What we’re about
A group for thoughtful people navigating modern decision-making in a world full of noise, tools, systems, and overwhelm.
Led by Emily Pabst, ChoiceTech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules, these gatherings explore how we make decisions—big and small—when we’re inundated with information, options, algorithms, and outdated advice.
This group is a space to slow down, think more clearly, and explore better ways of navigating modern life—without optimization culture, hustle rhetoric, or performative self-improvement.This group is for you if you’re:
- Tired of burnout cycles, app fatigue, or constant decision overwhelm
- Stuck between too many options and not enough movement
- Doing everything “right” on paper, but still feeling off
- Curious about decision-making, technology design, or systemic pressure
- Interested in understanding why things feel hard before trying to fix them
What We Explore Together
Meetups and discussions may touch on topics like:
- Decision fatigue & choice overload
- ChoiceTech (how apps, platforms, and tools shape decisions)
- App dysfunction and digital overwhelm
- Information overload in work, dating, and daily life
- Hybrid human-tech decision systems
- Choice inflation and disappearing defaults
- Making decisions with more confidence without chasing “perfect” outcomes
Events range from relaxed social gatherings to lightly structured discussions to educational lectures and workshops. Some events are monthly; others are occasional or quarterly.
The common thread: learning how to remake our decision-making for the world we’re actually living in.
If you’re looking for a thoughtful, human-centered community that takes modern complexity seriously—this space is for you.
Learn more about the broader work behind this group at remaketherules.com.
Featured event
Love in the Time of Dating Apps: Uncertainty and the Information Age
Dating apps promise more access, more options, and more information than ever before. So why does dating often feel so much worse?
This first session in the Love in the Time of Dating Apps series explores uncertainty as the defining condition of modern dating in the Information Age. Rather than offering dating tips, scripts, or generic "fixes", this class zooms out to examine the environment we’re dating inside and why it asks so much more of our attention, interpretation, and decision-making capacity. And what can be done about it.
Led by Emily Pabst, ChoiceTech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules, this session draws on information science, decision-making strategy, and human-centered technology to make sense of why uncertainty lingers longer today, why more information doesn’t necessarily lead to clarity, and why feeling stuck or unsure is often a rational response to our present predicament.
Who is this for?
This class is designed for people who are currently on the apps, thinking about starting or restarting, or just trying to understand why dating and daily decision making feels harder than expected. It is intentionally dating-goal, orientation, and identity agnostic—focusing instead on how decisions get shaped, not what or who you should be aiming for. Expect a nerdy and ultimately hopeful conversation along with interactive moments to reflect privately on your own experience.
This session is part of a five-part, monthly series that looks at modern dating through the lens of uncertainty, choicetech, information overload, choice inflation, and decision fatigue. Each class stands on its own, but together they offer a deeper framework for understanding and reshaping how you relate to dating apps and how they are either helping or hindering your search for connection.
A sliding scale, suggested contribution of $5-$35 is requested for this event. Your contribution helps cover the costs involved in creating thoughtful, accessible programming and supports the continuation of this series. No one will be turned away for inability to pay.
If you’re curious, reflective, and interested in understanding how modern systems shape your dating life, this session is for you.
Upcoming events
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Meet People Who Are Also Figuring It Out
BarFly at the Alamo, 4255 W Colfax, Denver, CO, USA relaxed gathering for people navigating modern life, dating, careers, creativity, decision-making, or whatever feels oddly unfinished right now.
This is a low-pressure social event for curious, thoughtful people who are trying to make sense of things and who enjoy a mix of humor, reflection, and “what even is going on anymore.”
Whether you’re new to Denver, new to decision confusion, or just tired of being smart and stuck at the same time, you’re welcome here.
What to expect:
If you're running late, don't worry, you're still welcome to join.
6:00 PM – Arrive, say hi, sign in, grab a name tag (with the decision you’ve been laboring over lately), and get a drink or snack from the bar.
6:15ish PM – Group introductions. We’ll go one-by-one, sharing who we are and what we’re currently trying to figure out.
After intros – Mingle, chat, and brainstorm with the people—and the questions—you resonated with most.
This is an in-person, recurring gathering designed to be something you can come back to as life evolves.
Hosted by Remake The Rules, a Denver-based practice focused on modern decision-making and navigating an information-saturated world.7 attendees
Navigating the Noise: A Gathering for Healthcare Professionals
BarFly at the Alamo, 4255 W Colfax, Denver, CO, USA gathering for people working inside one of the most complex decision and information environments in modern life.
