how we connect, using Enneagram archetypes as a lens.
Venue
Dhoby Ghaut area. The exact venue will be shared with RSVP’d attendees only.Who it’s for
Curious minds who want a safe, open space to talk about relationships.What to expect
- A small-group conversation with people in their 20s to 50s. We want to hear stories from every stage of life!
- A brief introduction to the Enneagram as a lens for our discussion
- Space to explore real-life situations related to the topic
- Optional, unofficial Enneagram typing with my Q&A card game, or try the free test on my website to get a rough idea of your type
Your host
A psychology and neuroscience nerd, certified Enneagram coach, and creator of a personality retreat, who is always curious about human nature :)
No lectures. No selling. No pressure. Just real conversations.Ground rules
- Respect is non-negotiable.
- What’s shared in the group stays in the group, and the host may remove anyone who treats other attendees disrespectfully.
- This is a peer discussion, not therapy or crisis support.
- If you’re in an unsafe situation or need more support, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service.
3 attendeesOpen Relationship: EP#10- Letting Go of Them, and Our Old Patterns
Dhoby Ghaut MRT Station, 11 Orchard Rd, Singapore 238826, Singapore, SGBefore our new chapters begin in 2027, let’s look back on how far we’ve come in love and relationships, let go of what no longer serves us, and step into the new year with a fresh perspective.
EP#10: Letting Go to Love Better
Can we really let go of someone we still love?
And can we let go of our old patterns to make room for a healthier love?In this episode, we’ll talk about:
- Why is it so hard to let go of someone, even when we know it’s right?
- What does letting go actually look like, and does it mean we stop caring?
- Why do we keep repeating the same patterns with different people?
- How can we break old patterns and start a new, better kind of love?
Come with a real-life situation, a question, or simply your curiosity.
Each episode explores a different real-life question about relationships, emotional patterns, and how we connect, using Enneagram archetypes as a lens.
Venue
Dhoby Ghaut area. The exact venue will be shared with RSVP’d attendees only.Who it’s for
Curious minds who want a safe, open space to talk about relationships, whether you’re healing from a breakup, holding on, or ready to start fresh.What to expect
- A small-group conversation with people in their 20s to 50s. We want to hear stories from every stage of life!
- A brief introduction to the Enneagram as a lens for our discussion
- Space to explore real-life situations related to the topic
- Optional, unofficial Enneagram typing with my Q&A card game, or try the free test on my website to get a rough idea of your type
Your host
A psychology and neuroscience nerd, certified Enneagram coach, and creator of a personality retreat, who is always curious about human nature :)
No lectures. No selling. No pressure. Just real conversations.Ground rules
- Respect is non-negotiable.
- What’s shared in the group stays in the group, and the host may remove anyone who treats other attendees disrespectfully.
- This is a peer discussion, not therapy or crisis support.
- If you need more support, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service.
2 attendees
Past events
6