This in-person Denver meetup is for healthcare professionals navigating overlapping technologies, contradictory requirements, and constant demands for precision, all while still trying to provide excellent care.
Healthcare is confusing. Every day, you’re making decisions inside systems shaped by EHRs, documentation rules, insurance constraints, scheduling software, clinical guidelines, patient expectations, and operational tradeoffs. This meetup is for anyone who has ever thought:
“Why is this so much harder than it needs to be?”
Whether you’re clinical, administrative, operational, public health, or somewhere in between, you’re invited to gather with people who understand what it means to work inside high-stakes, high-complexity, low-clarity systems.
### Why This Space Exists
This meetup creates room to talk openly about what it’s like to navigate these environments without slipping into doom, cynicism, or burnout rhetoric. It’s a space for connection, shared insight, and the realization that you’re not the only one trying to make sense of all of this.
### What to Expect
A relaxed, human-centered, lightly structured evening:
- Casual arrivals and warm conversation
- A short welcome about decision-making in complex systems
- Introductions with a gentle prompt, such as:
- What’s one decision at work that shouldn’t be this hard?
- Where do you experience the biggest information bottleneck?
- What tool or workflow do you wish you could redesign?
- Open time for connecting and comparing experiences
This is not a networking event in the traditional sense. It’s a place to be human in a system that rarely slows down long enough for people to hear each other.
Hosted by Remake The Rules, a Colorado-based practice focused on modern decision-making and navigating information-saturated, high-stakes environments.3 attendeesLove in the Time of Dating Apps: Uncertainty and the Information Age
Bob Ragland Branch Library, 1900 35th Street, Suite A, 80216, Denver, CO, USDating apps promise more access, more options, and more information than ever before. So why does dating often feel so much worse?
This first session in the Love in the Time of Dating Apps series explores uncertainty as the defining condition of modern dating in the Information Age. Rather than offering dating tips, scripts, or generic "fixes", this class zooms out to examine the environment we’re dating inside and why it asks so much more of our attention, interpretation, and decision-making capacity. And what can be done about it.
Led by Emily Pabst, ChoiceTech Consultant and Coach and founder of Remake The Rules, this session draws on information science, decision-making strategy, and human-centered technology to make sense of why uncertainty lingers longer today, why more information doesn’t necessarily lead to clarity, and why feeling stuck or unsure is often a rational response to our present predicament.
Who is this for?
This class is designed for people who are currently on the apps, thinking about starting or restarting, or just trying to understand why dating and daily decision making feels harder than expected. It is intentionally dating-goal, orientation, and identity agnostic—focusing instead on how decisions get shaped, not what or who you should be aiming for. Expect a nerdy and ultimately hopeful conversation along with interactive moments to reflect privately on your own experience.
This session is part of a five-part, monthly series that looks at modern dating through the lens of uncertainty, choicetech, information overload, choice inflation, and decision fatigue. Each class stands on its own, but together they offer a deeper framework for understanding and reshaping how you relate to dating apps and how they are either helping or hindering your search for connection.
A sliding scale, suggested contribution of $5-$35 is requested for this event. Your contribution helps cover the costs involved in creating thoughtful, accessible programming and supports the continuation of this series. No one will be turned away for inability to pay.
If you’re curious, reflective, and interested in understanding how modern systems shape your dating life, this session is for you.11 attendeesMeet People Who Are Also Figuring It Out
BarFly at the Alamo, 4255 W Colfax, Denver, CO, USA relaxed gathering for people navigating modern life, dating, careers, creativity, decision-making, or whatever feels oddly unfinished right now.
This is a low-pressure social event for curious, thoughtful people who are trying to make sense of things and who enjoy a mix of humor, reflection, and “what even is going on anymore.”
Whether you’re new to Denver, new to decision confusion, or just tired of being smart and stuck at the same time, you’re welcome here.
What to expect:
If you're running late, don't worry, you're still welcome to join.
6:00 PM – Arrive, say hi, sign in, grab a name tag (with the decision you’ve been laboring over lately), and get a drink or snack from the bar.
6:15ish PM – Group introductions. We’ll go one-by-one, sharing who we are and what we’re currently trying to figure out.
After intros – Mingle, chat, and brainstorm with the people—and the questions—you resonated with most.
This is an in-person, recurring gathering designed to be something you can come back to as life evolves.
Hosted by Remake The Rules, a Denver-based practice focused on modern decision-making and navigating an information-saturated world.3 attendees
Past events
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